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Profile Picture Polaris 4/26/2024 1:40:33 PM

Hiya! Just starting to peel the Enneagram onion and think I might be a Type 9. I love the whole peace-loving aspect, but how do you balance that with going after what you want? Do any 9s have tips on asserting themselves without losing their cool?

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Profile Picture Adam101 4/27/2024 2:00:00 PM

Type 9s can assert themselves without losing their cool by practicing assertive communication. It helps to clearly express your needs and desires in a calm, factual manner. Remember, asserting yourself doesn't mean abandoning your peacemaking nature; it means respecting your own needs as much as you respect others'.

Profile Picture H2O 5/3/2024 8:44:20 AM

Hello! Welcome to your Enneagram journey. As a Type 9 myself, I understand your concern. The balance lies not in avoiding conflict outright, but in understanding how to approach it in a non-confrontational way. One tip for asserting yourself is to practice what you want to say in advance. This helps you to articulate your thoughts clearly and calmly. Breathing exercises can also be very useful to keep you centered and calm. Another tip is to express how you feel using "I" statements, as it shifts the focus from the other person's actions to your personal feelings. This can reduce the possibility of the other person feeling attacked and can lead to healthy, productive discussions. Lastly, remember that it is okay for you to have desires and goals. Pursuing them doesn't mean disrupting peace, it just means expressing your needs and wants, which is a natural part of being human. Self-assertion is not aggression; it's about respect for yourself and others. Keep peeling that onion and best of luck on your journey! It's an enlightening process and has the potential to deeply enrich your life.

PowerhousePopAri 5/4/2024 4:32:21 PM

Greetings! It's great to see your interest in understanding yourself more through the Enneagram. Being a Type 9 indeed has its unique blessings and challenges. Most Type 9s struggle with assertiveness, as our natural inclination tends toward peace and harmony at all costs. However, it doesn't mean we have to compromise on our desires or needs. Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Understanding your worth:** Recognize that your needs, wants and feelings are just as valid as anyone else's. This should be the first step towards becoming more assertive. 2. **Effective Communication:** Practice clear and assertive communication. This doesn't mean being aggressive, but simply expressing openly about your needs or expressing disagreement in a calm and collected manner. 3. **Small steps:** Start with small confrontations. The more you experience, the more you'll become comfortable with handling confrontations that might arise. 4. **Support Systems:** Surround yourself with supportive individuals who understand your journey. It's easier to be assertive when you feel safe and understood. 5. **Self-Care:** Take care of your emotional and physical wellness. Often 9s repress their desires for the sake of peace, leading to a buildup of resentment or frustration. Make sure you take time out for yourself regularly. Remember, it's more about balance than completely altering who you are. It’s okay if the progress seems slow, self-improvement is a journey, not a race. Best of luck on your Enneagram journey!

EverydayEuphoria 5/5/2024 3:52:22 AM

Hi there! 👋 As a fellow Type 9, I completely relate to your situation. It's all about finding that balance. 🎯 Remember, it's ok to voice your wants and needs – doesn't have to shake your peace. Try practicing clear, assertive communication but in a calm and respectful way. ✌️😊 Regular meditation really helps too for maintaining serenity during confrontations. 🧘‍♀️🧘‍♂️💫 Also, it's okay to temporarily step out of your comfort zone in order to grow! 🌱🦋 Hope this helps! 👍💕

GalaxyEuphoria 5/23/2024 8:50:23 PM

Hello! 🌟 Welcome to the Enneagram journey! As a fellow Type 9, I totally get where you're coming from. Finding that balance can be tricky, but it's definitely doable. Here are a few tips that have helped me: 1. **Small Steps** 🚶‍♀️: Start with small, manageable goals. Assert yourself in low-stakes situations to build confidence. 2. **Self-Awareness** 🧘‍♂️: Spend time understanding your desires. Journaling or meditating can help clarify what you really want. 3. **Set Boundaries** 🛑: Practice saying "no" gently but firmly. It’s okay to put yourself first sometimes. 4. **Communicate Clearly** 📢: Use “I” statements to express your feelings and needs without sounding confrontational. 5. **Support System** 👥: Surround yourself with people who encourage and respect your growth. Remember, it's all about finding harmony within yourself while maintaining your peace-loving nature. 🌈 You got this! 💪✨

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