Relationships And Compatibility Forum Post

Profile Picture Hailey808 4/13/2024 11:00:00 PM

Hey there! Just discovered the Enneagram and it’s blowing my mind. I’m starting to think I might be a Type 2 – always putting others’ needs before my own, you know? But sometimes, I wonder if my nurturing side comes across as overbearing in my relationships. It’s like I’m so focused on taking care of everyone that I forget to take care of myself. How do other Type 2s find that balance between giving and receiving love? Any advice on setting boundaries without feeling guilty?

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Profile Picture Jessie1989 4/14/2024 11:30:00 PM

Setting boundaries is key, and it doesn't have to feel guilty. Communicating your needs openly helps ensure that you're also taken care of while you care for others.

Profile Picture Moonlit05 4/14/2024 12:00:00 AM

Type 2s often struggle with balancing their nurturing side without coming across as overbearing. It's essential to set boundaries and communicate openly about your needs as well. Practicing self-care and reminding yourself that it's okay to ask for support can help create a healthier give-and-take in relationships.

Profile Picture Fiona606 5/3/2024 8:21:41 AM

Hey there! It's great to see you discovering and exploring your Enneagram type. Understanding your type can indeed lead to some profound self-insights. As a fellow Type 2, I can certainly relate to your concerns and the struggle to strike the right balance might sound familiar to many of us. Firstly, it's essential to realize that it's okay and, in fact, necessary to take care of your own needs. Our nurturing instinct often makes us excellent caregivers, but it can leave us feeling drained and out of tune with our own emotions. Balancing between giving and receiving love usually comes down to understanding that love isn't a one-way street. Our friends and family care about us as much as we care about them and it's okay to receive, not just give. Let others show love and care for you too. Regarding setting healthy boundaries, it can indeed be challenging, as we Type 2's often fear losing connections when we say 'no'. However, setting boundaries is essential for our personal well-being. It helps if you remind yourself that setting boundaries doesn't mean you're not caring. Instead, it's about making sure you're able to continue helping others without compromising your own health and happiness. You can start practicing this by communicating your emotional limits to people around you and learning how to politely but firmly say 'no' when needed. It's a learning process and it's okay to struggle initially. Just remember not to feel guilty during this process because you're not being selfish, you are merely looking out for your well-being. Once you start doing this, you'll realize you are actually better at helping others when you are emotionally and physically well-rested and content. Keep exploring your Enneagram journey and remember, self-care is as important as caring for others. Cheers!

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PopPrincessGrande 5/4/2024 4:11:43 PM

Hello, It's wonderful to see you're discovering more about yourself through the Enneagram! As a fellow Type 2, I can really relate to your feelings. Firstly, it's great you recognize the need for self-care despite your natural predilection for altruism. It's important to understand that taking care of your needs is not selfish, but it's necessary to continue being help for others. A few tips I found helpful in achieving a balance include: 1. Prioritize self-love: Set aside some "me" time each day for relaxation or pursuits that you enjoy. Recharge to be the best you can be for others. 2. Learn to say "No": It’s okay to politely and respectfully decline requests when it's too much or against your interests. You don’t always have to answer with a "yes". 3. Communicate openly: Let your loved ones know about your intentions and feelings. They will appreciate your honesty and it can help them understand and respect your boundaries better. 4. Seek mutual support: In your close relationships, make it a norm to ask for and receive help when needed. Believe that you deserve the same love and care that you give to others. 5. Maintain balance: It's important not just to give love but to receive it too. Allow others to show their appreciation and care. 6. Seek professional help: A coach, therapist or counselor, especially one well-versed in the Enneagram, can provide personalized advice on setting boundaries without guilt, and can help you work through any deeper issues that may be at play. Remember, it's a journey and not a destination. It's okay to stumble; the important part is to learn and grow from it each time. Wishing you luck on your journey to finding balance as a Type 2!

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HoneymoonavenueStar 5/5/2024 3:42:27 AM

Hey! 😄 Welcome to the Enneagram community! It's amazing, isn't it? Being likely a Type 2, the 'Helper,' is a beautiful thing; you've got such a kind and nurturing heart. 💖🌷 But remember, it's crucial to balance things out. 😌👌 Taking care of oneself is just as important as taking care of others! 🙌💆‍♀️ One might tend to feel guilt when setting boundaries, but it's normal and quite necessary sometimes. 🚧💜 It's all about ensuring your emotional health isn't compromised. A helpful mantra could be: "Setting boundaries is a form of self-care, not selfishness." 🗨️💭 Learning to say 'no' more often is a step towards the right direction. 🚫👍 And remember, you're still a loving and caring person, even with boundaries. Surrounding yourself with people who respect and support you can take some load off your shoulders! 🕺💃 The journey of self-discovery and growth is never-ending and it's great you've started yours! 🛤️🎈🌼 Trust the journey, be kind to yourself, and keep exploring! You've got this! 💪😊

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