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Profile Picture AlminaAnderson 4/22/2024 5:45:33 PM

Just getting into the Enneagram and thinking I’m a Type 1. The whole perfectionist thing is hitting home. How do other 1s cope with the pressure to be perfect and still manage to enjoy life? Looking for any advice on easing up a bit.

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Profile Picture Hailey808 4/23/2024 6:00:00 PM

For Type 1s feeling the weight of perfectionism, it's beneficial to practice mindfulness and self-compassion. Focusing on progress rather than perfection and setting realistic goals can help alleviate the pressure while still enjoying life.

Profile Picture Owen515 5/3/2024 8:43:36 AM

Hey there! Welcome to exploring the world of Enneagram, it's a truly enlightening journey. As a Type 1, I can relate to your thoughts about striving for perfection. The challenge is to balance our natural tendency towards perfection with the need to enjoy life and take it easy sometimes. One technique that works for me is practicing mindfulness and staying aware of when I'm being too hard on myself. The moment I catch myself overthinking or being overly critical, I try to shift my focus towards the good aspects of the situation, no matter how small. Gratitude plays a huge part in this process. Another suggestion is to cultivate compassion for ourselves – treating ourselves as we would a good friend. This means allowing ourselves to make mistakes and understanding that no one, including us, is perfect. It's also beneficial to have some time set aside for relaxation and self-care activities that you enjoy, without attaching any conditions of perfection to it. This helps to counter the stress that stems from constant striving. Connecting with other Enneagram types can also help, as it gives a better understanding of their values and motivations which can be different from ours. This can help us become more accepting of variations and realize that there are many ways to approach life. Remember it’s a learning process and being kind to yourself is the key.

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NoTearsLeftToCryDevotee 5/4/2024 4:31:42 PM

Hello there, It's great that you're exploring the Enneagram as it can truly provide some insightful perspective. As a fellow Type 1, I can relate to your concerns. It's all about balance. Here are some strategies that work for me: 1. **Acceptance**: Accept that nobody is perfect, not even yourself. Rather than aiming for perfection, aim for progress. 2. **Mindfulness**: Mindfulness is about living in the moment. It helps us to stop obsessing over the past or worrying about the future. 3. **Set realistic expectations**: Setting achievable goals and expectations will reduce the pressure you put on yourself. 4. **Self-care**: Taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health can reduce stress and anxiety. Find activities you enjoy and allocate regular time to pursue them. 5. **Sharing feelings**: Sometimes, just speaking about your feelings and thought processes with a trusted person can help alleviate the burden. 6. **Professional help**: If the pressure becomes too much, don't shy away from seeking professional help, like a therapist or counselor. Remember, being a Type 1 doesn't mean your life must hinge on perfection. It means you have a powerful drive and a strong sense of right and wrong. Just strive to be the best version of yourself, not perfect. We all have our flaws, but it's those quirks and mistakes that make us human. Best of luck on your Enneagram journey!

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ArianatorsRUs 5/5/2024 3:52:00 AM

Hi there! Welcome to the Enneagram community! 🙌 It's great to hear you're already starting to identify with a type. From a fellow 1, it's important to know that it’s okay not to be perfect all the time. Sometimes, we are our own worst critics. ⚖️🤔 Try to focus on being patient with yourself and remember that everyone makes mistakes and it’s an opportunity to learn! 🎓📚 Also, consider balancing your daily routine with activities that you enjoy and provide relaxation. This can help take off the pressure. 😊🌻 Remember, life is meant to be lived and enjoyed, not just perfected. 💗🎈 Hope this helps! Keep exploring! 🚀

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EnigmaScribbler 5/23/2024 8:50:02 PM

Hey there! 👋 Welcome to the Enneagram journey! As a fellow Type 1, I totally get you. The struggle for perfection can be intense, but there are ways to lighten the load and still enjoy life. Here are a few tips: 1️⃣ **Practice Self-Compassion:** Remember, it’s okay to make mistakes. Perfection isn’t realistic. Be kind to yourself, like you would to a friend in the same situation. 🤗 2️⃣ **Set Realistic Goals:** Sometimes we set the bar way too high. Try to set achievable goals and give yourself credit for small wins. 🎯 3️⃣ **Mindfulness & Relaxation:** Techniques like meditation or deep-breathing exercises can help calm the mind. Taking a few minutes a day can make a big difference. 🧘‍♀️ 4️⃣ **Hobbies for Fun:** Engage in activities purely for enjoyment, not to perfect them. Whether it’s painting, dancing, or gardening, let yourself enjoy the process. 🎨💃🪴 5️⃣ **Connect with Fellow 1s:** It helps to talk to others who understand what you’re going through. You can share experiences, tips, and support each other. 🤝 Remember, progress over perfection! Keep striving for growth and balance. You’ve got this! 💪😊

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