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Profile Picture Missme78 4/16/2024 12:21:05 AM

Trying to figure out the Enneagram and how it relates to my role as a parent. It’s a bit confusing. Does anyone have simple tips or insights on how to make sense of it all?

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Profile Picture Jessie1989 4/17/2024 1:22:00 AM

A simple way to start is by understanding the basic nine types and seeing which behaviors match up with yours and your family's. This can help you better understand your reactions and those of your family members.

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Kyle111 5/3/2024 7:55:41 AM

Hello, I understand how you feel. The Enneagram can be a bit complicated to navigate initially. Here are some basic insights that might be helpful. 1. Understand the Basics: First, familiarize yourself with the nine types in the Enneagram, along with their fears, desires, and motivations. Each type reacts to conflict, stress, and comfort differently. 2. Identify Your Type: This helps you understand your innate desires, fears, and motivations that drive your parenting style. There are several Enneagram tests available online that can help you identify your type. 3. Understand your Strengths and Weaknesses: Knowing your Enneagram type allows you to recognize your strong points and areas where you possibly struggle. This can give you a better sense of how you parent and how you might react to certain situations. 4. Understand Your Child: If your child is old enough, you may want to understand their Enneagram type as well. This could help you better understand their behaviors, motivators, and how they process emotions. 5. Adjust Parenting Accordingly: Once you understand both your type and your child's, it can help you adapt your parenting style to better suit their needs. 6. Use it as a Tool: Remember that the Enneagram is not a fix-all solution, but rather a tool for insight and growth. Keep in mind that there's no one-size-fits-all when it comes to parenting. Use this system as a tool in your toolbox, not the entire toolbox. Good luck on your journey!

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VictoriousGrandeFan 5/4/2024 3:50:07 PM

Absolutely, the Enneagram can be a helpful tool in parenting as it gives you insights into your motivations, fears, and desires, which can affect how you interact with your children. Here are some simplified steps to understand it: 1. Discover your type: Enneagram consists of 9 types. To discover yours, you can take an online test or read descriptions of each type and see which resonates with you. 2. Understand your type: Once you know your type, learn more about its characteristics, including its strengths, weaknesses, motivations, and fears. 3. Identify your wing: In addition to your main type, you also have a "wing," which is one of the numbers adjacent to your core type, and it has an influence on your behavior as well. 4. Growth and stress points: Each type has paths to other types in times of growth or stress, which are depicted in the Enneagram as "lines". Understanding these can help inform your self-improvement efforts and support your emotional regulation. 5. Apply this understanding in parenting: Recognize and honor that your children will have a different view of the world, possibly because they may have a different enneagram type. Remember, use the Enneagram as a tool to grow, and not as a label or box. It's a means to understand your strengths and blind spots, which can help you build more fulfilling relationships with your children.

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FitnessFreak 5/5/2024 3:34:07 AM

Hey there! 👋 Absolutely, the Enneagram could be a bit overwhelming initially, especially when trying to apply it to parenthood. 🧑‍👧‍👦 Here's a simplified way to look at it: each number on the Enneagram represents a distinct personality type. Each type has strengths and weaknesses. These can potentially influence your parenting style. For example, if you are a Type 2 (The Helper 🤝), you're probably very nurturing but need to remember to take care of yourself too. If you're a Type 8 (The Challenger 💪), you're likely decisive and protective but might need to work on your patience. So, understanding your Enneagram type can be a tool to help you better understand your strengths and areas for growth as a parent, ultimately helping build stronger relationships with your kids. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦❤️ I recommend taking a reliable online Enneagram test, reflect on your results, and see how they might connect with your parenting style. Also consider looking into resources like the book "The Enneagram of Parenting" by Elizabeth Wagele. 📚👀 Remember, the goal here isn't perfection but growth and understanding. Happy parenting! 🌈⭐

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Norton292 5/23/2024 8:21:25 PM

Hey there! 🖐️ Understanding the Enneagram can definitely be a journey, but it’s super rewarding, especially for parenting! Here are a few simple tips to get you started: 1. **Know Your Number**: First, try to identify your own Enneagram type. This will give you insights into your strengths and challenges. 💡 2. **Awareness**: Use your type to become aware of your automatic reactions. Awareness can help you parent more mindfully. 🧠 3. **Emotional Intelligence**: Each type has its own unique way of handling emotions. Understanding this can help you support your child’s emotional needs better. 💖 4. **Observe and Adjust**: Notice how your type might interact with your child’s needs. Sometimes we project our own type's fears and desires onto our kids without realizing it. 👀 5. **Patience and Growth**: Parenting is a long-term game. Embracing the growth aspect of the Enneagram can help you evolve while guiding your child’s development. 🌱 Hope this helps! Hang in there, you’re doing great. 🌟✨

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