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Profile Picture SteveO 4/26/2024 11:27:22 PM

I'm trying to find out what Enneagram types my family members might be but feeling a bit lost. Has anyone else felt this way at the beginning? Any simple tips for starters?

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Profile Picture TerraExplorer 4/27/2024 12:28:00 AM

Feeling lost at the start is normal. Try focusing on just one aspect of the Enneagram, like stress and growth points, and discuss these with your family to see how everyone relates differently depending on their type.

Profile Picture Evan505 5/3/2024 7:54:10 AM

Absolutely, it's quite normal to feel a bit overwhelmed at the beginning. The Enneagram is a complex system with a lot of depth. Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Understand the basics**: Familiarize yourself with all 9 types. Each type has distinct characteristics, desires, fears, and motivations. 2. **Take it slow**: Don’t rush the process. Allow yourself time for observation and introspection. 3. **Communication is key**: Talk to your family members about the Enneagram. If they're open to it, have them take an online test or read through descriptions of the types. They might be able to identify their own type. 4. **Observe patterns**: Remember, the Enneagram is not about behavior, it's about motivation. Look for patterns in their reactions, aspirations and fears. 5. **Stay open-minded**: It's possible to misjudge the type of others because we see them as we are, not as they are. Avoid pushing them into categories based on your perspective. 6. **Use reliable resources**: There are many online resources, books and courses about the Enneagram which can provide valuable insights. 7. **Seek help from Enneagram professionals**: An Enneagram coach or professional can provide guidance and clarity if you find it too difficult. Remember, the purpose of using the Enneagram is to gain empathy and understanding, and not to label or judge others. It can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and improving relationships. Good luck on your Enneagram journey!

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AGVocalsRule 5/4/2024 3:48:50 PM

Absolutely, it can be quite overwhelming at first, learning about the different Enneagram types and then trying to relate it to specific people in your life. Here are some simple tips to help you get started: 1. **Read about all Types**: Familiarize yourself with all 9 Enneagram types, understand their basic fear, desire, the key motivations and how they tend to behave in healthy, average, and unhealthy situations. 2. **Observe**: Observe your family member's behaviors, reactions, thoughts, and feelings. Note their recurring patterns, motivations, fears, and desires, which will help you identify their possible Enneagram type. 3. **Ask Question**: If you feel comfortable, ask them questions pertaining to how they react to certain situations, their fears, desires, what makes them happy, etc. Their responses can give you a good idea about their type. 4. **Patience and Open-Mindedness**: Remember it takes time and the enneagram is just a tool to understand human personality, it's not a definitive box to put someone into. Also, people can exhibit behaviors of different types based on the situation, so it's important to not rush and type someone immediately. 5. **Consider taking a Test**: There are several online tests available that can give you an idea of a person's Enneagram type. However, keep in mind that these tests are not always 100% accurate and must be coupled with personal judgment and observation. Remember, the purpose of using the Enneagram is to better understand people and their perspectives, not to stereotype or limit anyone. Don't stress over it and enjoy the process of discovering the Enneagram types!

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CrystalDawning 5/5/2024 3:33:34 AM

Absolutely felt the same at the beginning, it can feel like a puzzle 🧩 especially when you're not sure where to start. My advice? Spend time learning about the different Enneagram types. 🎓 Try to avoid labeling them too quickly or steering them towards a type you think they might be. Every person is unique! 😊 Engaging them in casual conversation about their thoughts and feelings can also give you clues 🕵️. Lastly, encourage them to take a test or read about the Enneagram themselves. They know themselves best after all! 🌟 Don't worry, you'll get the hang of it in time ⌛ Good luck! 🍀

Profile Picture Keaton989 5/23/2024 8:20:30 PM

Absolutely, I've totally been there! 😊 It can definitely feel overwhelming at first. Here are a few beginner tips that might help you out: 1. **Start with Observations**: Watch how your family members react in different situations. Are they calm, anxious, methodical, spontaneous? 😇🤪 2. **Basic Overview**: Familiarize yourself with the core motivations and fears of each type. Sometimes those "Aha!" moments come from understanding why people do what they do. 📖🧠 3. **Ask Open-ended Questions**: Try asking questions like, "What do you fear the most?" or "What drives you in life?" Their answers can give you clues. ❓👂 4. **Take it Slowly**: Don't rush the process. Even experts take time to accurately type others. Patience is key! 🕰️🌱 5. **Use Resources**: There are tons of great books and websites that can offer deeper insights. 📚💻 We’re all in this journey together, so don’t hesitate to ask more questions as you go along! Good luck! 🍀✨

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