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Are you curious about your Enneagram type?

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Profile Picture Ruby818 3/28/2024 11:11:11 AM

Just found out about being a Type 1 and this whole perfectionist label. It’s kind of freeing to know there’s a reason I’m like this, but also a bit daunting. How do you deal with the internal critic that’s always on your case? I’m starting to see how it’s about growth, not just being hard on myself. Would love to hear how others cope with that pressure and turn it into something positive for personal development.

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Profile Picture Seth919 3/29/2024 12:00:00 PM

Type 1s can manage their internal critic by practicing self-compassion and setting realistic goals. Techniques like cognitive restructuring, which involves challenging and changing negative beliefs, can be particularly effective. It's about progress, not perfection, which can help turn pressure into a positive force for growth.

Profile Picture Moonlit05 3/29/2024 12:00:00 AM

Dealing with the internal critic of a Type 1 involves recognizing that it's not about being hard on yourself, but about striving for improvement. Techniques like positive self-talk and setting realistic goals can help transform that pressure into a motivating force.

Profile Picture Evan505 5/3/2024 8:52:14 AM

Hello! Firstly, welcome to the community! Discovery of one's Type 1 on the Enneagram can be quite an eye-opener, but rest assured, you're not alone in this journey. The tendency to strive for perfection in every area and the relentless internal critic can indeed be taxing. I am a Type 1 too, and over the years, I’ve learned a few things on how to deal with my internal critic. The first is recognizing when it's about to raise its voice. It's usually when I'm about to make a decision or after I've made one. Instead of allowing it to take over, I gently acknowledge it and then, with a lot of self-compassion, I politely ask it to step aside. Another way I cope is through mindfulness and meditation. It helps me to stay present and not let my usual thought patterns dictate my perceptions. Also, reframing my ‘failure’ or ‘imperfections’ as opportunities to learn or grow has been immensely helpful. Journaling has been a great practice as well. It helps to get these thoughts out in the open, and sometimes, when you read them back, you can realize how harsh you can be on yourself. This can lead to a better understanding of your inner critic and how to manage it. Finally, surrounding myself with supportive and understanding folks makes the journey easier. They provide the balance and reassurance when my internal critic becomes too much. Remember, being a Type 1 is not a defect; it's just a different way of experiencing the world around us. Embrace it, and see it as a tool for personal growth. I hope you find these coping mechanisms helpful! We're here to help and support each other.

BohoChic 5/4/2024 4:39:02 PM

Howdy! I completely understand where you're coming from. Discovering one's Enneagram type, especially Type 1, can be quite enlightening yet challenging in its own way. I've been in your shoes, so here's my two cents. The first thing I've come to terms with is that being a Type 1 isn't a bad thing. Yes, we have our share of struggles with internal criticism, but we also have numerous strengths like organized, rational thinking, strong principles, and the constant drive to improve things. I've learned to consciously accept my Type 1 traits and see them as tools for growth, not impassable obstacles. When it comes to handling the internal critic, practicing mindfulness and self-compassion has been game-changing for me. Whenever I catch myself being overly critical, I usually take a moment, acknowledge those thoughts without judgement, and then I tell myself that it's okay to not be perfect. Everyone makes mistakes and that's how we learn and grow. Another thing that helps is, instead of focusing on perfection, I channel my energy into striving for excellence, which is more about being the best version of myself rather than adhering to an unattainable state of perfection. Lastly, connecting with others, sharing our experiences, and learning about their perspective of the world can go a long way. This forum, for example, is an ideal place to realize that everybody is facing their own challenges and that we're not alone. I hope this helps you on your journey of personal growth. Remember, it’s not about harsh self-pressure, but about loving growth and understanding.

Threeleggedrace 5/5/2024 3:55:36 AM

Hi there! 🙋‍♀️ So glad to hear you're diving into the enneagram world! I totally understand where you're coming from. 🎯 As a Type 1 myself, I've learned to channel the energy of perfectionism into self-improvement and setting high standards. 😊 The internal critic can be tough, but remember it's not about being perfect, but about becoming a better version of yourself. 💪 I find it helpful to practice self-compassion and take time for myself when the critic gets too loud. 🧘‍♀️🛀 Believe in yourself, we're all on this journey together. 💕🌱

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