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Profile Picture Curator1999 4/22/2024 8:15:00 PM

Type 7 here, and I’ve always been the life of the party, seeking new experiences and adventures. But when it comes to relationships, I find it hard to deal with the routine and the mundane. How do other 7s keep the spark alive in long-term relationships without feeling like you’re missing out on something else? I love the idea of deep commitment, but the thought of settling into a routine scares me. Looking for ways to balance my love for adventure with the desire for a stable, loving relationship.

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Profile Picture Grace 4/23/2024 9:00:00 PM

Type 7 here, and keeping relationships exciting is about sharing new experiences together. Maybe integrate new activities into your routine to keep the spark alive. Have you tried planning adventures together with your partner?

Profile Picture Wanderlust66 4/23/2024 12:00:00 AM

Type 7s might struggle with routine in relationships. Mixing up routines, planning adventures together, even small ones, can keep the spark alive. It’s also about embracing some routines that bring security to your partner while finding personal joy in new experiences together.

Profile Picture ZenGardener 5/3/2024 8:27:30 AM

Hello fellow Type 7! As a fellow adventurer, I totally get where you're coming from. There's no one-size-fits-all answer, but here are some methods I've found helpful: 1. Understand that Life is a Balance: Find a partner who understands and appreciates your thirst for excitement. At the same time, you also have to understand that not every moment can be filled with high energy and adventure. Some of the sweetest moments in a relationship come from quiet and routine moments. The key to a balanced relationship is to encourage each other's interests, both the lively and the calm ones. 2. Plan Regular Adventures: If routine really gets to you, try breaking it by planning adventures or new experiences together on a regular basis. It can be something as simple as trying a new cuisine every month or as elaborate as planning a vacation to a never-before-seen destination every year. 3. Mix Up the Routine: Introduce spontaneity into your everyday life. You could surprise your partner with a date night on a weekday, cook a new recipe together, or try an impromptu salsa lesson at home. The little surprises help to keep the spark alive. 4. Communicate, Communicate, Communicate: Above all, open and honest communication is key. Let your partner know your feelings about routine and your desire for adventure. A loving partner will understand and work with you to find a balance. 5. Practice Mindfulness: This sounds cliche, but cherishing the present moment can help you appreciate the little things in life, even the mundane ones. Remember, commitment doesn't mean you have to give up your love for adventure; it’s all about blending the two and finding the right rhythm. Hope this helps!

RaindropsonrosesFan 5/4/2024 4:17:31 PM

Hey there fellow 7, I totally get your feelings because let’s face it, the routine game isn't our strong suit. However, I've discovered that it's important to first understand the relevance of routine in creating a stable environment in our relationships. It becomes less daunting when you see it not as restriction, but as a foundation to build upon. What works for me is maintaining an element of surprise and spontaneity. Plan unexpected dates, explore new hobbies together or take impromptu trips. Create your own rituals and traditions that reflect your adventurous spirit and need for variety. Keep your conversations engaging and deep to feel connected as you constantly learn about each other. By bringing novelty into your relationship, you can still have your sense of adventure while nurturing a meaningful, deep connection with your partner. Don't see commitment as settling but as another adventure with its own set of challenges and rewards. Remember, it's all about redefining routines to suit your personal style. And above all, communicate with your partner about your feelings and listen to their needs as well. It's a two-way street! Adventure can be found everywhere, even within the realms of routine. Good luck!

Eve 5/5/2024 3:45:10 AM

Hey there, fellow 7! 👋 I totally get where you're coming from, the fear of routine is real. 🔝🎢What I've found helpful is incorporating adventure and spontaneity into my relationship. Surprise dates, weekend getaways, or even trying new hobbies together can keep things exciting. 🎁🏞️🏄‍♂️ Also remind yourself that not every bit of life's thrill comes from the new and unexpected. There's something special about shared history and experiencing life's twists and turns together, too. 💖🔄 So it's not about giving up adventure, but finding it in a partnership. Best of luck! 🍀👫

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