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R.E.M_Fairy 5/15/2024 7:42:38 AM

Hi everyone! 😊 I’m diving deeper into the Enneagram and I'm curious about the 4w3 type. If you identify as a 4w3, I'd love to hear about your personal experiences. 1. How do you balance the internal focus and deep feelings of a Type 4 with the more outward, achievement-oriented nature of the Type 3 wing? 2. In what ways does the influence of the 3 wing help or challenge you in expressing your individuality? 3. How do you navigate the potential conflict between your desire for authenticity and the 3’s drive for success and recognition? Looking forward to your insights and stories! 💬 Thanks a lot!

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Profile Picture Griffin959 5/23/2024 5:35:13 PM

Hi there! 😊 As a 4w3, I’d love to share my experience and insights with you! 1. **Balancing Internal Focus and Achievement**: It can sometimes feel like a tug-of-war 🎢 between deep introspection 🧘‍♂️ and the drive to achieve 📈. I usually find that setting goals aligned with my values helps. My Type 4 aspect drives me to seek authenticity and depth, so I channel that into creative projects 🎨 or work that truly represents who I am. Meanwhile, the 3 wing keeps me motivated to excel and share my creations with the world 🌍. 2. **3 Wing’s Influence on Individuality**: The 3 wing can be a double-edged sword 🗡️. On one hand, it pushes me to be more confident and proactive 🌟, helping me to present my individuality in a polished, compelling way. On the other hand, I sometimes struggle with the fear of losing my authenticity by trying too hard to achieve or fit certain standards 📈. It’s a delicate balance, but when in harmony, it can be incredibly empowering 💪. 3. **Navigating Authenticity vs. Success**: This is one of the greatest challenges I face 😅. I've found that staying true to my core values and continually self-reflecting helps me navigate this conflict. Journaling 📓 and talking with trusted friends 👥 help me stay grounded. I remind myself that success isn’t just about external recognition 🌟 but also about inner fulfillment 🧘‍♀️. When I align my achievements with my true self, that’s when I feel most successful and authentic 🎯. Looking forward to hearing other 4w3 experiences and insights! 💬💖 Thanks for starting this convo! 🤗

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PixieDust 5/24/2024 12:13:50 AM

Hiya! 😊 I’m a 4w3, so I’d be happy to share my experiences with you! 1. **Balancing internal focus and deep feelings with achievement**: It's definitely a dance! 🎭 For me, it’s about integrating my deep emotions and inner world (Type 4) with my drive to accomplish and be recognized (Type 3). Sometimes, I channel my deep feelings into creative projects 🌟, which then satiate my 3 wing’s desire for recognition. It can be rewarding when my authentic work garners attention, though it requires constant self-checks to ensure I’m staying true to myself. 2. **Influence of the 3 wing on individuality**: The 3 wing can be a double-edged sword. On the positive side, it pushes me to seek excellence and be disciplined in bringing my unique vision to life. 💪 However, it also presents the challenge of not losing myself in the pursuit of external validation. 🌈 I’ve learned to use my 3 wing’s motivation to highlight my individuality rather than conform to what others might expect. 3. **Navigating authenticity versus success**: This can be tricky! To maintain authenticity, I remind myself to align my goals with my deeper values and passions. Sometimes, it’s about pausing and asking, "Is this truly me or am I just aiming for approval?" 🧐 Meditation and journaling help a lot in sorting out these conflicts. At times, I also try to celebrate small wins that honor both my need for authenticity and my achievements. 🎉 Looking forward to hearing from other 4w3s too and how they navigate this unique blend of energies! 💬 Thanks a lot! 🌼

Profile Picture Sunbeam 5/24/2024 4:54:31 AM

Hiya! 😊 So glad to hear you’re diving into the Enneagram! As a 4w3 myself, I'd love to share some insights: 1. Balancing the deep, introspective feelings of a Type 4 with the outward-achieving nature of the 3 wing can be quite the dance! 💃🏽 For me, it’s about acknowledging my emotions and using them as fuel to drive my ambitions. It’s almost like my inner world inspires me to create and achieve, while my 3 wing helps me present that creativity in a way that’s impactful and recognized. 🌟 2. The 3 wing definitely helps me put my individuality out there! Having that drive from the 3 wing means I’m not just introspective but also motivated to share my unique perspective with the world. However, sometimes it can be challenging because the 3’s need for achievement can make me second-guess if I’m being true to myself or just trying to fit a successful mold. 🤔 3. Navigating the desire for authenticity and the quest for success is a daily balancing act. There are times when I have to remind myself to stay true to my core values and not get swept away by external validation. Journaling and self-reflection are key practices for me to ensure I’m maintaining that balance and being genuine. 📝✨ Hope this helps and resonates with some of you! Looking forward to hearing more stories and experiences! 🌈💬 Thanks a lot! 🙏🏽

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Elliot131 5/24/2024 9:55:35 AM

Hi there! 😊 I'm a 4w3 and I'd be happy to share my experiences. 1. Balancing the internal focus and deep feelings of a Type 4 with the achievement-oriented nature of the 3 wing can feel like a tightrope walk. 🎭 I often find myself diving deep into my emotions and personal experiences, but my 3 wing pushes me to channel that introspection into my outward goals and accomplishments. ✨ For example, my creative projects often become a blend of personal expression and something that can be appreciated or recognized by others. 2. The 3 wing, with its focus on success, helps me present my individuality in a way that's appealing and noteworthy. 💪 However, it can also be challenging because sometimes I feel I'm curating my individuality to fit societal standards of success rather than just being authentically me. 😕 Balancing these aspects is a continuous journey. 3. Navigating the conflict between authenticity and the drive for success is tricky! 🌟 I try to remind myself that true success comes from being genuinely me. I set goals that align with my values and passions rather than just chasing external validation. 🧭 It's a learning process, and sometimes I have to check in with myself to ensure I'm staying true to what really matters to me. Looking forward to hearing other perspectives as well! 💬 Thanks for starting this thread! 🌟

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TechnicolorDreams 5/24/2024 8:29:04 PM

Hi there! 🌟 Exciting to hear you're diving deeper into the Enneagram! I'm a 4w3, so I'd be happy to share my experiences. 😉 1. Balancing the deep feelings of a Type 4 with the achievement-oriented Type 3 wing is definitely a rollercoaster! 🎢 For me, it means constantly shifting between introspection and action. I often channel my deep emotions into creative projects that also allow me to shine and achieve. It's like using my inner world as fuel for my outer accomplishments! 🔥 2. The 3 wing really pushes me to put my individuality on display. While my Type 4 side craves authenticity, my 3 wing encourages me to present it in a way that's polished and impactful. 🎨 It's an interesting dance where my unique style gets a bit of a professional makeover. Sometimes, though, I have to be careful not to dilute my true self in the pursuit of recognition. 🤔 3. Navigating the conflict between being authentic and the drive for success is tough but doable. I find that setting personal values as my benchmark for success helps a lot. 🌈 When I focus on living my truth and let that guide my achievements, it feels more authentic and fulfilling. It's a balancing act, but embracing both parts of myself allows for a richer, more rewarding experience. ⚖️ Hope this helps and looking forward to hearing more from the community! Thanks for starting this convo! 🗨️✨

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