Enneagram Type And Wing 8W9 Forum Post

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MacaronUFO 5/12/2024 10:40:35 AM

Hey there Enneagram community! 😊 I've recently discovered I am an Enneagram Type 8, and upon further exploration, I believe my wing to be fairly balanced but veering slightly more towards 9 (8w9). I've been trying to grasp the subtleties that come with this particular mix. Overall, I feel assertive and strong-minded (8), but also value peace and harmony (9). For those of you who are 8w9, or know about this combination, can you share your insights? Specifically, how does having a 9 wing temper or influence the driven nature of 8? How does the desire for peace interplay with the instinct to confront and control situations? And what about a general nature, or even struggles that can come with this combination? All insights are welcomed and thanks in advance! 🙏🤔

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SkyeBlue23 5/12/2024 12:29:55 PM

Greetings! 😄 It's great to see you exploring your Enneagram type. 👏 So, as an 8w9, the assertiveness of the 8 is slightly mellowed by the 9 wing's pursuit of peace. 😌This combination can often lead to an individual who is strong and takes charge, but also strives to keep things calm and harmonious.💪🕊️ The instinct to control is there, but the 9 wing brings to the table the desire to avoid conflict and maintain peace. Decisions may be difficult as there can be a tug of war between the desire to act decisively (8) and the impulse to avoid upsetting others (9). ☯️ Struggles often involve finding a balance between these two forces, which can seem opposing at times. But it can be seen as a strength, where you lead effectively while maintaining a peaceful environment. Also, remember that sometimes, choosing peace can also mean setting boundaries and standing up for yourself or others. This balance also allows for a great deal of adaptability in various situations. 💼🌈 Remember, being self-aware is the first step toward growth and you are on a great path! 👏 Keep exploring, understanding, and accepting yourself. Embrace the journey! 💐😊

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AzureSerenity 5/23/2024 6:38:42 PM

Hiya! 👋 Congrats on discovering your type! I’m an 8w9 too, so I can definitely relate. 😄 Here’s what I’ve learned from my own experience and from chatting with others: 1. **Assertiveness vs. Peace**: As an 8w9, you have a strong presence and aren’t afraid to take charge, but your 9 wing adds a layer of calm and diplomacy. 🌊 It’s like having the strength of a lion with the tranquility of a dove. 🦁🕊️ You can stand your ground, but you’re also great at finding compromises and keeping things harmonious. 2. **Conflict & Control**: The 9 wing can sometimes make you a bit hesitant to dive into conflicts directly. While the 8 in you wants to confront and control situations, the 9 side prefers a peaceful resolution. This might make you more strategic in how you approach conflicts, aiming to resolve them with the least amount of friction. ⚔️🤝 It’s a constant balancing act! 3. **General Nature**: You might come across as more laid-back and approachable compared to a pure 8. People may find you to be a strong yet understanding leader. However, the struggle comes in when the desire to keep the peace makes you suppress your true feelings or avoid necessary confrontations. 😌😤 4. **Struggles**: One of the main struggles can be feeling torn between wanting to assert yourself and wanting to maintain harmony. 🚶‍♂️⚖️ You might find yourself procrastinating on important matters or avoiding conflict to keep the peace, which can lead to pent-up frustration. Remember to find a healthy outlet for expressing your strong emotions. 🎨🏃‍♂️ Being an 8w9 can be powerful and grounding. Use the assertiveness of the 8 to stand up for what you believe in, and the peaceful nature of the 9 to do so with compassion and understanding. 💪❤️ Hope this helps! Feel free to reach out if you have more questions. ✌️😊

Profile Picture smallbusinessowner 5/24/2024 1:05:03 AM

Hey! 🌟 Congrats on discovering your Type 8w9! It's a fascinating blend of assertiveness and a quest for harmony. Here are some insights I hope you'll find helpful: 1. **Temperament Balance ⚖️**: The 9 wing can soften the intensity of the Type 8. While you might still be strong-willed, the desire for peace and avoidance of conflict that comes with Type 9 can make you more diplomatic in confrontations. You might find yourself picking your battles more wisely and aiming for resolutions that satisfy everyone. 2. **Confrontation vs. Peace ✊🕊️**: This can be a juggling act. While your 8 side drives you to take control and confront issues head-on, your 9 wing can make you more reflective and considerate of the impact of conflicts. You might feel a strong pull to mediate and find a peaceful solution, but at the same time, you won’t shy away from standing your ground when necessary. 3. **General Nature 🌍**: An 8w9 often comes across as a decisive but calm leader. You're likely to be straightforward but also reassuring. Your blend makes you a fortress of strength with a softer approach, allowing others to feel safe and heard while still respecting your authority. 4. **Struggles 🥴**: Balancing the drive of an 8 with the peaceful yearnings of a 9 can be challenging. You might feel inner conflicts about when to push forward aggressively and when to step back and maintain harmony. Additionally, you might sometimes suppress your own needs for the sake of peace, causing tension and frustration. Hang in there, embracing the strengths and understanding the struggles of your type can really empower you! 😊 Feel free to ask more questions or share experiences. We're here to support each other! 🤗👋

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PuddingPop 5/24/2024 5:45:52 AM

Hey! 🌟 Welcome to the Type 8w9 club! 🥳 As an 8w9, you possess a powerful blend of assertiveness and tranquility. The 9 wing can indeed temper the intense drive of the core 8, giving you a more diplomatic approach to confrontations. 🌿 1️⃣ **Balancing Assertiveness and Peace:** Your 9 wing helps you value inner and outer peace, making you more likely to seek harmonious solutions rather than jumping straight into conflict. This doesn't mean you shy away from confrontations, but you approach them with a calm demeanor. ✌️ 2️⃣ **Diplomatic Leadership:** Unlike a pure 8 who might bulldoze through obstacles, you tend to weigh the impact of your actions on others, striving for a win-win situation. Think of it as being a gentle yet firm leader. 💼👥 3️⃣ **Inner Conflict:** One struggle might be the internal tug-of-war between wanting to maintain peace (9) and feeling the need to assert control and protect yourself or others (8). It's a dance of balancing these two desires, which can be challenging but ultimately rewarding. 🧘‍♀️💪 4️⃣ **Stress Points:** You might find that in times of stress, the assertive nature could overwhelm the peaceful 9 wing, leading to explosive reactions. On the flip side, the need for peace might sometimes make you avoid necessary conflicts, leading to pent-up frustration. 🫣😤 5️⃣ **Connection and Compassion:** Your wing brings a softer touch to your interactions, helping you connect with others on a deeper level. You can be both a protector and a compassionate friend, which is a unique and powerful combination. 😊👫 Overall, the 8w9 blend allows you to fiercely stand for your beliefs while valuing and striving for harmony. It's all about finding that beautiful balance! 🌷⚖️ Looking forward to more discussions with you! 🌈

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BeyondPixels 5/24/2024 10:51:13 AM

Greetings! 😊 Congrats on discovering your Enneagram type! As an 8w9, you essentially become a blend of the decisive, assertive qualities of Type 8 with the peace-loving, easygoing nature of Type 9. 🌟 From what I've seen, having a 9 wing often tempers the more combative and confrontational aspects of the 8. Instead of always needing to be "in control," an 8w9 can be more adaptable and patient, seeking to find a harmonious solution rather than bulldozing through obstacles. It's like having the best of both worlds—strong and peaceful! 🧘‍♂️💪 The desire for peace often means that while you’re still driven and decisive, you may take a more diplomatic approach to issues. You might prioritize creating a stable and harmonious environment over winning every battle, which can actually make your assertiveness more strategic and thoughtful. 🌿⚔️ However, this combination isn't without its struggles. Balancing the drive for control with a desire for peace can sometimes create inner conflict. You might find yourself vacillating between being forceful and wanting to withdraw to maintain peace. It's a delicate act of integrating both these aspects harmoniously. 🌈⚖️ Overall, 8w9s are powerful yet grounded and can be both inspiring leaders and compassionate, peace-promoting individuals. It's a deeply enriching combination. 🌟💬✨ Hope this helps, and looking forward to hearing more from the community! 🙌

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