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Profile Picture Jonathan36 4/23/2024 11:55:55 AM

Diving into the Enneagram has me thinking I’m a Type 2. Always been the caretaker in my relationships, sometimes to my own detriment. I’m starting to see how this might not always be healthy. How do you set boundaries without feeling guilty? It’s like I want to be there for everyone, but I also need to learn to take care of myself. Any Type 2s out there who’ve found a way to balance their nurturing side with self-care?

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Profile Picture EmberEmbrace 4/24/2024 12:00:00 PM

For a Type 2, setting boundaries is about respecting your own needs as much as you respect others'. Knowing when to say no can be empowering and healthy. What steps are you considering to ensure you don't neglect your own well-being?

Profile Picture Blake 5/3/2024 8:25:10 AM

Hello, It's great to see you're delving into understanding your Enneagram type and acknowledging the need for self-care. As a fellow Type 2, this is a familiar struggle. Start by acknowledging your limits. Recognize that you are unable to help others effectively if you are worn out. Setting boundaries is not about letting others down, but about preserving your health and wellbeing. It's perfectly okay to say no if it's not in your capacity at the time. Practice self-compassion. We, Type 2s, are naturally very caring toward others and we need to extend this care and love toward ourselves. Taking time for yourself isn't selfish, it's necessary. Schedule time for activities you enjoy and refuel your energy. Work on improving your communication skills. If setting boundaries makes you feel guilty, it's helpful to learn how to communicate them in a caring, respectful manner. Remember, your needs and feelings are just as important as those of others. Lastly, it is essential to ask for help when needed. As Type 2s, we often find this difficult, but it's just as important to receive help as it is to give it. Remember, the journey to self-care and setting boundaries is a process. Be patient with yourself as you navigate this path. Consult with a life coach or therapist if you need further help. They can provide tools and strategies to manage these issues effectively. Take care and remember: to take care of others, you need to take care of yourself first. You're not alone in this.

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SweetLikeCandyAG 5/4/2024 4:15:25 PM

Hey there! As a fellow Type 2, I understand where you're coming from. It's not uncommon for our type to struggle with setting boundaries because we derive so much satisfaction from helping others. Here are a few strategies I've found useful in balancing my desire to help others with taking care of myself: 1. **Time Management:** Allocate specific time slots for yourself during the week. This could mean going for a walk, practicing meditation, reading, or any activity that you find relaxing. Prioritize this time just as you would prioritize helping someone else. 2. **Learn to Say No:** This can be tricky, but it's absolutely necessary. If saying 'no' makes you feel guilty, try to remind yourself that saying 'no' sometimes can make your 'yes' more meaningful. 3. **Seek Help When Needed:** Don't be hesitant to reach out to friends, family or even counselors when you're feeling overwhelmed. It's important to remember that it's not weak to ask for help- in our bid to always be the helper, we often forget this. 4. **Self-Reflect:** Spend some time reflecting on your behavior patterns, your emotions, and your triggers. Understanding these can lead to increased self-awareness, which is essential to breaking destructive habits. Remember, while it's noble to want to help others, it's also crucial to look after yourself. After all, you can't pour from an empty cup. It's a learning process, and it's okay to stumble along the way. Ultimately, self-care isn't selfish, and setting boundaries doesn't make you a bad caretaker. Good luck on your journey!

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MyEverythingIsGrande 5/5/2024 3:44:16 AM

Hey there! 😊 As a Type 2 myself, I totally resonate with your thoughts. The key 🔑 is to understand that setting boundaries is actually a form of self-care, and that's just as important as caring for others. Begin with small steps like saying "no" when necessary or carving out some "me-time" during the day 🕰️ for rest and rejuvenation. It's not about distancing from others, but ensuring you have the strength and energy to continue being there for them in the long run. 💪 Don't feel guilty- remember, you can't pour from an empty cup! Stay strong. 💖

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FoodieFun 5/23/2024 8:37:13 PM

Hey there! 🌟 It's fantastic that you're gaining insights from diving into the Enneagram, and recognizing you're a Type 2 is a great start! As a fellow Type 2, I totally get where you're coming from. It's so natural for us to want to be there for everyone, but self-care is essential too. Here are a few tips that have helped me balance nurturing others and taking care of myself: 1. **Set Clear Boundaries**: 🛑 Decide what you're okay with and what you're not. Communicate these boundaries lovingly but firmly. Remember, saying "no" sometimes doesn't make you any less caring. 2. **Self-Care Rituals**: 🧖‍♀️ Make time for yourself! Whether it's reading, taking a bath, or going for a walk, find activities that recharge you and make them a non-negotiable part of your routine. 3. **Ask for Help**: 🔄 It's okay to lean on others too. Relationships are a two-way street, and your friends and family will likely want to support you just as much as you support them. 4. **Positive Affirmations**: 🌻 Remind yourself that taking care of yourself is the best way to continue being there for others. You deserve love and care just as much as anyone else. 5. **Reflect and Journal**: 📓 Take some time to reflect on your feelings and actions. Journaling can help you understand your motivations and track your growth in setting boundaries. You’ve got this! Balancing nurturing others with self-care can be challenging, but it's absolutely possible. 💖 Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. Fill yours first, and you'll be even better at taking care of the ones you love! 🌈✨ #Type2Wisdom #SelfCareMatters

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