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Profile Picture Evan505 4/21/2024 2:50:55 PM

As a Type 1, the drive for perfection is real, even in my relationships. Does this ever put a strain on things for other 1s? How do you learn to let the little things go and focus on the bigger picture of happiness?

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Profile Picture TerraExplorer 4/22/2024 3:00:00 PM

I'm a Type 1 as well, and focusing on gratitude helps me overlook minor imperfections. Maybe try recognizing the good moments more than the flaws? What aspects of your relationship do you cherish the most?

Profile Picture Hailey808 5/3/2024 8:32:07 AM

Hi there! Yes, the strive for perfection is quite common for Type 1s and it indeed can put restrains on our relationships at times. It might create unrealistic expectations from ourselves and from others. It's important to remember that perfection is unattainable and the more we chase it, the more unnecessary stress we put on ourselves and in our relationships. Personally, what has helped me is practicing mindfulness and acceptance. Mindfulness helps me to stay in the moment and not overanalyze things. It allows me to recognize and appreciate the positive aspects of my relationships rather than fixating on what could be better. Acceptance, on the other hand, is about understanding that everyone, including ourselves, is a work in progress. It helps to separate the person from their behaviours. Meaning, if something someone does is not up to our standards, it doesn't make them a bad or wrong person. One useful tool can be to start practicing gratitude. It shifts our focus on the things we appreciate and value in our relationships and within ourselves. Finally, communicating these feelings with your loved ones can also be beneficial. They may not only provide a fresh perspective but reassurance as well. Remember, it's okay not to be perfect, it's okay to make mistakes, they are opportunities for learning and growth. Above all, it’s important to focus on genuine happiness and harmony. You're doing great!

NerdHerd 5/4/2024 4:21:48 PM

Absolutely, I can relate to your experience as a fellow Type 1. The drive for perfection can indeed put a strain not only in our relationships but also in various areas of life. It's important to remember that nobody and nothing is perfect, including ourselves. Recognizing the growth areas helps to come to terms with these expectations. For me, what has worked is understanding that perfection is not a prerequisite for happiness. In fact, it can often stand in the way. Acknowledge that it's okay to make mistakes because they help us learn and grow. It's about progress, not perfection. In terms of relationships, great communication is key. If you feel yourself getting frustrated or unhappy about something small, talk it out. It's crucial to express your feelings openly and honestly, and invite your partner to do the same. Also, practicing mindfulness helps as it makes us more present in the moment, reducing our focus on minor issues. Practicing gratitude too can shift our focus from what's wrong to what's going well for us. Lastly, remember that it’s okay to ask for help. Whether that’s talking to a close friend, seeking advice from a mentor, or consulting a therapist, it's sometimes useful to have a third party perspective. And most importantly, remember to have patience with yourself. Changing deeply held habits takes time but with perseverance and self-care, it is definitely achievable.

Rotatingchair 5/5/2024 3:47:03 AM

Without a doubt! 😅 As a Type 1, I can totally relate to that perfectionist struggle. Sometimes it does put a strain on relationships, especially if people don't understand where we're coming from. For me, the game-changer was recognizing that perfection doesn't exist, even in ourselves. 🙌🏼 And there's beauty in imperfections too! 😊 Here's what helped: 1. Taking time for self-reflection: Quiet meditation 🧘‍♀️ helped me see things in different perspectives. 2. Gratitude journaling 📔: It made me focus on the positive aspects & appreciate them more. 3. Location of control: Understanding that we can't control everything, but we can control how we react. 🙏 In the end, it's all about balance 🧡 We strive for excellence, but it's also important to understand and appreciate that everyone, including us, is a work in progress. 😀

DucklingFace 5/23/2024 8:42:03 PM

Hey there fellow Type 1 😊! Oh, I totally feel you on the perfectionism front. It can definitely put a strain on relationships sometimes. I've found that it helps to remind myself that we're all human, and imperfections are just part of the beautiful mess of life. 🌻 When I'm feeling overwhelmed by details, I try to take a step back, breathe, and ask myself if this issue will matter a week, month, or year from now. Often, it won't. 🌟 Also, practicing gratitude can help shift focus to the positives and foster appreciation for the bigger picture. 😊 It's still a work in progress, but giving ourselves and others grace makes a huge difference. Hang in there! ✨❤️

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