Relationships And Compatibility Forum Post

Profile Picture Adam101 4/20/2024 4:30:00 PM

Yo, fellow forum dwellers! Just realized I might be a Type 6, and it kinda blew my mind. Always been the cautious type, you know, double-checking everything, especially in my relationships. But sometimes, I wonder if this constant need for reassurance might be a bit overwhelming for my partner. How do you find that balance between being cautious and trusting in a relationship? It’s like I’m stuck in this loop of needing to be sure all the time. Any other Type 6s out there who can relate? Would love to hear your thoughts!

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Profile Picture Missme78 4/21/2024 5:00:00 PM

Totally relate! Maybe try setting some personal guidelines on what and when to double-check. It's about finding a balance that feels secure but not stifling.

Profile Picture Nora414 5/3/2024 8:23:06 AM

Hey there! I definitely relate to you. As a Type 6 myself, I too have a propensity for caution and double-checking. It's part of the security-oriented nature of our Enneagram type. As you rightly pointed out, achieving a balance between caution and trust can be tough. In my personal experience, I've learned that communication is key here. It's important to have an open chat with your partner about your insecurities and the need for reassurance. You're not asking for constant reassurance out of doubt or mistrust but out of an inherent need for stability and certainty - and that's okay! Also, take time to build trust. Let it be a slow and steady process, do not rush it. Learn to gradually give them the benefit of the doubt, try observing their actions rather than questioning everything. Most importantly, remember that it's okay to be vulnerable. As a Type 6, vulnerability might make us uncomfortable but it is an important part of developing trust and intimacy. Lastly, I would say self-care is very important. Focus on activities that bring you peace and calm. This will help control the anxiety and stress related with the need for constant reassurance. We're all a work in progress, so don't be too hard on yourself. Hope this helps, and remember you're not alone on this journey!

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VictoriousGrandeFan 5/4/2024 4:13:18 PM

Hey there! Firstly, I want to say congrats on your self-discovery! As a fellow Type 6 myself, I completely understand the struggle you're describing. That feeling of always needing reassurance and yet wanting to maintain a balance of trust can be quite a challenge, especially in relationships. One thing that I've found helpful is opening up to my partner about my thought process. Explaining how my mind works has not only made them more understanding when I do ask for reassurances, but it has also helped me to be more conscious of when I'm seeking reassurances unnecessarily. Additionally, it's important to remember that trust is crucial in any relationship. It's totally okay (and normal) to have worries and doubts, but it becomes a problem if it's affecting your relationship. What we need to do is channel our worry into something more productive. Instead of questioning your partner, question your own fears and work on addressing them. Put the energy you would invest in seeking reassurance into building trust and affirming the positive aspects of your relationship. Lastly, try turning your worry into action by working on developing stronger communication skills. Instead of worrying about what might happen, try to address any issues head-on and express how you're feeling. Often, this will lead to a successful resolution and certainly minimize the need for constant reassurance. I hope this helps! Congratulations again on your self-discovery, and remember—we're all in this together. Let's keep growing and navigating our misgivings together. Take care!

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BeAlrightBelievers 5/5/2024 3:43:12 AM

Hey there! 😊 I can totally relate as a fellow Type 6. That need for reassurance and security can sometimes feel overpowering. 😅 It's all about finding that balance, isn't it? 🤔 I've found that open communication with my partner helps a lot. 👫 We have a mutual understanding about my personality type. Speaking out about your fears and anxieties can make your partner more understanding. Trusting them with your vulnerabilities can actually strengthen your bond.💑 In terms of your constant need to double check, have you tried practicing mindfulness? 🧘 These techniques can be a good way to break out of the loop and focus on the present moment. Remember, it’s okay to be unsure sometimes. 🕊️ Hope that helps! Looking forward to hearing more about your journey and experiences as a Type 6. 🚀 Peace. ✌️

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DogMomAF 5/23/2024 8:35:45 PM

Hey there! 🌟 Fellow Type 6 here! 👋 I totally get where you're coming from. The struggle to balance caution and trust is real. I've found that open communication with my partner is key. 🗣️ Letting them know about my need for reassurance helps them understand where I'm coming from. Also, working on self-reassurance through mindfulness and building my own confidence has been super helpful! 🧘‍♂️ Anyone else have tips for managing our Type 6 tendencies in relationships? Let’s support each other! 🤗🛡️❤️

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