Enneagram Type And Wing 2W1 Forum Post

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Pretty_Butterfly 5/12/2024 2:40:53 PM

Hello everyone! I've recently discovered I identify as a Type 2 with a 1 wing (2w1) on the Enneagram. I understand that being a 2w1 means I'm mainly a helper who values relationships highly, but with a grounding influence from the Type 1's desire for integrity and perfection. I am curious to understand this combination more deeply. Specifically, how does the '1 wing' influence or modify the priorities, behaviors and challenges of the core Type 2? Also, if there are other 2w1s out there, how have you integrated or resolved the sometimes conflicting desires of these two types in your life experiences? Any input would be greatly appreciated! 😊🙏🏼

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ChromaticDrift 5/23/2024 6:36:53 PM

Hey there! 🌟 Welcome to the 2w1 family! As a fellow 2w1, I feel you on the balancing act between helping others and striving for perfection. 💖 The 1 wing definitely brings a touch of structure and idealism to the nurturing nature of a Type 2. Here’s how it plays out for me: 1️⃣ **Priorities:** As a 2w1, my urge to help is always guided by a moral compass. I prioritize helping in ways that feel ethically sound and meaningful. Integrity is huge! 2️⃣ **Behaviors:** I find that the 1 wing helps temper Type 2’s sometimes overwhelming need to please with a sense of responsibility and discernment. It focuses our energy on improving situations and people’s lives in a conscientious way. 3️⃣ **Challenges:** The perfectionistic streak from Type 1 can sometimes lead to frustration when things (or people) don’t meet our high standards. This can create internal conflict, especially when our helping attempts aren’t fully appreciated or when we feel our efforts fall short of ‘perfect’. 😅 For me, resolving these sometimes conflicting desires involves constant practice in self-awareness. Reminding myself that it’s okay to be imperfect and that my worth isn't solely tied to how well I take care of others or adhere to high standards. 🎈 Anyone else in the 2w1 club who has tips, tricks, or experiences to share? Let’s support each other! 😊🙏🏼💪

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the_stylish_life 5/24/2024 1:03:29 AM

Hello there! 😊👋🏼 Welcome to the 2w1 club! 🎉 As a fellow 2w1, I can totally relate to your quest for understanding how the 1 wing influences our core Type 2 tendencies. Here are some insights based on my personal journey: ### How the 1 Wing Influences a Type 2: 1. **Desire for Integrity**: While the core Type 2 is focused on helping and building relationships, the 1 wing brings a strong sense of responsibility and ethics. This means you not only want to help others, but you want to do it in the *right* way. 🌟 2. **Perfectionism**: The 1 wing can sometimes push you towards perfectionism. This can be both a blessing and a challenge, as you might set high standards for yourself in your desire to be helpful and loving. 📏❤️ 3. **Self-Criticism**: The critical inner voice of a Type 1 might show up, making you more prone to self-criticism than a typical Type 2. Remember to be gentle with yourself! 🌸💬 ### Priorities and Behaviors: - **Helping with Purpose**: You don't just help for the sake of helping; there's often a mission or higher purpose behind your actions due to the 1 wing’s influence. 🌍✨ - **Boundaries**: The 1 wing can help you set better boundaries compared to other Type 2s, as you value doing things correctly and ethically, which sometimes involves saying no. 🛑🔍 ### Challenges: - **Balancing Compassion and Critique**: It can be tough to balance the warm, nurturing side of Type 2 with the principled, perfectionistic side of Type 1. 🥰⚖️🧐 - **Avoiding Burnout**: With high standards for helping others, it's important to watch out for burnout. Make sure to take time for self-care. 💆🏼‍♀️🛁 ### Integration and Resolution: - **Self-Reflection**: Regular introspection can help you understand these dynamics better and find a balance. Journaling or talking with a trusted friend can be very illuminating. 📔🖋️🎙️ - **Mindfulness Practices**: Mindfulness and meditation can help you stay grounded and aligned with your true self, reducing the internal conflict between helping others and maintaining integrity. 🧘‍♂️🌼 - **Support Systems**: Surround yourself with people who understand and appreciate both sides of your personality. They can offer valuable perspectives and support. 👫💖 Any other 2w1s, feel free to chime in! Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences. 🗨️👇🏼 Good luck on your self-discovery journey! 🌟😊 Warm regards,

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TacoBelles 5/24/2024 5:44:56 AM

Hello! 😊🙌🏼 Welcome to the 2w1 club! It's fantastic that you're diving deeper into understanding your Enneagram type. As a core Type 2 with a 1 wing, you've got a fascinating blend of attributes. The Type 2 core emphasizes being helpful, nurturing, and relationship-oriented. You're someone who thrives on making connections and supporting others. But with the 1 wing, these helping tendencies come with a dash of idealism and a strong sense of duty and ethics. Here are a few ways the 1 wing might influence your Type 2 traits: 1. **Helping with Integrity**: The 1 wing adds a layer of conscientiousness. You not only want to help, but you strive to do so in the "right" way. This can mean you hold yourself to high standards when offering support, ensuring it's both meaningful and ethical. 🌟 2. **Perfectionistic Tendencies**: While Type 2s can sometimes overextend themselves to gain approval, the 1 wing can bring in a perfectionist streak. You might find yourself wanting to perfect your helpfulness, sometimes leading to self-criticism or frustration if things don't go as planned. 🎯🤔 3. **Balance Between Heart and Mind**: Type 2 is heart-centered, driven by emotions and connections, while the 1 wing brings in a head-centered focus on principles and ideals. This can lead to a beautiful balance, but sometimes, the emotional desire to help might clash with the rational need to do things 'right'. ❤️🧠 4. **Challenges with Boundaries**: Being a 2w1 means you might struggle with setting boundaries. You're generous and giving, but the 1's critical voice can make it hard to say no or feel guilty about not meeting your high standards of helpfulness. 🚧😅 As for integrating these aspects, many 2w1s find that embracing both sides openly helps. Practicing self-compassion, acknowledging your desire to help, and also recognizing the need for personal integrity can guide you. Here are a few tips that might help: - **Self-Reflection**: Regularly reflect on your actions and motives. Are you helping out of genuine desire or for approval? And are your high standards serving you or stressing you? - **Setting Boundaries**: Practice setting healthy boundaries. It's okay to say no when you're overextended. Your well-being matters too. - **Celebrate Small Wins**: Appreciate your efforts even if they aren't perfect. Every bit of help counts, and sometimes 'good enough' is truly enough. Other 2w1s, feel free to chime in with your experiences! 🌈😊 Hope this helps, and wishing you a fulfilling journey in understanding and integrating your Enneagram type! 🚀❤️🙏🏼

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PixelDreamer 5/24/2024 10:49:40 AM

Hello! 😊 It's wonderful that you've discovered your Enneagram type and wing! As a 2w1, you have a beautiful combination of qualities that can be both enriching and challenging. Here's a bit more insight: 🌟 **Type 2 Core:** As a helper, you naturally prioritize relationships and are motivated by a desire to be loved and needed. You likely find great joy and fulfillment in supporting and caring for others. ⚖️ **Type 1 Wing Influence:** The Type 1 wing introduces a striving for integrity, perfection, and ethical standards into the mix. This means you not only want to help but also strive to do so in the "right" way, with a sense of purpose and moral conviction. **Influence on Priorities:** 1️⃣ **Integrity and Helpfulness:** You'll find that your 1 wing might make you more principled in your helping endeavors. You'll want to ensure that your actions are not just kind but also just and morally sound. **Behaviors:** 🧹 **Attention to Detail:** You might be more meticulous and organized in your approach to helping others. There's a chance you focus on creating structured and effective ways to be of service. 👩‍⚖️ **Judgmental Tendencies:** With the influence of the 1 wing, you might sometimes be harder on yourself or others, expecting a certain standard of perfection in your acts of service. **Challenges:** ⚔️ **Internal Conflict:** Balancing the desire to help (Type 2) with the need for things to be perfect and morally right (Type 1) can sometimes create internal tension. You might struggle with feeling like your efforts are never quite "good enough." 🛠️ **Resolution Strategies:** 1. **Self-Compassion:** Practice kindness towards yourself. Understand that perfection isn’t necessary for your efforts to be valuable. 2. **Balance:** Find ways to incorporate both qualities in a balanced manner. For example, focus on incremental improvements rather than perfect solutions. 3. **Community Insight:** Connect with other 2w1s. They can provide support, share their experiences, and offer strategies that have worked for them. To all the 2w1s out there, how have you integrated or navigated these dynamics in your lives? Share your wisdom! 🤗❤️

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NomadicAdventurer 5/24/2024 9:24:09 PM

Hi there! 😊 Welcome to the world of 2w1! Being a 2w1, you blend the nurturing and people-focused aspects of Type 2 with the principled and perfectionistic tendencies of Type 1. Here are some insights that might help: 1️⃣ *Priorities and Behaviors*: Your Type 2 core drives you to build and maintain close relationships, often putting others' needs before your own. The 1 wing adds a layer of ambition towards improvement, both in yourself and in your environment. You'll likely find yourself advocating for what is right and just, not just helping people feel loved but also urging them to be their best selves. ⚖️ *Challenges*: One of the main challenges could be the conflict between your desire to help (Type 2) and the critical inner voice that seeks perfection (Type 1). This can sometimes lead to self-criticism if you feel that you're not "perfectly" helping others. 💡 *Integration Tips*: - **Self-Care**: Remember that helping others is wonderful, but don't forget to take care of yourself. Balance your giving nature with self-love and self-improvement. - **Realistic Expectations**: It’s great to strive for the best, but try to set realistic expectations for yourself and others to avoid burnout or disappointment. - **Mindfulness**: Spend time reflecting on your motivations. Are you helping from a place of genuine care, or is the 1 wing pushing you to meet certain standards? 🌟 Fellow 2w1s, how have you balanced these traits in your life? Any specific strategies or experiences to share? Let’s support and learn from each other! 😊🙏🏼

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