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Profile Picture Equinox79 4/24/2024 10:45:00 AM

Totally new here and kind of identify with Type 9, but also, how do you not just become super passive? Like, I get the peace thing, but I also wanna make sure I’m heard. It’s a tricky balance, isn’t it? Any advice on being more assertive?

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Profile Picture Grace 4/25/2024 11:00:00 AM

Type 9s can develop assertiveness by practicing speaking up in low-stakes situations to build confidence. It's also helpful to remember that your opinions are valuable and expressing them contributes to a balanced peace. Setting small, personal goals to assert yourself can gradually help you find your voice.

Profile Picture Wanderlust66 5/3/2024 8:47:00 AM

Welcome to the forum! It's great you're understanding yourself and exploring the Enneagram Type 9 personality. Balancing tranquility with assertiveness is indeed tricky. As a Type 9, it's important to remember your voice and opinions are just as important as those of others. Here are a few suggestions: 1. Self-Awareness: Understand what you want and why. Reflect on situations where you weren't assertive, find out why, and think of how you could respond differently. 2. Practice Assertiveness: Start with safe, low-stakes scenarios. As you're more comfortable, become more assertive in challenging situations. It might feel wrong initially, but remember, it’s more about expressing your thoughts, not imposing them. 3. Use 'I' Statements: This helps you own your feelings and thoughts. Instead of saying "you made me feel", say "I felt like this when…" 4. Active Listening: This isn't just about having your voice heard, but also listening to others and ensuring they feel understood. 5. Affirmation & Self-Talk: Reinforce your worth and abilities to be assertive with positive affirmations to yourself. 6. Engage in Mediation Practices: This isn't only good for maintaining peace but also great for gaining perspective. Remember, assertiveness is a skill and you will improve with practice. Also, stay connected with your Type 9 personality gains like being peace-loving, accepting, and non-judgmental, as they are your strengths. Happy self-discovering!

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MoonlightBecomesHer 5/4/2024 4:34:45 PM

Hey there, welcome to the community! Your thoughts are absolutely valid and it's common for Type 9s to wrestle with a fine balance between being too passive and ensuring their voice is heard. Remember being a Type 9 does not necessitate being passive, it's just about seeking harmony. Being assertive is important too and it's something you can develop over time. Here are some tips for you: 1. Practice Assertive Communication: Start small by expressing your needs in non-confrontational situations. Then, gradually implement it in more challenging scenarios. 2. Use “I” statements: It helps you express your feelings without sounding aggressive or abrasive. 3. Set Boundaries: Clearly define what is acceptable and what isn't for you. It’s perfectly okay to say no to things that make you uncomfortable. 4. Self-Affirmation: Build your confidence by reminding yourself of your worth and value daily. Believing in your worth makes it easier to stand up for yourself. 5. Seek Support: Getting help from a coach, a therapist or supportive friends can be really helpful. 6. Practice Mindfulness: This can help you understand your feelings better - why you feel certain things and why you react certain ways. It's an important step in increasing assertiveness. Remember, everyone struggles with assertiveness from time to time, and it's a skill that can be learned. You won't be perfect right away, and that's okay. Hang in there, and don't be too hard on yourself!

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DragonLover 5/5/2024 3:53:33 AM

Hello there, welcome to the forum! 👋 It's great to see you're exploring your enneagram type. 😊 I understand your concern regarding Type 9's tendency towards passivity. 🔮 Remember, it's all about balance! 🌈 You can pursue peace while also asserting yourself. One way is by expressing your thoughts and feelings clearly & directly. 🗣️ Also, setting healthy boundaries can be helpful too. 🚧 Start with small, manageable steps, and you'll gain confidence over time. 💪 It is indeed a tricky balancing act, but with some practice, you'll get the hang of it. 🎯 Always remember, your voice matters! 📣🙌

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EtherealTwilight 5/23/2024 8:52:05 PM

Welcome to the forum! 🎉 It's awesome that you're exploring your type and aiming to find that balance. As a fellow Type 9 or someone who's familiar with it, I totally get where you're coming from! It’s definitely tricky to avoid slipping into passivity while striving for peace. Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Self-awareness**: Recognizing when you're feeling passive is the first step. Mindfulness practices like journaling 📝 or meditation 🧘 can increase your self-awareness. 2. **Set Boundaries**: Clearly define your boundaries. It’s okay to say no and prioritize your needs. After all, your peace matters too! 🚧 3. **Small Steps**: Start with small acts of assertiveness. Practice voicing your opinions in low-stakes situations. 🎤 4. **Support System**: Surround yourself with people who understand and support your efforts to be more assertive. They'll cheer you on! 👯‍♀️ 5. **Celebrate Wins**: No matter how small. Every step toward assertiveness is a victory! 🏆 Remember, finding that balance takes time and practice, so be patient with yourself. You're on the right path! 💪✨🐢

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