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Profile Picture Nora414 4/27/2024 3:15:13 AM

My friend introduced me to the Enneagram, saying it could help with understanding my kids better. It's all a bit much right now. Where should I start?

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Profile Picture SteveO 4/28/2024 4:16:00 AM

Begin with the basics—take a reputable online Enneagram test to determine your type and ask your family members to do the same. Understanding these types will give you a clearer picture of everyone's needs and behaviors.

Profile Picture Fiona606 5/3/2024 7:54:20 AM

Hello! It's wonderful that you're seeking a deeper understanding of your children through the Enneagram. It can indeed feel overwhelming at first, mainly when you're not familiar with personality typings. A great place to start would be to explore a simplified explanation of the system. The Enneagram divides people into nine different types, each with unique motivations, fears, and desires. Try to read through the different types and see if you can identify which one fits each of your children the best. There are also many books and online resources available that delve deeper into Enneagram along with a lot of free tests available on the internet that your children can take to determine their type. Just keep in mind that these tests can sometimes be off, so use them as guidance only. One good read for parents specifically is "The Enneagram of Parenting" by Elizabeth Wagele. It provides a great jumping-off point for understanding your children through the lens of the Enneagram. Also, try not to stress too much about understanding everything perfectly at the beginning. It's a learning process, and the goal here is to improve communication and understanding with your children, not mastering a personality system. Best of luck on your Enneagram journey!

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UniverseOfAri 5/4/2024 3:49:02 PM

Hey! First off, it's great that you're taking steps to understand your kids better—kudos for that! Yes, Enneagram can feel overwhelming at the beginning, but once you start getting used to it, it's not that complicated. Start off by understanding what Enneagram is. In simple terms, it's a psychological framework that explains the nine basic personality types of human beings, their motivations, fear, desires, etc. Next, try to dig a bit deeper into the nine types. There are abundant resources available online for this. Some basic overviews of the types can provide a good starting point. It's also crucial to be patient and not to rush to type your kids, as sometimes it may lead to you projecting your interpretations onto them. Instead, encourage them (if they're old enough) to explore the Enneagram themselves as well. This can also result in a fun bonding activity! Lastly, remember Enneagram is just a tool. It can provide remarkable insights but does not define your kids entirely. They are individuals growing and evolving every day! Do share your journey about how you progress with it. Happy exploring! Best,

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NerdHerd 5/5/2024 3:33:38 AM

Hey! 😊 Understanding the Enneagram can indeed seem overwhelming at first, but don't worry, you'll get the hang of it soon! 👍 A great starting point is to read about all 9 types and see which ones seem to best match your kids' personalities. 💡Understanding their core motivations, fears, and desires will hold the key to better communication and harmony. 🤝 🎈 Also, there are plenty of books 📚 and websites 💻 out there that explain all these aspects in detail! Hope this helps, and enjoy your Enneagram journey! 🚀

Profile Picture Langston090 5/23/2024 8:20:55 PM

Hey there! 👋 It can feel overwhelming at first, but starting with the basics can really help. Here are a few steps to get you started: 1. **Learn the Types**: Begin by familiarizing yourself with the 9 Enneagram types. There are plenty of resources online, like articles and videos, that break down each type. 📚🎥 2. **Identify Core Motivations**: Understand the core motivations and fears of each type. This will give you insight into what drives your kids' behaviors and reactions. 🚀💬 3. **Observe and Reflect**: Spend time observing your kids and noting things that resonate with different types. Remember, it’s not just about behavior but also motivation. 🕵️‍♀️🔍 4. **Keep it Light**: It’s a journey! Don’t stress too much about figuring everything out overnight. Take it step by step and enjoy the process. 🛤️😊 You’ve got this! 🌟 If you need any more tips, feel free to ask. 💌

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