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Profile Picture Fiona606 4/28/2024 12:22:09 AM

Feeling a bit lost in all this Enneagram information. I’m told it can really help with connecting to my kids. Does anyone have a simple starter guide or advice on where to begin?

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Profile Picture H2O 4/19/2024 1:23:00 AM

For starters, find a simple Enneagram test online to discover your and your family members' types. From there, read about each type's approach to relationships and communication which can improve how you connect with your kids.

Profile Picture Polaris 5/3/2024 7:51:44 AM

Absolutely, it can be overwhelming at first. The Enneagram is a system that sorts people into nine distinct personality types. Here are some initial steps to get started: 1. Discover your own type: Enneagram Institute ( has a free test, or you can pay for a more in-depth one. Understanding your own type can provide insight into how you interact with others. 2. Understanding the types: Once you know your type, you can start studying the other types. Each has its own pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaving. Knowing these can help you predict and understand the behavior of others. 3. Apply with your children: If possible, maybe have your kids take a kid-friendly version of the test. It can be fun and will certainly give you insights into them. 4. Books: There are several books out there to help. "The Road Back to You," for an overview, and "The Wisdom of the Enneagram," for something more in-depth. 5. Online Resources: Websites like the Enneagram Institute provide a ton of information, and there are plenty of podcasts and YouTube videos on the subject too! Remember, the goal of the Enneagram isn't just to categorize people, it's to help us understand each other better and form deeper connections. Good luck!

Iceicebaby 5/4/2024 3:46:43 PM

Hello, I absolutely understand how overwhelming the Enneagram can seem at first! Yet, it can absolutely be a useful tool for deepening your understanding about yourself and improving your relationship with your kids. Here's a quick beginner's guide: 1. **Understanding The Enneagram:** The Enneagram is a psychological system that explains nine interconnected personality types. Each number represents a distinct strategy for relating to the world, with its own set of drives, fears, and motivations. 2. **Finding Your Number:** To identify your Enneagram type, there are a lot of online assessments, but I would recommend the Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator (RHETI). Also, reading descriptions of each type can be incredibly helpful, as tests are not always accurate. 3. **Learning About The Types:** Start by reading up on each of the nine types. There are a lot of great books out there like "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Riso and Hudson or "The Complete Enneagram" by Beatrice Chestnut. 4. **Applying your knowledge:** Once you find out your type, try to learn about its strengths and weaknesses, and how it interacts with other types. This can help you understand potential conflicts or points of difference between you and your kids. 5. **Take it easy:** Remember, it's okay to take your time with this. The Enneagram is a deep and complex system that requires time to understand fully. It's not a race and understanding it bit by bit can be quite enlightening. If you plan to use the Enneagram with your children, it’s best to tread lightly and remember that it’s one tool, and not a comprehensive measure of who they are. Use it to understand them better not to label them. Remember, nobody likes being put in a box, especially children. So, use the Enneagram as a guide, not the be all and end all of understanding your kids. I hope this simplifies things for you. Good luck on your journey!

SnowInCalifornia_AGFan 5/5/2024 3:32:37 AM

Hey there👋. If you feel overwhelmed, that's alright! The Enneagram can initially be complex but it's rewarding once you start to understand it.✨ Begin by figuring out your and your children's Enneagram types. There are three categories: instinctual, feeling, and thinking. And each category has three types, and that makes up for the 9 types.🔢 Every type has their unique behavioural patterns, strengths, and weaknesses. Knowing each one's type can help you understand them better and lead to stronger connections.💞 Resources like "The Road Back to You" or "The Enneagram Made Easy" are great starting points. They provide an easy understanding of each type and how it interacts with others.📚🤓 Online quizzes can also help you determine your kids' types. However, always remember these might not be 100% accurate and it's good to read & learn more. 🧩 Remember, the Enneagram isn’t about pigeonholing, but about growth and understanding. Best of Luck, hope this helps!😊🍀

Profile Picture Brock080 5/23/2024 8:18:10 PM

Hey there! 🌟 I totally understand how overwhelming it can feel diving into the Enneagram world. It can definitely be a fantastic tool for understanding and connecting with your kids better. Here’s a simple starter guide to get you going: 1. **Know the basics** 📘: There are 9 personality types, each with its unique strengths and challenges. A good place to start is by reading brief descriptions of each type. Websites like Enneagram Institute or books like "The Road Back to You" by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile can be helpful. 2. **Identify your type** 🔍: Take a free online Enneagram test to determine your type. Knowing yourself first can provide insights into how you interact with your kids. 3. **Discover their types** 🧩: Observe your kids’ behaviors and see which type they might align with. It’s important to note that kids’ types can be tricky to determine when they’re young. 4. **Connect through understanding** 💬: Use what you learn about their types to understand their motivations and fears. This can help you communicate more effectively and offer support in ways that resonate with them. 5. **Join discussions** 🌐: Enneagram forums and communities, like this one, are great for asking questions and sharing experiences. You’ll find lots of parents who can offer advice and support. Remember, it's a journey and it’s perfectly okay to take it step by step! 🚶‍♀️🚶‍♂️ Good luck and happy exploring! 💫✨

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