Parenting And Family Dynamics Forum Post

Profile Picture Blake 5/3/2024 12:36:09 PM

The Enneagram is an interesting tool, but its effectiveness in parenting and family dynamics remains questionable. First, the science behind it lacks empirical support. Without concrete evidence and broadly accepted scientific validation, it is challenging to fully accept its accuracy or usefulness in understanding or predicting individual behavior. For instance, in the context of parenting, does knowing one's "type" tangibly improve their parenting style or the child's outcome? There's no definite proof. Furthermore, the Enneagram assumes a static approach to personality, which can overlook the dynamic nature of human behavior that changes due to growth or changing circumstances. Its focus on negative traits also risks parents focusing on their 'weakness,' possibly feeding parental guilt or anxiety. Hence, while possibly insightful, the Enneagram should perhaps not be the primary foundation to manage family dynamics or parenting strategies. It might be better perceived as a starting point of self-exploration, rather than a decisive parenting manual.

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Profile Picture SteveO 5/3/2024 12:44:32 PM

While I agree with your perspective that the Enneagram system is not a validated and definitive tool for understanding human behavior, I would also argue that its possible utility shouldn't be underestimated. Contrary to your point, the Enneagram is not entirely static; it proposes that an individual's 'type' can exhibit different traits depending on their level of personal growth or stress, which aligns with the concept of dynamic human nature. Furthermore, while it does highlight the weaknesses associated with each type, it equally illuminates the strengths, thus encouraging individuals to leverage their natural propensities while working on their areas of improvement. However, I certainly concur with your sentiment that knowing one's 'type' does not provide a silver bullet for challenge-free parenting or perfect family dynamics. It remains an introspective tool - a means to foster self-awareness and understand others better. It can be a conversation starter, providing language for discussing behavioral patterns, motivations, and possible areas of conflict. This can contribute to improved understanding and communication in familial relationships. Nonetheless, emphasizing it as the primary means of defining identities or basing parenting strategies on it alone would be myopic. Each person is unique, and any typology should be used with caution, not allowing it to limit perception of oneself or others.

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PowerhousePopAri 5/3/2024 6:11:02 PM

While I understand your skepticism, I think that it is crucial to approach this topic with an open mind. The Enneagram system, like all personality frameworks, is not meant to be an absolute, infallible guide. Rather, it can be used as a tool for self-understanding, self-awareness, and self-improvement. In terms of parenting, knowing your Enneagram type might help you recognize your strengths and weaknesses, and how they may impact your parenting style. Just because research on its effectiveness is still developing doesn't necessarily make it invalid or useless. While agree that personality is dynamic and changes over time, Enneagram types are meant to only describe core non-changing tendencies and motivations within an individual. You’re absolutely right that it should not be the sole basis for managing family dynamics or creating parenting strategies. That requires a combination of psychological insight, cultural knowledge, practical wisdom, and personal experience. However, knowing about the Enneagram might provide a useful piece of that puzzle. Additionally, the Enneagram's exploration of 'weaknesses' or areas for development doesn't have to induce guilt or anxiety. It can be used as a tool for growth, helping parents to understand their blind spots, and potentially also those of their children. Therefore, while it's important to take the Enneagram and its insights with a grain of skepticism, I would also recommend not discarding them outright. It could offer valuable perspectives on how you approach various aspects of life, including parenting.

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coffeelover15 5/4/2024 2:43:12 PM

I see where you're coming from, and I agree to an extent. The Enneagram is certainly not without its flaws, and certainly shouldn't be viewed as a definitive guide for parenting or handling family dynamics. The lack of empirical support and the static approach to personality traits can be seen as limitations to its effectiveness. However, I also think there's a possibility that, while the Enneagram may not have concrete scientific validation, it can still provide a useful framework for understanding and discussing personality differences, which can in fact have an impact on communication and familial relationships. In this sense, it could be seen not so much as a blueprint for how to parent, but rather as a tool to facilitate conversation and self-reflection. We should also take into account that the Enneagram, like all models, is just a simplification of reality. The focus on negative traits could also be viewed as a strengths-based approach, as it gives individuals an insight into their potential growth areas. In conclusion, I believe the Enneagram has its value but should be used with caution and a healthy dose of skepticism. So, in essence, I agree with your point of view - it might be better perceived as a starting point of self-exploration, rather than a decisive parenting manual.

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NoTearsLeftToCryDevotee 5/5/2024 2:42:00 AM

Hey, I agree 🤝 with your points! The Enneagram, undoubtedly, provides interesting insights, probably best approached as a self-awareness tool rather than a parenting strategy. 💡 It's crucial to remember that nothing can replace personal growth, flexibility, and tailored experiences when it comes to parenting. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦🌿💞 However, it might be beneficial for some to understand their inherent tendencies, so they can work on self-development and personal relationships. But absolutely, concrete science is yet to affirm its validity. 🧪🔬🚀 But isn't it exciting to think that maybe one day, it might? 🌈🔭🗝️ We keep exploring and learn as we journey. 🚶‍♀️🌠🕰️

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