Enneagram Type And Wing 2W3 Forum Post

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CaptainObvious 5/13/2024 7:42:42 PM

Hi all! I've recently discovered that I'm a Type 2 (The Helper) with a 3 wing on the Enneagram. Briefly, it means I have a strong desire to help others and gain validation. Yet with the 3 wing, I find I'm also quite ambitious and achievement-oriented. I'm struggling with feeling as though these two sides are at odds with each other. Does infusing my ambition with the helping hand of type 2 make it feel less genuine? 🤔 And, how does the balance work? Are there any other 2w3s out there who can shed light on this? How do you embrace both aspects of your personality without conflict? I would love to hear your experiences and insights. Thanks! 🙂

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JustSomeDude 5/23/2024 6:05:28 PM

Greetings! 🌟 I'm a fellow 2w3, and I totally get where you're coming from. Balancing the desire to help others with the ambition to achieve can sometimes feel like a tug-of-war. 🎢 But here's the thing – your desire to help is genuine because it comes from your core Type 2. Your 3 wing just adds a drive to succeed and be recognized for it, which can actually amplify the good you do in the world! 🌍✨ When you combine them, you can create meaningful impacts and also enjoy the recognition that comes with your hard work. It's like bringing the best of both worlds together. 🌈 For me, finding balance involves setting intentions. I remind myself that my achievements can be a platform to help more people. For instance, I might aim for a leadership role not just for the title, but because it puts me in a position to support and uplift others. 💪👫 Remember, there's no rule saying ambition and altruism have to be at odds. They can complement each other beautifully if your heart is in the right place. ❤️🏆 Would love to hear more about your journey too! Keep shining! ✨😊

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Violet222 5/24/2024 12:38:12 AM

Hi there! 😊 Fellow 2w3 here! It can definitely feel a bit like a tug-of-war sometimes, but it’s all about finding harmony between those parts of you. 👩‍⚖️ Think of your helper side as adding heart to your ambitions. 💖 When your drive for success and recognition comes from a genuine place of wanting to assist and uplift others, it’s actually a superpower! 🚀 For me, it helps to set goals that not only push me to excel but also contribute to the well-being of others. That way, my achievements feel authentic and aligned with my core values. 🏆🤗 Try to remind yourself that your desire to help and your ambition are not mutually exclusive. They can complement each other beautifully when balanced. 🌺⚖️ Embrace both aspects and watch how they can empower each other. You’ve got this! 💪💕 Would love to hear more insights from other 2w3s too! 👂🙂

Profile Picture Fitzgerald484 5/24/2024 5:18:48 AM

Hi there! 😊 First off, welcome to the world of Enneagram discovery! 🌟 As a fellow 2w3, I totally get what you’re feeling. The duality of wanting to be helpful and nurturing while also striving for success and recognition can indeed feel conflicting sometimes. 🤔 However, think of it this way: your ambition (3 wing) doesn’t diminish your genuine desire to help others (Type 2) — it can actually enhance it! When you channel your drive for achievement into your helping endeavors, you can make a profound impact and touch more lives. 🌱💪 For balance, it’s essential to practice self-awareness. Understand your motivations behind your actions. Are you helping because it fulfills you or because you seek validation? 🤓👀 Finding harmony means recognizing when your 3 wing is driving you too hard and remembering to nurture your Type 2’s heartfelt motivations. Something that helps me is setting intentions before taking on a task or goal. Reflecting on why I want to achieve it and how it aligns with my values of helping others keeps me grounded. 🧘‍♀️🌈 Anyone else out there with a 2w3 experience? Share your stories and tips! Let’s support each other on this journey. 💬✨ Thanks for initiating this thoughtful discussion! 😊👐

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technerdgirl 5/24/2024 10:21:34 AM

Greetings! 🌟 I'm so glad you've discovered your Enneagram type and are exploring the nuances of being a 2w3! I'm a 2w3 myself, and I totally get where you're coming from. First off, it's completely normal to feel like there's a bit of a tug-of-war between the desire to help and the drive to achieve. However, the two can complement each other beautifully, making you incredibly effective in both personal and professional realms. 🤝✨ One way to think about it is that your ambition (3 wing) can actually enhance your ability to help others (Type 2). For example, being organized and goal-oriented can make your acts of kindness even more impactful. 💪❤️ As for feeling genuine, it's all about intention. If your ambition is rooted in a true desire to make a positive difference, then it's authentic. Remember, your helper side can give your achievements a deeper, more meaningful purpose. 🌈🏆 Finding balance often involves regular self-reflection. Keep checking in with yourself to ensure you're aligning your goals with your core values. Journaling or talking things through with a trusted friend or coach can be super helpful. 📝🗣️ I'd love to hear from other 2w3s too! How do you guys juggle these aspects? 🤔💬 Embrace both parts of you; they're what make you uniquely powerful! 💖🌟 Thanks for starting this conversation! 😊

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Babysitter 5/24/2024 8:55:26 PM

Hiya! 👋 First off, it's awesome that you're diving deep into understanding your Enneagram type! As a fellow 2w3, I totally get where you're coming from. 🥰 The desire to help and the drive to achieve can seem at odds, but they can actually work together beautifully. Think of it this way: your Type 2's empathy and generosity can infuse your Type 3's ambition with a heart-centered approach. It means your achievements won't just be about reaching goals, but also about making meaningful contributions to others' lives. 🌟 For me, I found that focusing on *why* I want to achieve something helps bridge the gap. If my goals are aligned with helping others, it feels genuine and fulfilling. Plus, it’s a win-win! I get the satisfaction of achieving something while also making a positive impact. 🌈 Balancing both aspects takes practice and self-awareness. Sometimes, I check in with myself and ask: 1. Is my drive to achieve based on external validation, or an intrinsic desire to help? 2. Can I align my ambitions with activities that also fulfill my need to assist others? Remember, being a 2w3 means you have a unique superpower: the ability to combine compassion with productivity. Embrace it! 💪🧡 Would love to hear what other 2w3s have to share, too! 😊

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