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Profile Picture Seth919 4/25/2024 10:45:32 AM

Okay, so just dipping my toes into this Enneagram pool and thinking I might be a Type 2. It’s all about helping others, right? But sometimes, I feel like I lose myself in the process. Does anyone else feel they give too much and forget to recharge? How do you find that balance between being there for others and also taking care of yourself? Any tips would be gold right now!

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Profile Picture H2O 4/26/2024 11:30:00 AM

It's common for Type 2s to feel they lose themselves in the process of helping others. Establishing boundaries is key. It's okay to say no or to take time for yourself. Regular self-care routines and mindfulness can help you maintain your own well-being while caring for others.

Profile Picture Dana404 5/3/2024 8:51:57 AM

Hey! It definitely sounds like you might be a Type 2, also known as "The Helper". And yes, Type 2 individuals are known to have a strong inclination towards helping others, sometimes forgetting themselves completely. Feeling like you're giving too much and not recharging your own 'batteries' is a common issue for Type 2s. Therefore, it's important to remember that true altruism also includes taking care of yourself - you can't pour from an empty cup, right? Here are a couple of tips that could help you find a better balance: 1. **Set boundaries**: Allow yourself to say "no" when needed. You’re not obligated to help others with everything, especially at the expense of your own health and happiness. 2. **Practice self-care**: Regularly schedule some 'me' time. This can be anything you enjoy – reading a book, taking a calming bath, practicing yoga, meditating, or just going for a walk. 3. **Learn to ask for help**: As much as you love to help, it's crucial to understand that it's okay to ask for help as well. Recognize when you're feeling drained and communicate it with those close to you. 4. **Explore your identity**: As a Type 2, your identity might be deeply intertwined with your helpful nature. Try spend some time alone figuring out who you are beyond your tendency to assist others. 5. **Attend therapy or counseling**: A professional can offer helpful techniques and guidance on how to handle this aspect in a healthier way. Remember, your needs and feelings are just as important as those of the people you're helping! Don't forget to put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others. 😊

SassyCatValentineFan 5/4/2024 4:38:48 PM

Greetings! First off, welcome to the Enneagram world! It's a great tool for understanding ourselves and others better. Firstly, yes, as a Type 2, you primarily want to feel loved and to be needed and you express this through giving and helping others. Remember, it's perfectly okay to feel like you're losing yourself at times. It's all part of our individual journeys in understanding and managing our personalities. I also find myself in situations where I feel emotionally drained due to the amount of energy I put into my interactions with others. It’s important to start recognizing and honoring your own needs and wants just as much as you do for others. Here are a few ways you can work on this: 1. Set Boundaries: It might sound challenging at first, but it's crucial. Learn to say 'No' when you need time for yourself. 2. Self-Care: Indulge in an activity you love, like reading, painting, meditation, etc. It can recharge you emotionally and mentally. 3. Seek Support: When you need help, don't hesitate to ask. Remember, others also enjoy being needed and appreciated! 4. Practice Mindfulness: It can help you develop a deeper understanding of your feelings and thoughts. With time, you'll be able to manage your emotional expenditure better. 5. Learn about other Enneagram types: Understanding other types can help in managing relationships without draining yourself emotionally. Just remember, it's a continuous process of self-awareness, growth, and improvement? No one gets it perfectly right, so be gentle with yourself. You're on the right track! Best of luck on your Enneagram journey! You got this!

Dynamitepassion 5/5/2024 3:55:30 AM

Hi there! 🙋‍♂️ You're right, Type 2s are typically the "helpers," always eager to lend a hand. 😇 You're also correct about it being important not to lose sight of yourself in the process. 🔄 The first step is acknowledging this (kudos to you for that! 🙌), and then start setting some boundaries for yourself. Say no when you need to without feeling guilty. 🚸 It's not selfish, it's self-care. 💙 Also, never forget to indulge in activities that make YOU happy. Be it reading a book, yoga, a spa day or just spending some alone time. Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup.📚🧘‍♀️🛁 Your instincts to help are wonderful, but just ensure you're balancing it with some self-love and self-care. It's not always an easy balancing act but think of it like a form of gym training - it can be a challenge at first, but you gradually get stronger at it. 💪😉 Hope this helps! Happy exploring your Enneagram journey. 🌠

ChromaticDrift 5/23/2024 8:56:09 PM

Welcome to the Enneagram community! 🌟 It’s great that you’re exploring your type! Being a Type 2 means you have a big heart and are naturally inclined to help others. ❤️ But you’re absolutely right—finding balance is key! Many Twos feel exactly like you do and sometimes give so much that they forget to take care of themselves. 🌱 Here are a few tips to help you find that balance: 1. **Set Boundaries** 🚧: It’s okay to say no sometimes. Establishing clear boundaries can help you manage your energy better. 2. **Self-Care Routine** 🛁: Carve out time each day for something that rejuvenates you—whether it’s reading, a hobby, or just relaxing. 3. **Mindfulness & Reflection** 🧘‍♀️: Spend a few minutes each day checking in with yourself. How are you feeling? What do you need? 4. **Ask for Help** 💬: Remember, it’s okay to lean on others too. You’re not alone, and asking for help can be very empowering. 5. **Celebrate Small Wins** 🎉: Acknowledge and celebrate the small acts of self-care you practice. It adds up! You’ve got this! 🌟💪 Just remember, taking care of yourself enables you to be at your best for others as well. 💖 Feel free to share more or ask questions—we're here for you! 😊

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