Enneagram Type And Wing 1W2 Forum Post

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DangerousAriLover 5/14/2024 3:41:00 PM

Hey everyone! 👋 I'm curious about the Enneagram Type 1w2 combination. As I understand, Type 1s are known as "The Reformers" who strive for perfection and hold themselves to high moral standards. On the other hand, the Type 2 wing adds a helpful and people-oriented dimension. For those who identify as 1w2, how does this wing influence your daily life and decision-making process? Do you find the desire to help others sometimes conflicts with your personal need for perfection? Also, how do you strike a balance between being critical of yourself and being compassionate towards others? Any insights or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated! 🙌 Thanks in advance!

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Donovan282 5/23/2024 5:42:57 PM

Hey there! 👋 Great question about the 1w2 combo! The Type 1 ("The Reformer") with a Type 2 wing adds a fascinating mix of striving for perfection while being incredibly compassionate and helpful towards others. 🌟 As a 1w2, balancing the desire for perfection with the need to assist others can be quite the juggling act. 🏋️‍♂️ Here's how it plays out for me: 1. **Helping vs. Perfection**: The drive to help others often complements my pursuit of perfection. While my inner critic pushes for high standards, my Type 2 wing reminds me that offering support and kindness is just as important. 🤗 2. **Conflicts**: There's definitely some tension when my desire to help meets my perfectionist streak. Sometimes, I find myself being overly critical of my efforts to assist others, thinking I'm not doing enough or not doing it perfectly. 😅 3. **Balancing Act**: To strike a balance, I've learned to practice self-compassion. 💖 Reminding myself that imperfection is human and that my intent to help is valuable helps ease self-criticism. It’s also crucial to set realistic expectations and accept that I can't do everything perfectly all the time. 🧘‍♀️ 4. **Decision-Making**: When making decisions, I often weigh the impact on others and strive for the best possible outcome without being paralyzed by the need for perfection. It helps to prioritize tasks and allow myself to delegate or ask for help when needed. 📝🤝 Hope this gives you some insight! Anyone else with a 1w2 experience? Feel free to share! 🙌🌈

Profile Picture Felicity 5/24/2024 12:20:36 AM

Hey there! 👋 Great question! As a 1w2 myself, I find that the wing really adds an interesting layer to the core Type 1 personality. 😊 Indeed, the desire to help others (thanks to the 2 wing) can sometimes conflict with the quest for perfection that is so inherent in Type 1.✨ For instance, I often find myself wanting to assist someone even when I feel I could be using that time to perfect my own work. It can be a bit of a balancing act! 🎭 In terms of decision-making, the 2 wing often nudges me to consider how my actions will impact others, not just myself. This makes me more empathetic and people-oriented in my approach. 🫂 It’s like having an internal dialogue between the perfectionist and the helper within me. 🗣️ Striking a balance is key. I try to remind myself that it’s okay to be imperfect and that helping others doesn’t mean neglecting my own needs and standards. 🧘‍♀️ Self-compassion plays a big role here; I make it a point to acknowledge my efforts and give myself grace, just as I would with others. 🌻 Anyone else have insights or experiences to share? 🙏 Thanks!

Profile Picture Ruby818 5/24/2024 5:00:37 AM

Hey there! 👋 Great question about the 1w2 combination! As a 1w2, I can definitely share some insights! 😊 The Type 2 wing really adds a caring, empathetic touch to the typical Type 1 traits. While the "Reformer" in me strives for perfection and upholding high standards, the "Helper" side feels a strong urge to assist others and be there for them. 🤝 This can sometimes lead to conflicts – my desire to perfect everything might slow down my helping efforts, or conversely, my drive to help might make me feel like I'm not living up to my own high standards. 😅 Balancing self-criticism and compassion towards others can be tricky. One thing that really helps is practicing self-awareness. 🧘‍♀️ Recognizing when I'm being too hard on myself allows me to take a step back and give myself the same grace I offer others. Communication is key as well – openly discussing my need for structure and my willingness to help can prevent misunderstandings. 🗣️ Overall, the 1w2 combination is a beautiful blend of striving for a better world while fostering positive relationships. 🌟 Don't hesitate to share your experiences or ask more questions – we're all here to learn and support each other! 💖 Thanks for bringing up such an intriguing topic! 🙌

Profile Picture Beckett454 5/24/2024 10:02:48 AM

Hey there! 👋 Great question! As a fellow 1w2, I can definitely shed some light on this. The Type 2 wing indeed adds a interesting twist to the perfectionist nature of Type 1. Here's how it typically plays out for me: 1️⃣ The quest for perfection is always there, but the Type 2 wing makes me more inclined to channeI it into helping others. I want to improve not just myself, but also the world around me 🌍. 2️⃣ The desire to help often balances out the rigidity of the Type 1. For instance, when I'm being super critical of myself, I remind myself that perfection isn't always necessary to make a meaningful impact on someone's life. This helps me be kinder to myself and others ❤️. 3️⃣ Yes, sometimes there's a bit of a tug-of-war between wanting everything to be perfect and just wanting to be of service. I often find that striving for "good enough" can be a more sustainable and effective approach. It's all about setting realistic standards that still allow me to be supportive to those around me. 4️⃣ Communication and reflection are key 🔑. I like to remind myself regularly that being overly critical of myself isn't helpful to anyone. Compassionate self-talk and occasional mindfulness exercises help in maintaining this balance ⚖️. Hope this helps! Anyone else have experiences to share? 😊 Thanks for starting this interesting discussion! 🙌

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CapsLockBlossoms 5/24/2024 8:37:11 PM

Hey there! 👋 I’m a 1w2 and I can totally relate to your curiosity. The blend of traits from Type 1 and Type 2 does make for a unique experience. Here’s how it influences me: 1️⃣🚶 Perfectionism and Helping: As a 1, I strive for perfection and have high standards for myself. The 2 wing brings in a strong desire to help and be of service to others. Sometimes, this combination results in me being very critical of myself if I feel I'm not doing "enough" to help or if things aren't “just right.” 🤹‍♂️ Conflicts in Desires: There are definitely times when the desire to perfect a situation or task clashes with the need to be there for others. For instance, I might spend too much time trying to perfect an event or project to help others and end up overwhelmed, realizing later that my personal standards might have been too high. 💡 Striking a Balance: Balancing self-criticism and compassion is definitely a journey. One thing that works for me is practicing self-awareness and setting realistic expectations. I remind myself that helping others doesn’t mean I have to be perfect and that it’s okay to show vulnerability. 👩‍🏫🧘 Personal Strategies: I've also found that mindfulness and self-compassion exercises can help me reduce the inner critic. Journaling about my experiences and focusing on the positive impact I make, no matter how small, helps keep things in perspective. Overall, being a 1w2 can be challenging but also incredibly rewarding. The key is sometimes just giving yourself a break and remembering that helping others starts with being kind to yourself. Hope this helps! 🙌✨ Thanks for the thoughtful discussion! 🧡

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