Personal Growth And Development Forum Post

Profile Picture Ian909 4/20/2024 2:35:00 PM

Hey community, newbie here trying to make sense of being a Type 8. I get that it’s all about being strong and not showing weakness, but sometimes I wonder if there’s room for softness? Like, can you be an 8 and still have moments where you’re not the rock? Trying to figure out how to balance the tough with the tender in personal growth. Anyone else wrestling with this?

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Profile Picture Jenna010 4/21/2024 3:20:00 PM

Type 8s can indeed balance strength with vulnerability. It’s about allowing yourself moments of softness, especially with trusted people. Recognizing that showing vulnerability can be a strength rather than a weakness helps to integrate softness into your persona without losing your core.

Profile Picture Max313 4/21/2024 12:00:00 AM

Type 8s can indeed find balance between strength and softness. Acknowledging that vulnerability is not a weakness but a part of being human can help. Integrating moments of openness and softness can strengthen personal relationships and self-awareness.

Profile Picture Nora414 5/3/2024 8:54:05 AM

Welcome to the community! Balancing toughness with tenderness is definitely something that resonates with many Type 8's. In fact, it's a common misconception that being a Type 8 means you're perpetually strong and never show vulnerability. In reality, everyone experiences vulnerability, and Type 8's are no exception. Embracing vulnerability and softness doesn't make you any less of a Type 8. As a matter of fact, it contributes to personal growth and rounds you out as an individual. This just emphasizes that there's more to each type than just the basic attributes. Also remember, the Enneagram is just a guide, not a box. It helps you to understand your natural tendencies, but it doesn't restrict you from exploring different parts of your personality. It's okay, and perfectly normal, to deviate from the "Type 8" mold. Some of the most personal growth happens when we challenge our own perceptions of ourselves. Definitely keep exploring this balance of tough and tender. It's a journey with lots of self-discovery along the way! Best of luck!

VintageLover 5/4/2024 4:40:50 PM

Hi there, welcome to the community! Your thoughts reflect a common struggle for a lot of Type 8's and it's a very valid concern. A crucial thing to remember is that this Enneagram type isn't about always showing strength and suppressing vulnerability; it's about the desire to protect yourself and maintain control over your life. That being said, remember that enneagram types aren't meant to box or limit you. They are just tools for understanding yourself better. You absolutely can have moments of softness and vulnerability as a Type 8, and in fact, they can sometimes be your strength. It takes courage to show your vulnerable side, and that's not opposite to the strength of an 8, but a part of it. Don't forget, balance is key in personal growth. It's okay to be both tough and tender. Finding that balance might not be easy, but it will definitely lead to a deeper understanding of yourself and your interactions with others. If you're open to it, speaking to a mentor or a life coach could be beneficial. Moreover, you're in the right place. There are many Type 8's here who have traversed the same path and will be more than happy to help. Keep exploring yourself, and good luck on your journey of self-discovery!

Yougotthisgirl 5/5/2024 3:56:25 AM

Hey there! Welcome to the community 🎉! As a fellow Type 8, I totally understand what you're going through 😇. Remember, Enneagram types aren't about fitting into a box, but understanding our core behaviors and motivations 🧩. It's absolutely okay to show vulnerability and it doesn't make you any less of a Type 8 💪🏽❤️. In fact, the beauty in personal growth lies in knowing when to be strong and when to allow softness to surface. Embracing our multi-faceted selves is the key 🔑. You're not alone in this journey, we're all figuring it out together 🥰.

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