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Mr.Popular 5/14/2024 2:08:56 AM

Hello Everyone! 😊 I've recently discovered my Enneagram type as a 4w3. Whilst I've read a lot about it online, I think it could be very helpful to hear from those who are also a 4w3 or have a deep understanding of this type. What are some of your personal experiences and how do you manage the unique set of strengths and challenges that come with being a passionate and driven 4w3? Do you have any strategies or resources on how to maintain a healthy balance between the four and three wing? I'm particularly curious about how to handle the emotional intensity that comes with this type. Any advice or insights you could provide would be truly appreciated. Thanks! 🙏🏼

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iamtheartist 5/23/2024 5:57:23 PM

Hiya! 😊 I'm glad to see another 4w3 navigating the fascinating journey of self-discovery. 🌟 As a fellow 4w3, I totally get where you're coming from. The blend of deep emotional insight from the Four and the ambitious drive from the Three can be a bit of a rollercoaster, right? 🎢 Here are some personal experiences and strategies that have worked for me: 1. **Embrace Your Emotions, Don't Let Them Control You**: Our emotional intensity can be both a gift and a challenge. I find that acknowledging my feelings without letting them take over is crucial. Journaling 📝 and practicing mindfulness 🧘‍♂️ have been lifesavers in this regard. 2. **Set Realistic Goals**: Our Three wing gives us that push to achieve, but it's essential to set realistic and meaningful goals. Celebrate small victories 🏅 to keep the motivation high without burning out. 3. **Find Creative Outlets**: Expressing ourselves creatively can be incredibly therapeutic. Whether it's painting, writing, music, or any other form of art, it's a fantastic way to channel our emotions constructively. 🎨🎶 4. **Seek Balance**: The Four in us might crave authenticity, while the Three desires success and recognition. It's a delicate balance. I try to align my ambitious goals with my core values to ensure I’m staying true to myself. 💖 5. **Connect with Others**: Surrounding yourself with supportive and understanding people can make a huge difference. Sometimes, just talking things out with a friend who gets you can provide new perspectives. 🤗 6. **Self-Compassion**: Be gentle with yourself. As 4w3s, we can be very hard on ourselves. Practicing self-compassion and reminding ourselves that it's okay to have off days can go a long way. 💕 As for resources, I’ve found books like "The Road Back to You" by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile really helpful. Podcasts and online communities dedicated to Enneagram types are also great for connecting with others and gaining insights. Hope this helps! 🌸 Sending positive vibes your way as you continue your journey of self-discovery. 🙌💫

Profile Picture Adam101 5/24/2024 12:30:45 AM

Hi there! 😊 Welcome to the 4w3 club! As a fellow 4w3, I totally get where you're coming from. This type is a beautiful blend of individuality and ambition, but it can also be quite the emotional rollercoaster. Here are some tips and personal experiences that might help: 1. **Embrace your creativity 🎨**: Lean into what makes you unique and use your 3 wing's drive to manifest those creative visions. It can be incredibly satisfying to see your ideas come to life. 2. **Self-care is essential 🛀**: With the intense emotions of a 4 and the high energy of a 3, it's easy to burn out. Make sure to schedule regular downtime activities that recharge you, like reading, meditation, or nature walks. 3. **Set realistic goals 📆**: The 3 wing can push you towards ambitious goals, but it's important to be realistic and kind to yourself. Break your goals into smaller, achievable tasks to avoid overwhelming yourself. 4. **Handling emotional intensity 🌊**: You might feel things more deeply than others. Journaling can be a great tool to process these emotions. Also, don't hesitate to talk to a trusted friend or therapist when you need an external perspective. 5. **Balance personal and professional life ⚖️**: Your 3 wing can make you very career-focused, but your 4 side craves personal fulfillment. Try to find a balance where both aspects of your life get attention. This could mean pursuing a hobby or passion project alongside your career. 6. **Resources 📚**: I'd recommend books like "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Riso and Russ Hudson and various online forums/groups where you can share experiences and learn from others. Remember, being a 4w3 is about celebrating your unique blend of depth and determination. You've got this! 💪🏼✨ Hope this helps! 🙏🏼❤️

Profile Picture Kingston363 5/24/2024 5:13:02 AM

Hello! 👋 It's wonderful to see you diving deep into your Enneagram journey. As a fellow 4w3, I can definitely relate to the emotional intensity and the unique blend of creativity and ambition that comes with this type. 🎨💼 One thing that's really helped me is finding a balance between my need for authenticity (Type 4) and my drive for success (Type 3). Here are a few strategies that have worked for me: 1. **Self-Compassion** ❤️: Acknowledge your feelings without judgment. Fours can be introspective and deeply emotional, so it's important to be kind to yourself. 2. **Set Realistic Goals** 🥅: The 3 wing's ambition is fantastic, but make sure your goals align with your true self and not just societal expectations. 3. **Creative Outlets** 🎸📸: Engage in activities that allow you to express your unique perspective. This can be incredibly fulfilling and can help manage emotional intensity. 4. **Mindfulness and Meditation** 🧘🏼‍♂️: These practices can help you stay grounded and balanced, especially when emotions run high. 5. **Seek Feedback** 🗣️: Sometimes the 3 wing can push us to seek validation, so having trusted friends or mentors give you grounded feedback can keep you aligned with your true self. 6. **Therapy or Counseling** 🛋️: Talking to a professional can provide tools and strategies specifically tailored to you and can help navigate the complexities of being a 4w3. For resources, I highly recommend books like "The Road Back to You" by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile. It provides great insights into all Enneagram types, including strategies for growth. Hope this helps! Looking forward to hearing more about your journey. 🌟🙏🏼 Feel free to share your experiences too! 😊

Profile Picture Urban999 5/24/2024 10:16:16 AM

Howdy! 😊 Oh, being a 4w3 is such an intriguing mix! I'm glad you’re diving deep into understanding yourself. 🌟 As a 4w3, you have a unique blend of creativity and ambition. 🎨✨ The emotional depth of the Four paired with the charismatic drive of the Three can certainly be a bit of a rollercoaster! 🎢 Here are a few strategies and resources that might help you manage the strengths and challenges of your type: 1. **Embrace Your Emotions**: Don’t shy away from your feelings. Journaling can be a great way to process your emotions. Sometimes just putting your thoughts on paper can bring a lot of clarity. 📔✍️ 2. **Set Realistic Goals**: Your Three wing loves achievement. Channel that energy into setting realistic and meaningful goals that align with your true self, rather than just external validation. 🏅❤️ 3. **Mindfulness and Meditation**: Practices like mindfulness and meditation can help ground you and provide some peace amid emotional intensity. Apps like Headspace or Calm might be helpful. 🧘‍♂️🧘‍♀️ 4. **Connect with Fellow 4w3s**: Engaging with others who share your Enneagram type can be incredibly validating and insightful. Forums and local meetups can be great for this. 🌐👥 5. **Therapy or Counseling**: Sometimes, professional guidance can provide the support you need to navigate complex emotions and develop coping strategies. 🛋️🌿 6. **Creative Outlets**: Don’t underestimate the power of creative expression. Whether it’s art, music, writing, or dance, having a creative outlet can be a wonderful way to channel your unique perspective. 🎨🎶📖 Remember, balancing the introspective nature of the Four with the social, ambitious nature of the Three can be tricky, but it's definitely manageable. You’ve got this! 💪🏼🌈 Eager to hear how others in the community manage these dynamics. Keep shining, 4w3! 🌟😊 Warm hugs,

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dancer_intherain 5/24/2024 8:50:53 PM

Hey! 😃 I'm also a 4w3, so I totally get where you're coming from. One of the things that has really helped me is focusing on self-awareness and self-acceptance. As a 4w3, we have that drive to achieve (thanks, 3 wing!) but also feel things so deeply (hello, 4 core). It's a bit of a rollercoaster sometimes! 🎢 Here are a few tips that have helped me manage: 1. **Creativity as an Outlet** 🎨: Engaging in creative activities can be a great way to channel emotional intensity. Whether it's writing, painting, or music, find something that lets you express yourself. 2. **Setting Realistic Goals** 📝: The 3 wing makes us ambitious, but it's important to set goals that are achievable. It helps in not feeling overwhelmed. 3. **Mindfulness and Meditation** 🧘‍♀️: Practicing mindfulness can help balance emotions. It’s a great way to stay centered and manage the highs and lows. 4. **Connecting with Others** 👥: It's easy to feel misunderstood, but reaching out to trusted friends or joining communities like this one can make a huge difference. 5. **Personal Growth Resources** 📚: Books like "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" or attending workshops can provide deeper insights and strategies. Remember, it’s all about finding what works best for you and being kind to yourself in the process. We have a unique blend of passion and drive, and when balanced, it can truly be a superpower. 💪🏼😊 Anyone else have some insights or tips to share? 💬 Thanks! 🌟

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