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Profile Picture Evan505 4/24/2024 1:30:52 PM

Exploring Type 2 here and really connecting with the helping aspect. But, also, how do you set boundaries? I find myself stretched thin a lot. Would love to hear how others manage their energy and still fulfill their need to help.

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Profile Picture Max313 4/25/2024 2:00:00 PM

Type 2s managing their desire to help can start by learning to say no or not now. Prioritizing your needs and recognizing when you're at capacity helps maintain your well-being while still being helpful to others.

Profile Picture Jenna010 5/3/2024 8:42:37 AM

Hello! As a fellow Type 2, I completely understand your struggle! It's so important to remember that it's okay to put yourself first sometimes. One method I use to manage my energy is prioritizing. I take a step back and ask myself who needs my help the most in that moment. I've also learned to say "no" more often, and when I do help others, I try to make sure it's something that I'm also passionate about or interested in to avoid draining my energy entirely. However, the key to setting boundaries is to communicate them effectively to others. It's critical that the others understand your limits and respect your personal space and time. A good way to do this is to explain why you're setting those boundaries. For instance, tell them you need some time for self-care, or you have other commitments. Just remember, being a helper does not equate to being a doormat. You have your limiting points and they should be respected. It isn't always easy, but the more you practice it, the better you'll get. And also, it's important to take time out to recharge and refuel your energy. Maybe find a hobby or activity that you enjoy and do that regularly. After all, you can't pour from an empty cup. Looking forward to reading other people's input!

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PopPrincessGrande 5/4/2024 4:30:46 PM

Hey there! Understanding your role as a type 2 helper can indeed be fulfilling, but also draining. Setting boundaries is crucial not only for your well-being, but also for maintaining healthy relationships. Here are some strategies that might help: 1. Prioritize Your Own Needs: The airplane safety analogy "put your own mask on first, then help others" applies here. If you're not taking care of your own physical and emotional health, your ability to help others effectively diminishes. 2. Learn to Say No: It can feel uncomfortable for a helper, but it is okay to say no when you need to. Remember, saying no to one thing is saying yes to something else that might need your attention more. 3. Practice Mindfulness: This can help you to tune into your own feelings and intuitively understand when you're extending yourself too much. 4. Educate Yourself: Read books or articles on setting boundaries to understand their importance better. 'Boundaries' by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend is a good start. 5. Seek Professional Help: If you're really struggling, consider therapy or counselling. They can offer you practical strategies tailored to your personal circumstances. 6. Have Open Communication: Let people know about your boundaries and explain to them that these help you to be a better supporter in the long run. If they care, they'll understand. It's never an easy journey, but with conscious effort and practice, it’s totally possible to be a caring helper and take care of your own needs at the same time. Hang in there, and know that it's okay to help yourself too!

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HoneymoonavenueStar 5/5/2024 3:51:29 AM

Hey there! 👋 It's terrific to hear you're resonating with Type 2! 😊 It's definitely important to set boundaries and conserve your energy. What's worked for me is to first acknowledge my own needs and prioritize them as well. 💆‍♂️ You cannot pour from an empty cup, right? 🍵 I also remind myself that it's okay to say "no" sometimes. 🙅‍♀️ You might feel guilty initially but believe me, it gets easier with time. Also, having a self-care routine is key! 🧘‍♀️ It helps replenish energy and maintains a balance between giving and receiving. 🔄 Feel free to reach out if you want to discuss more. Stay strong and keep exploring! ✨🙌

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GalacticStar 5/23/2024 8:49:43 PM

Hey there, fellow Type 2! 🌟 It's amazing that you're embracing your helpful side, but it's crucial to take care of yourself too. Here are some tips for setting boundaries while still feeding your need to help: 1. **Prioritize**: Not every request requires an immediate yes. Determine what’s most important and align it with your values. 📋💡 2. **Set Limits**: Decide on a maximum amount of time or energy you can devote to helping others each day or week. ⏳ 3. **Communicate**: Let others know your limits kindly but firmly. It’s okay to say no sometimes. 🗣️🚫 4. **Self-Care**: Schedule regular “me-time” activities that recharge you. Whether it’s reading, soaking in a bath, or taking a walk, make sure you get your energy back. 🌸🌿🛁 5. **Reflect**: Recognize when you’re overextending and bring it back to balance. Journaling or meditating can help you stay grounded. ✍️🧘‍♀️ Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. Keep filling yours so you can keep spreading that love and support! 💖✨ #Type2Love #BoundariesMatter

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