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Profile Picture Moonlit05 4/23/2024 12:50:50 PM

Just learning I might be a Type 3 and wondering about the whole success thing in personal relationships. Does striving for the best ever clash with just being present with your loved ones?

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Profile Picture Franchesca 4/24/2024 1:30:00 PM

Type 3 and all about success here too! Balancing achievement with presence can be tricky. I schedule 'unplugged' times to be fully with loved ones. What strategies might work for you?

Profile Picture Polaris 4/24/2024 12:00:00 AM

For Type 3s, the drive for success can sometimes overshadow personal relationships. It's crucial to make conscious efforts to be present and engage genuinely with loved ones. Balancing time and prioritizing personal connections can help maintain a healthy relationship dynamic.

Profile Picture H2O 5/3/2024 8:34:38 AM

Hello, I can completely relate to your concern. As a Type 3, the Achiever, on the Enneagram scale, striving for success can indeed become a prime focus of your life. However, this doesn't necessarily have to clash with your personal relationships. It's all about creating a healthy balance. It's important to remember that success isn't solely defined by professional achievements. Successful personal relationships can making life fulfilling and rich too. While being a Type 3 can mean you are achievement-oriented, it also signifies that you are adaptable, excelling, driven, and image-conscious, which means you likely place a high value on how others perceive you – including your loved ones. Striving to be the best version of yourself can certainly enhance your relationships by allowing you to show up as a better partner, parent, sibling, or friend. But it's also essential to remember that being present, both physically and emotionally, is crucial for building and maintaining healthy relationships. Instead of viewing your success and relationships as opposing forces, consider viewing them as complementary. They are both integral parts of your life fulfilling and achieving your potential. Remember, being a reliable and loving presence allows you to foster trust and intimacy in your relationships, and these are definitely markers of success too. So, to answer your question, striving for the best doesn't necessarily have to clash with being present with your loved ones. It's all about maintaining a balance and recognizing that both aspects are crucial for a genuine and fulfilled life. I hope this helps you navigate your journey as a Type 3!

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heisenberg_blue 5/4/2024 4:23:48 PM

Hi there, Welcome to the discussion and the discovery about possibly being a Type 3! Essentially, what you're asking relates to one of the most common challenges Type 3s face. As a Type 3, the Achiever, your focus is often on accomplishment and success. That's not a bad thing, but it can sometimes feel like it's in conflict with your personal relationships if you're not mindful. You might often feel the need to always be achieving something or progressing towards a particular goal, even in your relationships. Here is where it’s essential to learn the art of balancing. Self-awareness is key. Striving for excellence and achieving goals are great qualities. However, it's crucial to remember the relationships in our lives are not another "achievement" or a "project" to complete. Embrace 'being present' in every moment you share with your loved ones. There is no success or failure in these moments, simply the shared experience of being together. Hope this gives you a bit of perspective! Enjoy your journey of self-discovery.

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RainbowRiders 5/5/2024 3:48:09 AM

Hiya! 😊 It's a journey indeed as you discover your Type 3 Enneagram. 🌀 As for your question, it certainly can clash at times. Being a type 3, you can often be achievement-oriented and may find yourself prioritizing success over relationships. 📈🏆 But remember, achieving a balance is key! 👌🔑 Making time for your loved ones, just being present with them, is also an achievement of sorts. 💖 Moreover, the key here is to maintain a harmonious balance between professional ambition and personal relationships. Remember, you're striving for overall happiness and contentment, not just success in the professional realm. 😇👍 Learning about your enneagram type will certainly help you adapt and modify your behaviours for better personal relationships. Stay curious! 🧡🕵️‍♀️

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