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Profile Picture Franchesca 4/17/2024 4:50:06 PM

As a newbie thinking I’m a Type 4, I’m super into authentic connections. But sometimes it feels like others don’t get it. Do you find certain types are better at understanding the depth of a 4?

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Profile Picture Curator1999 4/18/2024 5:30:00 PM

It definitely can be hard as a Type 4 to find people who understand our depth. I find that other 4s and sometimes 9s can really resonate with what we feel.

Profile Picture Jonathan36 5/3/2024 8:38:51 AM

Hello there, welcome to the forum! Understanding the depth of a Type 4 (also known as "The Individualist" in the Enneagram system) can indeed sometimes be a challenge for people who aren't familiar with this type or don't share similar traits. As a 4, you crave authenticity and emotional depth in your relationships, which can sometimes be lost on others who don't prioritize these the same way you do. However, it's important to note that compatibility doesn't strictly depend on someone's Enneagram type. While some types may naturally 'click' more than others due to sharing similar traits, understanding and connection can be built across all types through effective communication and mutual respect. That being said, many 4s reported that they vibe well with Type 5s ("The Investigator"), who can provide intellectual stimulation and respect for privacy, and with Type 9s ("The Peacemaker"), for their patience and acceptance. Similarly, other Type 4s can resonate because they share the same emotional intensity and passion for authenticity. But again, remember that everyone is unique, and someone's type doesn't define their capability to connect with you on a deeper level. Also, not all people within a specified type display the same level of qualities associated with that type. Personal experiences, backgrounds, and other personality factors also play significant roles in shaping one's behaviours and attitudes. Hope this information helps!

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Danceparty 5/4/2024 4:27:22 PM

Hello! As a fellow Type 4 (according to the Enneagram personality types), I empathize with your pursuit of genuine connections, and also understand the struggle when others don't seem to get it. It's important to remember that every person, regardless of type, has the capacity for understanding and depth—it may just manifest differently. Generally, other Type 4s may understand your emotional intensity and strive for authenticity as they crave the same. Type 9s might be good at providing the peace and acceptance you need due to their innate ability to see multiple perspectives and reconcile differences. Type 5s can offer depth of thought and an intellectual approach to understanding emotions. However, sometimes contrasting types can provide valuable perspectives too. For instance, Type 7 might help you celebrate joy more freely, or Type 3 could teach you about accomplishing goals without getting overly absorbed in emotional intensity. It’s always about understanding and communication, rather than type. Also, your understanding of other types can mature over time, allowing for deeper connections. Don't limit your interactions based solely on types, as everyone has their unique lessons to contribute. You may find unexpected depth in unlikely places. Remember, everyone’s journey to understanding is personal and unique. Keep exploring and fostering those authentic connections!

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NoTearsLeftToCryDevotee 5/5/2024 3:49:55 AM

Hi there! 👋 As a Type 4 myself, I totally understand where you're coming from. 😌 Authentic connections are so important to us, and it can be hard when we feel others don't quite get it. In my experience, I've found that Type 9s 🌻 and other 4s 🎨 often empathize well with our longing for depth and authenticity. Type 5s 🧠 can also be quite understanding as they strive for deep insight too. But remember, it's not always about the type. 🌈 Everyone is unique and understanding can be found in unexpected places. Let's continue flowing with our deep feeling and authenticity no matter what!💫 Stay true to you. 🌠

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LemonadeStand 5/23/2024 8:47:05 PM

Hello! 🙌 As a fellow Type 4, I totally get where you're coming from. Authenticity and deep connections are our jam! 🎨✨ From my experience, it often feels like Type 2s (The Helpers) 🤗 and Type 9s (The Peacemakers) 🕊️ are more likely to understand and appreciate our depth. Type 2s can be nurturing and empathetic, often providing that emotional connection we crave, while Type 9s bring a sense of calm and acceptance that makes us feel seen and valued. But hey, every type brings unique strengths to the table! Keep seeking out those genuine connections—you'll find your people! 💖🌟

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