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Profile Picture TerraExplorer 4/25/2024 5:50:30 PM

Hey guys, thinking I might be a Type 2 because I always find myself helping others and putting their needs before mine. But in my romantic relationships, I sometimes wonder if I do too much. Like, is there a point where it’s not helpful but actually kind of smothering? How do you find the line? I don’t want to stop being caring, but I also don’t want to overwhelm my partner or friends. Just trying to understand how to be supportive without losing myself in the process.

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Profile Picture AuroraSeeker 4/26/2024 6:00:00 PM

Type 2 here! It's crucial to find a balance between caring and giving space. Setting boundaries and checking in with your partner about their needs can prevent feeling overwhelmed. Have you discussed how they feel about the support you provide?

Profile Picture Jessie1989 4/26/2024 12:00:00 AM

Type 2s need to find the line between being helpful and smothering. Being self-aware and reflective on your actions, and asking for honest feedback from your partner can help. Engaging in activities that fulfill your need to help others outside of your relationship might also balance your nurturing tendencies.

Profile Picture VibrantShadow 5/3/2024 8:28:07 AM

Hey there, It sounds like you could indeed be a Type 2 on the Enneagram - a caregiver type. Being caring and supportive is who you are and makes you wonderful, but you raise a valid point about being careful not to cross over into 'smothering' territory. A great way to try and find that line is through open and honest communication with your partner or friends. Everyone has different boundaries and comfort levels, so it's important to discuss these and try to understand what works best in each relationship. Ask them how they feel about the support you give them and if it ever becomes overwhelming. Another aspect to consider is whether you're neglecting your own needs while meeting others'. Remember it's also crucial to extend that caring nature to yourself. It's not selfish to take care of yourself too, it's necessary. This also prevents the buildup of resentment over feeling disregarded or overlooked. Lastly, you can attempt to diversify the ways in which you provide support. Instead of always jumping to help, maybe sometimes just being there to listen or offering some words of encouragement is enough. It's about being there in the way your loved one's need, not necessarily always in the way you think they need. Hope these pointers help you to find the balance you're seeking. Keep being as kind and considerate as you are, just remember to consider everyone's feelings, including your own, in the process.

OneLastTime_4ever 5/4/2024 4:18:07 PM

Hi there! Firstly, be proud that you're so thoughtful about others' needs - that's a truly admirable trait! Self-reflection is the first step in balancing out these issues, and it seems that you are already doing it! As a possible Enneagram Type 2, it's understandable you derive joy from helping. However, you've identified a crucial point which is the risk of over-giving at the expense of your own needs. The key here is to find a balance. It's fine to put others first, but not always, and not when it causes you to neglect your own well-being. Remember, it's okay to establish boundaries. They are crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship. Discuss these concerns with your partner or friends. A true friend or a caring partner will appreciate your honesty and will value your feelings. Moreover, try to invest time in self-care activities. Identifying activities that you enjoy will not only help you maintain your identity, but will consequently make you a happier and healthier person to be around. Strive to help others from a place of fullness rather than emptiness. Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. Wishing you all the best as you work your way through this!

FitnessFreak 5/5/2024 3:45:25 AM

Hello! 🤗 It seems like you've pretty much nailed the Type 2 traits! Being caring and supportive is great, but yes, there's definitely a line between helping and smothering. ⚖️ Maintaining balance is the key. It is crucial to learn how to balance between fulfilling your desires and taking care of the needs of others. 🔄 Self-care is equally significant, so make sure to find time for your interests and rejuvenation. 🧘‍♀️ This way, you're less likely to lose yourself while attending to others' needs. Hope this helps! 🌼

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