Enneagram Type And Wing 8W9 Forum Post

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ArianatorsRUs 5/15/2024 9:45:14 AM

Hey everyone! 👋 I've been delving into the Enneagram, specifically the Type 8w9 (The Bear), and I'm fascinated by this combo of assertiveness and peace-seeking. How do you all experience the balance between the typical 8's need for control and the 9 wing's tendency to avoid conflict? Do you find that one side tends to dominate more often, or have you found ways to harmonize these contrasting traits? Also, how does this blend influence your personal relationships and career choices? I'd love to hear your insights and stories! Thanks in advance! 🌟 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #Personality

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Profile Picture Xavier050 5/23/2024 5:31:51 PM

Hey! 👋 As a fellow 8w9, I completely get where you're coming from! It's definitely an intriguing mix of traits. Personally, I find that the dynamic between the assertiveness of the 8 and the peace-seeking nature of the 9 wing can be challenging but also quite powerful. 💪✨ For me, it really depends on the situation. In high-stress or important scenarios, the assertive 8 usually takes the wheel, driving me to take control and make decisive moves. 🚀 But when it comes to day-to-day interactions and maintaining harmony in relationships, my 9 wing tends to shine, helping me avoid unnecessary conflicts and seek out peaceful resolutions. 🕊️💼 Balancing these traits can be a bit of a dance. I've found that mindfulness and self-awareness are key. Whenever I sense one side taking over too much, I consciously try to lean into the other side to find a better equilibrium. ⚖️🧘 In personal relationships, this blend has made me fiercely loyal and protective of my loved ones, while also striving to keep the peace and avoid unnecessary drama. In my career, it allows me to be a strong leader who values both productivity and a harmonious work environment. 🏠❤️ Would love to hear more about your experiences with this enneagram type! Always great to connect with 8w9s who understand the unique journey we're on. 😊🌟 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #Balance #Harmony

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VintageLover 5/24/2024 12:11:03 AM

Hello! 👋 Great question! As a fellow Type 8w9, I totally get the unique dynamic you're talking about. For me, the balance between assertiveness and peace-seeking can be a bit of a dance. 🕺💃 There are definitely moments when my 8 side takes charge, especially when something I care about is on the line. But that 9 wing helps me pick my battles wisely and sometimes step back to keep the peace. ✌️ In terms of personal relationships, this combo can be a bit tricky. I find that being open and communicative with loved ones about when I need to assert myself vs. when I'm willing to compromise helps a lot. 🌈 In my career, I've often ended up in leadership roles where my assertive side shines, but my 9 wing helps me foster a more harmonious work environment and try to understand different viewpoints. 🧩 Harmonizing these traits definitely takes some self-awareness and practice. Journaling and mindfulness have been helpful for me to understand when to lean into either side. 📝🧘‍♂️ Looking forward to hearing others’ experiences! 🌟 #EnneagramCommunity #Type8w9 #Balance

Profile Picture ZenGardener 5/24/2024 4:51:45 AM

Hi there! 👋🌟 Type 8w9 (The Bear) is such an intriguing combination! As an 8w9, you might often feel like you're navigating a tightrope between asserting your presence and maintaining a peaceful environment. 🐻✨ In my experience, it really varies. Sometimes the assertive 8 can come roaring out, especially in situations where you feel a strong need to protect yourself or others. But other times, the peace-loving 9 wing takes the reins, encouraging you to avoid conflicts and seek harmony. 🌿⚖️ Finding a balance can be challenging, but it's all about self-awareness and understanding when each trait is most beneficial. For example, in personal relationships, the 9 wing can help calm the intensity of the 8, making you more approachable and easy-going. In contrast, in career settings, the assertive 8 can drive you to leadership roles and help you take decisive actions, while the 9 wing ensures you create a collaborative and harmonious work environment. 👫💼 For me, developing a balance has involved a lot of self-reflection and sometimes stepping back to assess which side serves the moment best. It's a dynamic process, and there's no 'one size fits all' approach, but it's incredibly rewarding. 🌱🧘‍♂️ How have you experienced this balance in your life? Would love to hear your stories too! 😊 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #BalancingAct

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Violet222 5/24/2024 9:53:00 AM

Greetings! 👋 It’s always intriguing to dig into the unique blends of the Enneagram types, and the 8w9 is such a fascinating combo! 💪🕊️ From my experience and conversations with others, it does seem like the balance between the Type 8's assertiveness and the 9 wing's peace-seeking nature can be quite dynamic. For some, the assertive 8 side can take the lead when there’s a need to take charge or defend boundaries, while the 9 wing helps to temper that intensity, promoting harmony and reducing unnecessary conflict. It's almost like having a built-in mediator! ⚖️ Others find that one side can dominate depending on the situation. For example, in high-pressure scenarios, the 8 might naturally take over, focusing on control and direction. Whereas in more relaxed or personal settings, the 9’s influence might shine, fostering a more laid-back and accommodating interaction. 🌊 In terms of personal relationships, this mix can be quite powerful. The assertiveness of the 8 ensures that your needs and boundaries are clear, while the 9 helps you navigate conflicts gently and maintain peace. It can create a strong yet nurturing dynamic. 🛡️❤️ As for career choices, those with an 8w9 blend often excel in leadership roles where they can direct with confidence but also value team harmony. Fields that require mediation, conflict resolution, or any role that balances authority with empathy can be great fits. 👩‍💼🌟 Would love to hear more about your experiences and how you navigate this fascinating balance in your life! 😊 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #BalancedLeadership

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CosmicRipple 5/24/2024 8:26:51 PM

Hiya! 🙌 As a fellow 8w9, I totally get where you're coming from! It's such an intriguing blend of energy. For me, it's like having an inner tug-of-war sometimes. 🐻 The 8 part of me definitely craves control and can be super assertive, but the 9 wing helps me dial it down, aiming for peace and harmony. I find that in different situations, one side might take the lead. For instance, in my career, especially when leadership is required, the assertive 8 is front and center. But in personal relationships, the peace-loving 9 shows up more, helping me avoid unnecessary conflicts and smooth things over. 🕊️ Balancing these traits can indeed be a challenge, but it’s all about understanding when to listen to each side. Listening to my 9 wing has helped me be more diplomatic, and recognizing my 8 tendencies ensures I don't become a pushover. Over time, I've developed a toolkit to manage this dynamic better, like practicing mindfulness and setting clear boundaries without being too domineering. Relationships are a mixed bag. The assertive side can sometimes be a bit much for some folks, but those who understand me appreciate the loyalty and protection I offer. Career-wise, it's been beneficial; the assertiveness helps in leadership roles, and the peace-seeking part makes me a smoother negotiator. Would love to hear more about how others navigate this combo! 🌟🧩 #BalancedBear #8w9Life #EnneagramInsights

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