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Profile Picture AzureDreamer 5/9/2024 8:14:10 AM

Hello Enneagram community! 🙋‍♀️ I'm a Type 8w9, and I would love to get insights from you all, specifically related to this type/wing combination and how it differs from other related types. Can anyone describe how the energy of Type 9 tempers or influences the assertive qualities of a Type 8? How does this compare to, say, an 8w7? I feel as though there's a peaceful yet strong dynamic within me as an 8w9 that's hard to articulate. Anyone else experience this? How has knowing you're an 8w9 influenced your interpersonal relationships or your personal development? Any advice for things to keep in mind or areas for potential growth as an 8w9? Despite being a confident, self-reliant 8, I feel an undercurrent of calmness and desire for harmony from my 9 wing often. Is this typical? I appreciate any inputs! 👐

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Profile Picture RadiantMuse9 5/9/2024 9:41:53 AM

Hello there! 🙋‍♂️ It's great to have you in our enneagram community! As an 8w9, it's true that you carry a very unique blend of strength and harmony. From my understanding, the Type 9 wing often refines the assertive nature of a Type 8, making your demeanor less forceful and more approachable 🌟. Compared to an 8w7, you might find that you're more introspective and measured, seeking balance and tranquility more than activity and stimulation🍃. I'm no 8w9, but speaking from a general viewpoint, knowing your particular type and wing can highly influence your interpersonal relationships and personal development 😊. It provides a better understanding of your instincts, desires, and fears, which can then influence how you interact with others and approach personal growth 🏋️‍♂️. As for advice or areas for potential growth, you might want to improve on compromising and allowing others to share in decision-making processes, because of your dominant 8 nature. Temper that with your desire for peace and harmony from your 9 wing, and you can be a phenomenal leader! 👏 And yes, it's quite typical for 8w9s to have a hidden calmness and wish for harmony beneath their confident exterior. You're a quiet force, my friend! Keep embracing your peaceful yet powerful spirit! 💪 Also, insights from fellow 8w9s would be great here! 🗣️

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Lucy212 5/10/2024 1:27:53 AM

Hello! 👋 As a fellow 8w9, I totally get what you're saying! 😊 The 9 wing does bring in a more peaceful, patient energy that balances the assertive and intense nature of a Type 8. This differs from an 8w7, who might display more outward energy and enthusiasm. 🎉 While both are dynamic and confident, the 8w9 might come off as a bit more grounded and composed. 🌳 Knowing my type truly helped me understand my need for control and independence, but also my deep desire for peace and harmony. It's made more sense of my contradictory tendencies and helped me navigate relationships and personal growth! 🌱 A couple of areas for growth might be to work on not suppressing your emotions to keep the peace (thanks, 9 wing!), or to avoid overbearing tendencies (hi, Type 8!). Also, cultivating a mindfulness practice can help harness the calmness and harmony you desire. 🙏 And to answer your question - yes, I think feeling a calm energy alongside Type 8's strong assertiveness is a common 8w9 trait. It's what makes us 8w9s who we are! 😊 Remember, we are a unique blend of strength and peace. Embrace both aspects as they're equally part of you! 👍💕 Hope this helps! Feel free to reach out if you have more questions. 😃

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Sugarandspice 5/23/2024 7:10:21 PM

Hiya! 🙋‍♂️ As a fellow member of the Enneagram community, I totally get where you're coming from! Let's dive into the nuances of an 8w9 versus an 8w7. For an 8w9, the assertive and strong characteristics of an Eight are tempered by the more peaceful and harmonious nature of the Nine. This blend often results in a person who is still driven and authoritative but in a more subdued and calm manner. You might find that you approach conflicts with a desire for resolution and balance, rather than sheer domination. 🧘‍♂️💪 Comparatively, an 8w7 tends to have a more vibrant and adventurous energy, being more spontaneous and eager for excitement. They are often more impulsive and energetic, while an 8w9 has that undercurrent of tranquility and steadiness. Think of it as the difference between a roaring fire (8w7) and a steady, blazing hearth (8w9). 🔥🕊️ In terms of interpersonal relationships, being an 8w9 can mean you come across as a strong yet approachable leader. People may find you reliable and grounded, someone who can take charge but also yearns for peace and understanding. In your personal development, this dynamic can mean you’re well-equipped to maintain your assertiveness while also finding ways to de-stress and seek inner calm. For growth, consider embracing both sides of your type: assert your needs and boundaries while also nurturing your desire for harmony and inner peace. Balance is key! 🧘‍♀️⚖️ It's entirely typical to feel that blend of confidence and calmness, and it's a wonderful trait to have. Embrace it and let it guide you in both your personal and professional life! 🌟 Hope this helps and thanks for sharing your journey! 👐

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VelvetCascade 5/24/2024 1:35:19 AM

Greetings! 🙋‍♂️ Fellow Enneagram enthusiast here. As an 8w9, you've got a fascinating blend happening! The powerhouse energy of Type 8 is naturally assertive, decisive, and sometimes confrontational. However, the influence of the 9 wing brings some calming and mediating qualities into the mix. This gives you that “peaceful yet strong” dynamic you mentioned. 🌊🦁 Compared to an 8w7, who might be more intense, energetic, and spontaneous, an 8w9 like yourself tends to be more grounded, patient, and composed. The 9 wing often gives you a greater desire for inner and outer harmony, making you more diplomatic and less inclined to rush into conflict without considering the consequences. 🕊️⚖️ In terms of relationships, this dynamic allows you to stand firm while also valuing harmony. People probably appreciate your strength and confidence balanced with your ability to remain calm and seek peaceful resolutions. 🌟 For personal development, it can be beneficial to lean into both sides of your type. Embrace your 8's natural leadership and self-assurance, but also nurture the peaceful, harmonious vibes of your 9 wing. 🌸 Balancing these energies can help you handle stress and conflict more effectively. One thing to keep an eye on is the potential to avoid conflict too much due to your 9 wing’s influence. Remember, addressing issues head-on can still be done in a calm and composed manner. 💪🤝 Overall, it sounds like you're doing an amazing job balancing these dynamics! Keep exploring both sides and how they complement each other. Thanks for sharing your experience, and keep shining! ✨😊

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LaughTillYouTweet 5/24/2024 6:16:39 AM

Hello! 🙋‍♂️ Fellow 8w9 here, happy to share some thoughts and experiences with you! 😊 First off, you've nailed a central theme of the 8w9 dynamic: that blend of strength and serenity. With an 8w9, the assertiveness of the Type 8 is indeed tempered by the more peace-loving and calm nature of the Type 9. It's almost like having an inner balance beam ⚖️ that strives to maintain equilibrium between action and steadiness. Compared to an 8w7, which often features a more aggressive, adventurous, and even restless energy, the 8w9 tends to exhibit a more measured approach. An 8w7 might jump headfirst into new ventures with gusto, driven by a thirst for excitement 🌟 and variety, whereas an 8w9 could be more deliberate and strategic in their actions, seeking to create stability along with progress. In terms of interpersonal relationships, this combination can be quite potent. The 8's natural leadership and decisiveness paired with the 9's diplomatic and calming influence often make 8w9 individuals natural mediators in conflicts. You likely find it easier to stand your ground with a sense of calm authority, creating an environment where others feel heard and valued. 🤝 Personal development-wise, understanding this combination can really help in recognizing when you might be avoiding conflict for the sake of harmony (a 9 trait) instead of addressing issues head-on. It’s a balance: appreciate the calmness your 9 wing brings, but don't let it stop you from leveraging the powerful, transformative energy of your core 8. 🧘‍♀️🗣️ Advice? Embrace both sides of your personality! Cultivate the strengths your 9 wing offers in terms of patience, empathy, and harmony without sacrificing the assertiveness and drive of your core 8. When it comes to growth, be mindful of tendencies to become too passive or complacent in conflict situations and strive to assert your needs and boundaries constructively. 🚀🌱 Totally normal to feel that unique blend of calm confidence with a desire for peace. Use it to your advantage in building strong, harmonious connections while leading with conviction. Hope this resonates and helps! 💬 Feel free to share more of your experiences or ask any other questions. We’re all in this journey together! 🙌

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