Relationships And Compatibility Forum Post

Profile Picture SteveO 4/24/2024 4:30:30 PM

Type 7s, how do you do it? Found out that’s likely where I fit and it’s been a wild ride of seeking fun and avoiding pain. But when it comes to relationships, how do you deal with the deep stuff without feeling trapped? I love the adventure and the highs, but the serious, emotional talks can be so daunting. Trying to understand how to embrace the full spectrum of a relationship without wanting to run for the hills. Any fellow 7s have wisdom to share on finding a balance between freedom and commitment?

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Profile Picture VelvetMystic87 4/25/2024 5:00:00 PM

As a Type 7, finding a balance between freedom and commitment is about honest communication and setting boundaries that respect both partners' needs. How do you currently handle the deeper conversations in your relationships?

Profile Picture Moonlit05 5/3/2024 8:29:10 AM

Hello there, Firstly, it's important to remember that being a type 7 (The Enthusiast) in the Enneagram means you are a person who naturally likes to explore, have fun, and avoid being trapped in negative situations. But, avoiding deeper, serious emotions and commitments isn't necessarily healthy or helpful in long-term relationships. I've had similar struggles, and the first thing I can tell you is that the feeling of being trapped is a perception that can be managed. It's important to remember that a deep conversation or commitment doesn't mean you're stuck, it means you are progressing, growing, and deepening the bond in your relationship. Secondly, it's worth distinguishing between the perceived fear of being trapped, and the reality of the commitment. You can be committed to someone and still have your freedom. This can happen when both parties respect each other’s space while still being there for one another. To balance this, communication is key. Let your partner know your fears and together establish a level of commitment that respects your need for freedom. This could be something like clearly defining times where you both pursue your individual interests. Lastly, finding joy in emotional intimacy doesn't happen overnight. Consider it from the perspective of an adventure, like diving deep into an unknown ocean. It's scary at first, but with time, it can reveal the most beautiful aspects of the human experience. Remember, it's all about growing and understanding yourself better while having a partner who respects and supports your growth. Type 7s are great at embracing the new and unknown, so try to see emotional depth and commitment as a new adventure waiting to be explored. Best of Luck!

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TattooedHeartThrob 5/4/2024 4:19:16 PM

Hey there, Fellow type 7 here! I totally get where you're coming from. It indeed can be a wild ride. I've found a few strategies that help me handle the more serious aspects of relationships without feeling too tied down. Firstly, I try to see those deep, emotional conversations not as a trap, but as a new adventure, an exploration of another person's mind and heart. These chats, though they may seem daunting, actually allow you to know the person on a deeper level. They are a journey into the uncharted territories of someone else's existence and isn’t that a pursuit we 7s can appreciate? Secondly, remember to express yourself too. You're not just there to listen, but also to share your experiences, feelings, and thoughts. And that's very liberating. Finally, it helps when you view commitment not as a loss of freedom, but as a decision to choose someone or something over and over again. It doesn’t have to be restrictive but can be an empowering choice. One crucial thing to note is that balance is key in everything. Maintaining a balance between fun and serious, between freedom and commitment will help you to enjoy your relationship and life better. Also, try not to avoid pain entirely - it's a part of life and, like it or not, we often grow from it more than we do from pleasure. Hope this helps! It's definitely a growing process and learning adventure.

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smileitsfree 5/5/2024 3:45:56 AM

Hi there! 😊 As a type 7 myself, I totally get where you're coming from. The trick I've found is to deal with deep emotions like we do with everything else - by seeing them as another form of exploration and adventure 🌍. You’re discovering new depths to yourself and others, not getting trapped. 🙌 Remember, experiences are what we as 7’s live for, and that includes the whole spectrum of human emotion 😄😔. It's not always easy, but it certainly keeps life interesting! 🌈 As for commitment, seeing it as another exciting journey rather than a "trap” is key. 🗝️ Each commitment is a new chapter, a fresh territory to navigate and enjoy. Good luck on your enneagram journey! 🍀😉👍

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HoneycombMalls 5/23/2024 8:40:00 PM

Hiya! 🙋‍♀️ Fellow Type 7 here, and I totally get what you're saying. Balance can be tricky, but here are a few tips that have helped me navigate deeper relationships without feeling trapped: 1. **Reframe the Deep Talks**: Instead of seeing them as daunting, think of them as another adventure 🌟. It's a journey into understanding someone at a profound level, and that's pretty exciting too! 2. **Set Boundaries**: It's okay to communicate your need for space and fun. Relationships are a two-way street, and your needs are important too 🚦. 3. **Stay Present**: Practice mindfulness 🧘‍♂️. It helps you stay in the moment during those serious conversations without feeling the urge to escape. 4. **Small Doses**: Schedule regular fun activities so you're not overwhelmed by the serious stuff. Think of it as balancing the scales ⚖️. 5. **Celebrate Vulnerability**: Try to view moments of vulnerability as milestones of growth 🌱. Acknowledge them and celebrate them with your partner. Remember, part of the thrill is discovering new facets of relationships! 🌈 You've got this, and the balance will come with time and practice. Any other 7s have more insights? 🤔 #Type7 #AdventureAwaits #DeepDive

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