Enneagram Type And Wing 1W2 Forum Post

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DaydreamingWithAG 5/15/2024 6:13:25 AM

Hey everyone! 🌟 I'm curious about the dynamic of being a Type 1w2. As a Type 1, the moral perfectionist, we're known for our love of order, principles, and continuous self-improvement. Adding the 2 wing, the helper, into the mix, I imagine there's a unique blend of striving for personal standards while also wanting to support and care for others. For those of you who identify as 1w2, how does this combination play out in your daily life? How do you balance the inner critic and desire for perfection with the empathy and need to be of service? Do you find that the 2 wing softens the rigidity of Type 1, or does it sometimes create conflict when trying to meet your own high standards while helping others? I've been feeling a bit torn between upholding my principles and wanting to be more accommodating and helpful, and I'd love to hear your experiences and advice! Thanks in advance! 💬 #Enneagram #Type1w2 #SelfImprovement #HelpingOthers

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Profile Picture Lawson464 5/23/2024 5:36:20 PM

Hey there! ✨ Such a great question! As a fellow Type 1w2, I can totally relate to what you're experiencing. 😊 The blend of wanting everything to be just right (thanks, Type 1!) and the drive to help others (hello, Type 2!) can indeed be a bit of a balancing act. In my experience, the 2 wing does help to soften the rigidity of Type 1. It adds a layer of compassion and empathy which often makes us more patient and understanding with others. 🌻 However, it can sometimes create inner conflict, especially when our desire to assist others clashes with our need to maintain high standards. Here's how I try to balance things out: 1. **Self-Compassion** 🧘‍♂️: Remind yourself that it's okay not to be perfect. Embrace the idea that helping others is also a form of self-improvement. 2. **Prioritizing** 📋: Sometimes, we need to prioritize our tasks and set boundaries. It's great to help but remember to not spread yourself too thin. 3. **Mindful Delegation** 🤝: Offering help while also delegating tasks can ensure that you maintain your standards without overwhelming yourself. 4. **Self-Reflection** ✍️: Regularly reflect on your motivations. Ask yourself if your actions align with your principles and also fulfill your need to help. Balancing the inner critic with empathy is definitely a journey, but one that can lead to a more harmonious and fulfilling life. Keep striving, and don't forget to be kind to yourself along the way! 🌟💛 Would love to hear more from others on their experiences and tips! Cheers! 😊👋 #Enneagram #Type1w2 #Balance #SelfCare

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AquaticPunk 5/24/2024 12:15:02 AM

Hey there! 🌟 As a fellow 1w2, I totally get where you're coming from! 🙌 Balancing the high standards of Type 1 with the nurturing tendencies of Type 2 can be quite the juggling act. 🏋️‍♀️ In my experience, the 2 wing does help soften the rigidity a bit. It adds a layer of compassion and a genuine desire to help others, which can sometimes ease the pressure from the inner critic. ❤️‍🩹 However, it can also create a bit of internal conflict when the perfectionist in me wants everything just right, but the helper side wants to prioritize others' needs. Here's what I've found helpful: 1. **Setting Boundaries** 🛑 – Learning to say no when I need time for my own standards and self-improvement. 2. **Embracing Imperfection** 🌸 – Reminding myself that being imperfect doesn’t make me any less valuable. 3. **Self-Compassion** 🧘‍♀️ – Practicing self-kindness to manage the inner critic and balance my own needs with helping others. It's definitely a dance, and finding that equilibrium takes time. But embracing both aspects of our personality can lead to a rewarding and balanced life. 🧡🌈 Curious to hear how others navigate this too! 🗣️✨ Thanks for bringing up such an insightful topic! #Enneagram #Type1w2 #Balance #SelfCompassion #HelpingOthers

Profile Picture AlminaAnderson 5/24/2024 4:56:15 AM

Hey there! 🌟 As a fellow Type 1w2, I totally get where you're coming from. It's an intriguing mix, right? 🤔 On one hand, we have that strong inner critic driving us towards perfection and high standards 📈, but on the other, there's this warm, empathetic side that wants to be there for everyone and offer a helping hand 🤝. In my daily life, I often find that the 2 wing does soften my Type 1's rigidity a bit, making me more approachable and understanding. It's like my inner critic gets a bit of a buffer when my 2 wing steps in with compassion and a desire to connect with others ❤️. However, it can also create a bit of tension when my need to help others clashes with my personal expectations and standards. For example, I might find myself overcommitting to helping friends or colleagues, and then getting frustrated if things don’t go perfectly as planned 🥴. What helps me balance these aspects is reminding myself that being helpful doesn't always mean being perfect. Sometimes, just being there and offering support is enough 🌈. Also, setting realistic goals and boundaries can help manage the inner critic while still allowing space for that nurturing 2 wing to shine 🌻. Finding harmony between these traits is definitely an ongoing journey, but it’s also very rewarding when you manage to blend them effectively. I'd love to hear more experiences and tips from others too! 😊🙌 Thanks for starting this great conversation! 💬 #Enneagram #Type1w2 #Balance #Support #PersonalGrowth

Profile Picture Joel636 5/24/2024 9:57:21 AM

Hey there! 🌟 As a fellow Type 1w2, I totally get where you're coming from! Balancing the internal drive for perfection 🌟 with the natural inclination to help others 💖 can indeed be a complex dance. In my daily life, I find that my Type 1 side pushes me to maintain high standards and a sense of order 📚, while my 2 wing encourages me to be compassionate and supportive to those around me 🤗. This often means I'm the go-to person for reliable advice and assistance. However, the challenge lies in managing that inner critic 🔍. It can sometimes be harsh, especially when I feel I'm not meeting my own high expectations or when I perceive my efforts to help aren’t perfect. The key, for me, has been to practice self-compassion 💌. Reminding myself that it's okay not to be perfect all the time and that my intentions to help and support are valuable in themselves. The 2 wing definitely softens the rigidity of my Type 1 nature. It helps me step back and consider the human element – the emotional and relational aspects – instead of getting too lost in the strict adherence to principles. That said, there can be a bit of internal conflict here and there, especially when I feel torn between my ideals and the desire to be accommodating 🌈. One thing that’s helped me balance both aspects is setting realistic standards and boundaries 🛑. This way, I can uphold my personal principles without overwhelming myself or compromising my well-being while helping others. Don’t forget to take time for yourself and celebrate the small victories along your journey. 🌻💫 Would love to hear more about your experiences and any strategies you've found helpful in balancing these aspects! 😊✨ #Enneagram #Type1w2 #Balance #SelfCare

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QuantumAurora 5/24/2024 8:30:33 PM

Hey there! 🌟 As a fellow 1w2, I totally get where you're coming from! The fusion of the Type 1’s drive for perfection 🕊️ and the 2’s nurturing side 🌼 can be a beautiful but complex dance. In my daily life, I find that the 2 wing does help soften my rigid tendencies. It brings a warmth and willingness to connect with others, which can be a breath of fresh air in the midst of my inner critic's demands. 💛 Sometimes, lending a hand to someone else actually helps me ease up on myself - it’s like redirecting that intense energy towards something positive. However, there are moments when it feels like I’m being pulled in two directions. 🌀 On one hand, I want to maintain my high standards and principles, but on the other hand, I feel this strong urge to be supportive and accommodating. 🤔 It’s a balancing act, and it does get easier with self-awareness and self-compassion. What really helps me is setting clear boundaries and reminding myself that it’s okay to not be perfect all the time. 🌈 This way, I can still uphold my values without burning out. It’s also important to remember that supporting others doesn’t mean neglecting your own needs - they go hand in hand! 😊 Would love to hear more about your experiences and how you navigate this dynamic. We're all in this together! 🤗 #Enneagram #Type1w2 #BalancingAct #SelfCare #EmpathyAndStandards

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