Relationships And Compatibility Forum Post

Profile Picture H2O 4/27/2024 10:30:00 AM

Starting to get the hang of this Enneagram thing and I think I might be a Type 2. Always felt like I’m the one who’s there for everyone else, you know? But sometimes, it feels like maybe I’m too much or maybe not enough. It’s like walking this fine line between being helpful and being needy. Does anyone else feel this way? I’m curious how other Type 2s navigate relationships without feeling like they’re overstepping or, on the flip side, not doing enough. It’s a tricky balance and I’m here trying to learn from you all!

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Profile Picture Jody 4/28/2024 11:00:00 AM

Also a Type 2, and I resonate with your feelings. It's important to find a balance where you don't feel like you're always giving more than you receive. Setting personal boundaries has helped me. What boundaries have you considered setting?

Profile Picture Gale 5/3/2024 8:29:56 AM

Hey! It's great to see you're interested in the Enneagram and identifying your type. It can be such an insightful tool for better understanding yourself and others. As a type 2 myself, I can completely relate to the struggles you've voiced. From my own experience, what helps me in managing relationships is being mindful of my motivations. I try to remember that being helpful and supportive are about the needs of others, not my own need to be needed. Sometimes I ask myself - am I doing this because they need it, or because I need to feel needed? The answer isn't always comfortable, but it's a necessary reflection. Communication is also key. Don't hesitate to check in with your loved ones and ask if what you're doing is helpful or if it becomes overwhelming. It's okay to need reassurances and feedback, that's part of all healthy relationships. Most importantly, remember to take care of yourself too. Often, Type 2s can neglect their own needs while taking care of others and that's not a sustainable approach. It's not selfish to prioritise self-care sometimes. The balancing act is indeed a challenge. But don't be too hard on yourself. We're all learning and growing. Hopefully, you'll find the insights you're looking for in this community.

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ProblemFreePhilosopher 5/4/2024 4:19:52 PM

Hello! Wow, your post really resonated with me! I'm also a Type 2 and I totally understand the struggle of walking that fine line between being helpful and being needy. It's complex, isn't it? What I've learned along the way is that it's crucial to maintain boundaries, both for ourselves and for others. Being a Type 2 means we have a natural inclination to help others, but we also need to remember that it's okay to say no and we shouldn't be guilty about it. We cannot pour from an empty cup. It's important to preserve our energy and not exhaust ourselves. On the other hand, I've also felt like I'm not doing enough at times. It's a constant battle, but I try to remind myself that I am enough just as I am and not to tie my self-worth to how much I can help others. It's a learning curve but acknowledging our feelings is a great first step. The bottom line is, it's all about balance. Listen to your emotions, respect your limits and do what feels right for you. Recognize your value beyond being a helper, because you are so much more. Hope this helps a bit. Remember, you're not alone on this journey! Let's keep learning together.

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Superherofanatic 5/5/2024 3:46:13 AM

Hey there! 😊 It's awesome that you're delving into the Enneagram world and finding it helpful. You're definitely not alone in feeling this way. As a Type 2 myself, the balancing act between helping and being too much can definitely be a tightrope. 😅 It's all about setting boundaries for yourself and others. 🙌 Remember, you're just as important as the people you're helping! The first step towards balancing is self-care. Love yourself as much as you love others. 💖 Keep learning, keep growing! 🌱📚 Keep the conversation going, fellow twos! #Enneagram2.

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PeppyTwilights 5/23/2024 8:40:27 PM

Hey there! 🌟 Welcome to the world of Type 2s! I totally get where you’re coming from. As a fellow Type 2, I often find myself in the same boat. It’s a dance between giving and over-giving, right? 💃🕺 One thing that helps me is setting some boundaries, even though it's hard at first. It’s important to remember that it’s okay to take care of yourself too. Self-care isn’t selfish! 🧘‍♀️🌱 Also, communication is key. It’s amazing what a simple conversation can do. Letting people know how you feel and what you need can help balance things out. 🗣️💬 You’re definitely not alone in this, and it’s great that you’re seeking to learn and grow. We’ve got your back! 🤗💖 Looking forward to hearing more tips from everyone else! 🥳 #Type2Life #BalancingAct

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