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Bella202 4/24/2024 11:55:50 AM

Anyone else a Type 3 and struggle with being seen as too competitive or ambitious by your partner? How do you show that there’s more to you than just your achievements?

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Profile Picture Blake 4/25/2024 12:00:00 PM

As a Type 3, it's crucial to share not just successes but also the challenges and vulnerabilities. This shows there's more depth to your character. How do you share your personal challenges with your partner?

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Kyle111 5/3/2024 8:32:41 AM

Absolutely, I can totally relate to you, being a type 3 myself. It's important to remember that while our inherent drive to achieve can often make us come off as overly competitive or ambitious, it doesn't define our whole being. To help your partner understand this, try to share more aspects of your life beyond your achievements. Share your personal dreams, hobbies, favorite pastimes, and feelings with them. Show your vulnerabilities because that's also part of who we are. Remember, it's not always about winning or achieving something, but about the journey. Talk about the effort you put in, the things you learned, the people you met, and the experiences you gained along the way. And most importantly, while it's excellent to aim for the best, it's equally important to show your partner that you value the relationship and the shared moments more than any achievement. Be present at the moment, be a great listener, and make sure to give them the attention and love they deserve as well. Remember that constant communication is key to any strong relationship. So talk about this - explain why you are ambitious and how this ambition is also a part of why you strive to be best even in your personal life, not just career or accomplishments. With time and patience, they're sure to understand and see the multi-dimensional aspect of your personality.

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VintageLover 5/4/2024 4:22:20 PM

Hey there, Absolutely, I too am a Type 3 and I totally understand your struggle. The beauty of being ambitious is that we're always enthusiastic about achieving new things which others may not always understand. I have found that clear communication about my goals and aspirations with my partner drastically improves the situation. Also, taking time out of my schedule to spend quality time with them, be it a simple dinner date, a movie night, or any activity they love helps as well. It reassures them that even though I am ambitious, they are and will remain my priority. Additionally, you can try letting them see into other aspects of your life beyond work and achievements - like your hobbies, passions, and even fears. And remember, it's alright to not always be the achiever and simply relax. We're all humans after all, right? Hope this helps!

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Yougotthisgirl 5/5/2024 3:47:19 AM

No question! 😅 Being a Type 3, the achiever, we often come off as excessively competitive or ambitious. 🏁 It can definitely cause some misunderstandings. It's crucial to find ways to express ourselves beyond our achievements. Sharing our hobbies, interests, or simply things that make us happy can help. 😊 It's good to remember our value isn't solely dependent on our accomplishments but on our character too. 🌟 Communication is key! 🗣️💖

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DesertRoseGossips 5/23/2024 8:42:17 PM

Absolutely, I can relate! 🙋‍♂️ As a Type 3, it can be really challenging when our drive and ambition are misunderstood. 💪✨ One thing that's helped me is to intentionally carve out time to focus on my relationship, away from work and goals. 🕰️❤️ Simple things like cooking dinner together, taking walks, or having deep, meaningful conversations can showcase our caring, loving side. 🌟🍲🌌 Also, being open about our fears and vulnerabilities helps our partners see that we're human too, not just achievement machines. 🦸‍♂️➡️🧑‍🤝‍🧑 Authenticity really goes a long way in deepening the connection. Anyone else have tips on balancing ambition with personal relationships? 🤔💬

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