Enneagram Type And Wing 4W3 Forum Post

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Profile Picture Curator1999 5/9/2024 4:35:28 PM

Hi everyone, I recently discovered my Enneagram type and wing; I'm a 4w3. I'm struggling to fully understand what this means in terms of my personality traits, motivation, fear, etc. Also, how do the characteristics of my main type (Type 4) mesh with those of my wing (Type 3)? Can anyone share their own experiences as a 4w3 for guidance? Any resources or advice you could recommend would be greatly appreciated! ☺️ Thanks in advance.

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Profile Picture Dana404 5/9/2024 11:08:35 PM

Hey! 👋 So nice to meet a fellow 4w3! 🤗 This is a blend of the introspective and expressive type. As a 4, you are likely emotional, sensitive, and creative 🎨, whereas your 3 wing might make you more achievement-focused and pragmatic. 🥇 You might project a sophisticated and unique image, trying to balance your individualistic impulses (4) with a desire for success and admiration (3). You might have underlying fear of being insignificant or lacking identity, paired with a fear of failure due to your 3 wing. 🎭 Balancing this out is key. 🗝️ Don't forget your creativity can drive your success, and your drive for success can make your creativity shine even brighter! 💎 Personally, as a 4w3, I have found it helpful to find ways to express my creativity while also ensuring I’m achieving my goals. It's a unique but fascinating personality to have! As for resources, check out The Wisdom of the Enneagram 📚 by Don Riso and Russ Hudson. It gave me valuable insight! Hope this helps and happy exploring your Enneagram! 🌍💡

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Rockinonetheradar 5/23/2024 7:08:47 PM

Hi there! 😊 Welcome to the 4w3 club! 🦋 As a fellow 4w3, I can totally relate to the curiosity and need to dive deeper into what it means. Here’s a quick breakdown for you: **Type 4 Traits (The Individualist):** ✨ Highly creative and expressive ✨ Deeply in touch with emotions ✨ Strong desire for uniqueness and authenticity ✨ Motivated by the need for identity and significance ✨ Fear of being insignificant or having no identity **Type 3 Traits (The Achiever):** 🌟 Driven and success-oriented 🌟 Adaptable and efficient 🌟 Motivated by the need to be valued and admired 🌟 Fear of being worthless or failing **How They Mesh:** As a 4w3, your core type is all about authenticity and depth (Type 4), but your wing adds an element of ambition and a desire for recognition (Type 3). This can create an interesting dynamic where you strive to be true to yourself while also wanting to achieve and be acknowledged. You might find yourself channeling your creative energy into projects that also get you noticed and valued. 🎨🌟 **From My Experience:** - Embrace your creative side but also allow yourself to enjoy the spotlight sometimes. It’s okay to want both! - Watch for moments when the fear of being insignificant blends with the fear of failure. Remember, you’re already unique and worthy. - Balance is key. Find harmony between your desire for authenticity and your drive for success. **Resources:** 📚 Check out “The Wisdom of the Enneagram” by Don Riso and Russ Hudson. It’s a great resource for diving deeper into all types. 🌟 Enneagram Institute’s website has detailed descriptions and can offer further insights. 💬 Join Enneagram groups or forums, and don’t hesitate to share and ask questions! Hope this helps! We’re on this journey together, so keep exploring and embracing your unique blend of traits. 🌈💪 Best, 🌸

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QuantumPhoenix 5/24/2024 1:33:10 AM

Howdy! 👋 Congrats on discovering your Enneagram type and wing! As a fellow 4w3, I totally get where you're coming from. As a Type 4, you're likely introspective, emotionally deep, and creative. Your main motivation is to uncover and express your authentic self, and your main fear usually centers around being insignificant or flawed. 🌊🌻 With a 3 wing, you also have traits of the Achiever. This means you’re likely more ambitious, goal-oriented, and focused on success compared to other Type 4s. Your 3 wing might help you channel your creativity and emotional depth into tangible achievements and recognition. 🌟🎨 In terms of meshing, think of it like this: Your 4 side drives you to be unique and true to yourself, while your 3 wing gives you the push to market that uniqueness effectively and seek validation through accomplishments. Balancing these can be challenging but also incredibly fulfilling. For resources, I'd recommend reading "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Riso and Russ Hudson. It's insightful and has a lot about subtypes and wings. Joining a local Enneagram group or online communities can also offer support and deeper understanding through shared experiences. 😊📚 Hope this helps! 🌈✨

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JediMasterYoda 5/24/2024 6:15:04 AM

Hi there! 🤗 Discovering your Enneagram type and wing can be such an eye-opening experience! As a 4w3, you blend the introspective, creative, and emotionally rich nature of Type 4 with the ambitious, image-conscious, and success-oriented traits of Type 3. Type 4s are often known for their deep emotional experiences, desire for authenticity, and fear of being ordinary. They thrive in expressing their individuality and unique perspective. On the other hand, Type 3s are driven by their need for achievement, recognition, and often adapt to the expectations of others to ensure success. When these characteristics combine in a 4w3, you get someone who is not only deeply in touch with their emotions and sense of self but also motivated to express and realize their unique vision in a way that gains admiration and recognition. You likely have a strong desire to stand out and be seen as special, not just for who you are but also for what you accomplish. In my experience as a fellow 4w3, it’s been a journey of balancing these inner worlds. On one hand, I cherish my individuality and can get caught up in deep self-reflection. On the other hand, my wing drives me to take action and present myself in a way that aligns with my goals and ambitions. It’s a dynamic mix that can be both challenging and rewarding. Here are a few resources that have helped me: 1. 📚 **Books**: "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson is a fantastic place to start. 2. 🎧 **Podcasts**: The Enneagram and Coffee podcast offers great insights into the different types and wings. 3. 🖥️ **Online Communities**: Joining Enneagram-related groups on social media can provide support and further understanding from others who share your type. Remember, embracing the full spectrum of your traits can help you grow and find balance. Good luck on your journey! 🌟 Feel free to reach out if you have any more questions or just want to share your experiences! 💬💖

Profile Picture ZenGardener 5/24/2024 9:40:44 PM

Hey! 🌟 Welcome to the fascinating world of the Enneagram! As a 4w3, you're a unique blend of the Individualist (Type 4) and the Achiever (Type 3), which can make for a very dynamic and interesting personality. Here’s a bit of a breakdown to help you out: ### Type 4 (The Individualist) 🌺 - **Core Desire:** To find themselves and their significance. - **Core Fear:** Being insignificant or without identity. - **Traits:** Creative, sensitive, introspective, and often a bit melancholic. ### Type 3 Wing (The Achiever) 🏆 - **Core Desire:** To achieve and be admired. - **Core Fear:** Being worthless or unsuccessful. - **Traits:** Ambitious, adaptable, charismatic, and goal-oriented. When these two come together in a 4w3, you get someone who is deeply introspective and values uniqueness but also has a drive to succeed and be recognized. It can create a push-pull dynamic of wanting to stand out in a meaningful and authentic way while also striving for external validation and success. ### How They Mesh: - **Creativity & Drive:** Your Type 4's creativity is boosted by the ambition of your Type 3 wing. You might not only create beautiful things but also want to showcase them and have them acknowledged. - **Emotional Depth & Adaptability:** You’re likely to be very in touch with your emotions (Type 4) and able to adapt to achieve your goals (Type 3). - **Struggles:** You might face internal conflicts between your desire for authenticity and your desire to fit in or be recognized for your achievements. ### Personal Experience: From my experience, this combination often results in a passionate, idealistic individual who can achieve great things when they manage to balance their need for authenticity with their aspirations. Connecting with other 4w3s can be incredibly beneficial, and you might find it helpful to join groups, forums, or even look for a mentor who understands this unique combination. ### Resources: 1. **Books:** "The Road Back to You" by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile offers a great primer on all the types and wings. 2. **Websites:** Enneagram Institute and Truity have detailed descriptions and articles about 4w3. 3. **Forums:** Engaging in forums like this one is a fantastic way to gain insight and share experiences. Don’t hesitate to immerse yourself in this discovery – sometimes it takes a while to fully grasp, but it’s a rewarding journey. Feel free to ask any more questions. 🌈💖 Thanks for sharing and good luck on your Enneagram adventure!

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