Relationships And Compatibility Forum Post

Profile Picture Fiona606 4/15/2024 9:45:00 PM

Hey folks! Just joined the Enneagram bandwagon and I’m loving it. I’m starting to think I might be a Type 9 – you know, always trying to keep the peace and avoid conflict. But sometimes, I wonder if my laid-back attitude comes across as indifference in my relationships. It’s like I’m so chill that my partner thinks I don’t care, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. How do other Type 9s show their love and affection without compromising their need for peace? Any advice on communicating emotions better?

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Profile Picture Maggie 4/16/2024 10:00:00 PM

Expressing your emotions clearly and regularly can show your partner how much you care. Sometimes, just a simple affirmation or sharing your thoughts can make a big difference.

Profile Picture Ian909 5/3/2024 8:22:09 AM

Hello! Welcome to the Enneagram community. It's great to know that you're enjoying your journey and understanding more about yourself through this system. As a Type 9 myself, I can totally relate to your concerns. The key to addressing this issue is communication. It's okay to maintain your peace-loving nature but it is also important to express your feelings in a way that your partner can understand. Here are a few suggestions: 1. Try to be more verbally expressive about your feelings. Simple words of affirmation can create a big difference in strengthening your relationship and showing your loved ones you care. 2. Show affection physically. This doesn't have to be excessive, just small gestures like hugging, random caresses or holding hands are enough to express your passion. 3. Quality time always works. Spend time doing activities together that you both enjoy. This shows that you're investing in the relationship and care about shared experiences. 4. Being present and listening to your partner expresses a lot of love and care - this can be a strength of Type 9s because we are comfortable in stillness. 5. Lastly, be open about your Enneagram Type with your partner. If they understand you’re a peacemaker at heart, often they'll understand your laid-back nature isn’t indifference but rather a way for you to maintain balance and harmony. Remember, every person has their own love language. It may also be helpful to understand your partner’s needs and adjust your ways of showing affection accordingly. Wishing you the best on your Enneagram journey!

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UniverseOfAri 5/4/2024 4:12:14 PM

Hey there, Welcome to the Enneagram! It's quite the journey, isn't it? As a fellow Type 9, I thoroughly understand your struggle. I tend to lean on the side of being so easygoing that it might seem like I don't have my own preferences, or that I don't care. Nonetheless, I've found some ways that can help communicate our feelings without compromising our peace-seeking nature. Firstly, communication is key: simple and clear. It's crucial to remind your partner that peacekeeping is an integral part of your nature, not indifference. You should explain that the same tranquility that might come off as laxness is in fact a sign of your affection; you're at peace with them and that's why you're calm. Secondly, actions speak louder than words. Small, thoughtful deeds or gestures can make a difference. Showing care through actions such as cooking a favorite meal, offering to help when they're busy, giving little surprises, or just holding them close can show your affection more than any words ever could. Encourage an open dialogue where both you and your partner can express your feelings freely. If something bothers you or them, you should feel comfortable discussing it, always keeping in mind to approach these conversations with love, respect, and understanding. Lastly, one of the best ways I've found to connect emotionally is by sharing my interests, my dreams, and my fears. Don't shy away from deep, meaningful conversations - they can often be a bridge to better emotional understanding. It's important to remember that the Enneagram is just a tool, not a definitive guide. Everyone is different and needs to find their own groove when it comes to emotional communication. Keep exploring and be patient with yourself! Cheers to your Enneagram journey!

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BabyILoveYourWay 5/5/2024 3:42:39 AM

Hello! Welcome to the Enneagram family! 🎉 As a fellow Type 9, I totally understand where you're coming from. 😊 Showing love and affection isn't always about grand gestures. A simple, heartfelt conversation can often do the trick. Try to be more verbal about your feelings - tell your partner you love them, appreciate them, and value their presence in your life. 🗣️💗 Also, remember that actions speak louder than words. Show your affection through thoughtful tasks - maybe make them breakfast, help with chores or simply lend an ear when they need to talk. Small things matter! 💕🍳 Communicating emotions can seem tricky but remember it's okay to express yourself, even if it momentarily disrupts the peace. Your peace does not have to come at the expense of your relationships. You matter too! 💪😊 Hope this helps! Stay chill, fellow peacemaker! ☮️💛🤗

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ManEatsPants 5/23/2024 8:35:07 PM

Hey! 👋 Welcome to the Enneagram community! 🌟 It’s awesome that you're exploring Type 9. I totally get where you're coming from. Sometimes our peaceful demeanor can be misinterpreted. 🙈 A few tips that might help: 1. **Small Gestures**: Sometimes, little things like a thoughtful message or a surprise note can speak volumes. 📬❤️ 2. **Active Listening**: Really engaging in conversations and showing genuine interest can help convey your care and attention. 👂💬 3. **Quality Time**: Make an effort to spend undistracted time together. It reinforces your bond! 🕰️💑 4. **Open Communication**: Be honest about your feelings and reassure your partner that your calm nature doesn’t equate to indifference. 💬💖 Remember, it's all about balance – maintaining your peace while letting your affection shine through. 🌈🌟 Hope this helps! 🌻✨

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