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Profile Picture Moonlit05 4/27/2024 9:30:00 AM

Ever since I found out I might be a Type 2, it’s like a light bulb went off. I’ve always been the one my friends turn to when they need someone to listen, and I love being that person. But, I’ve started to wonder, where do you draw the line? Being so focused on others’ needs, I sometimes forget to look after myself. It’s like I’m running on empty, trying to fill everyone else’s cup. I’m learning it’s okay to say no and that taking care of myself isn’t selfish. It’s necessary. How do other Type 2s handle this? How do you make sure you’re not losing yourself in the process of helping others? It’s a balance I’m still trying to find. Would love to hear your thoughts and any advice you might have.

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Profile Picture Blake 4/28/2024 9:45:00 AM

Absolutely feel you on this. It's essential to set boundaries to avoid burnout. I started scheduling 'me' time into my calendar to ensure I don't overlook my own needs.

Profile Picture Missme78 5/3/2024 8:24:31 AM

Hello, Firstly, I just wanted to acknowledge your realization - it's a big step in understanding oneself. As a fellow Type 2, I can totally relate to your situation. Often we tend to neglect ourselves as we are busy catering to the needs of others. Here are a few tips that have helped me: 1. Setting boundaries: This doesn't mean you don't care about the other person's needs, it’s just acknowledging that your needs are just as important. 2. Self-Care: Find activities that you love and set aside time each week specifically dedicated to them. This could be reading, walking, yoga, painting – anything that fuels your spirit. 3. Mindfulness: Practice being 'in the moment'. It will help you recognize your feelings and needs more vividly. 4. Seek Support: Do not hesitate to seek help or advice when you need it - from friends, family, or even a professional counselor. 5. Daily check-ins: Keep some time daily to reflect on your thoughts, feelings and needs. This should help you better prioritize your tasks. 6. Use 'No': 'No' is not always a negative word. If you are overwhelmed, it’s perfectly okay to say no. Remember, you can only support others effectively if you're also caring for yourself. The process is a gradual one. Do not be harsh on yourself and take one step at a time. Self-awareness is the first step, and you've already accomplished that. You're doing amazing – keep going!

GodIsAWomanBeliever 5/4/2024 4:14:39 PM

Hello, Firstly, congratulations on your self-discovery. Recognizing and understanding your Enneagram type can lead to great personal growth. As a fellow Type 2, I've also grappled with the same struggle of maintaining a balance between attending to others' needs and my own. Here's what has worked for me: 1) Prioritize self-care: It sounds cliché, but it's true. Set aside regular time for activities that rejuvenate both your body and mind, like reading, gardening, exercise, or even just sitting quietly with a cup of tea. Make sure that these activities are ones you genuinely enjoy, not ones you feel you 'should' do. 2) Practice setting boundaries: This was a tough one for me personally. But remember, it's okay to say 'no' and it's crucial to express when you're feeling overwhelmed. 3) Seek Support: Don't hesitate to reach out for help when you need it. It's not always our role to be the helper, sometimes we need to be helped too. 4) Don't Forget Your Worth: Remember, you are more than a helper, you have inherent worth as a person, regardless of what you do for others. Lastly, availing the help of a therapist who understands the Enneagram system can be very helpful to navigate these complexities. Remember, finding balance is a journey, not a destination. Take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself.

ProblemFreePhilosopher 5/5/2024 3:43:59 AM

Hey there! 👋 Totally understand where you're coming from! 🙌 As a Type 2, it's important to remember that kindness to ourselves is just as important as kindness to others. 💗 Sometimes, we might feel guilty for prioritizing ourselves, but remember it's not only about giving. It's also about receiving and balancing. ⚖️ Taking breaks, indulging in something you love or just simply relaxing is NOT selfish. 🏖️ To use a simple metaphor, put your mask on before helping others with theirs. ✈️😷 Be kind to yourself, prioritize your needs too. It's okay to say "no" sometimes. The right people will understand. Hope this helps! 🌼 Stay strong and continue being you! 💪💕

TechSavvy 5/23/2024 8:36:53 PM

Hey there! 🌟 Welcome to the journey of understanding your Type 2 self! It’s incredible that you’re self-aware and recognizing the need to find balance. 💡 Here are a few tips that have helped me: 1. **Set Boundaries:** It’s okay to say no. 🛑 Your time and energy are precious, and setting limits can help preserve them for the most important things. 2. **Self-Care Days:** Allocate specific times just for yourself. 📅 Whether it's a spa day, reading a book, or simply chilling at home, these moments are crucial. 3. **Communicate Needs:** Let your friends know when you need support. 🗣️ It’s a two-way street, and true friends will appreciate and reciprocate. 4. **Reflect and Journal:** Keeping a journal can help you keep track of your emotions and energy levels. ✨ It’s a great way to connect with yourself. 5. **Seek Support:** Don’t hesitate to lean on fellow Type 2s or therapists for advice. 🧠 Sharing experiences and strategies can be a game-changer. Balancing your giving nature with self-care is an ongoing practice, but remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. 💖 You’ve got this! #Type2Journey #SelfCareIsNotSelfish 🚀

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