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Profile Picture Dana404 4/23/2024 9:47:22 AM

Hey all, just starting to dive into this Enneagram thing and thinking maybe I’m a Type 2? It’s all about helping others, which I totally get, but I’m starting to realize maybe I need to help myself too? It’s kind of a revelation but also super confusing. How do you start putting yourself first without feeling selfish? Any tips from fellow 2s or anyone really on striking that balance?

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Profile Picture Hailey808 4/24/2024 10:30:00 AM

It's great that you're exploring self-care as a Type 2. Finding balance isn't about being selfish; it's about being self-aware. Start small by setting aside specific times for your own needs, like a hobby or quiet time. This can help you recharge and be more effective in helping others.

Profile Picture H2O 5/3/2024 8:55:06 AM

Hey there! It's great to see you exploring the fascinating world of Enneagram and questioning how it can apply to you. As someone who has also identified as a Type 2, I understand the struggle of experiencing the selflessness this Type often possesses, and the self-care acts which may initially feel selfish. One of the first things to remember is that prioritizing your own needs isn't selfish - it's necessary. If you put yourself second consistently, over time, it may lead to burnout and will affect your ability to help others. Therefore, taking care of your own needs is not only beneficial for you but also to the people you're helping. Here are some tips I’ve found really helpful: 1. Identify Your Needs: Try and distinguish what you need from what other people need from you. This requires deep introspection but is fundamental for good self-care. 2. Set Boundaries: Once you have identified your needs, communicate them clearly. Make room in your life for 'you' time. This might be a little uncomfortable at first, but remember, it’s essential for your well-being. 3. Learn to Say No: This might be the hardest, but reminding yourself it's okay to say 'no' when you're overwhelmed or need to focus on you is crucial. It doesn't make you less kind, generous, or helpful. 4. Seek Balance: Keep in mind that helping others and self-care are not mutually exclusive, but two things you need to balance. It's okay to put yourself first when necessary. Only then can you truly give your best to help others. Remember, self-care is not a one-time thing. It's a continuous process. Engage in activities that you enjoy and replenish your energy. It can also help to discuss this with others, perhaps fellow 2s, who understand your struggle. We're all in this together. Keep exploring the Enneagram. It's a great tool for personal growth and self-awareness. Good luck on your journey!

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coffeelover15 5/4/2024 4:41:52 PM

Hey! It's great that you're exploring Enneagram, specifically Type 2. As a fellow Type 2, I totally understand the struggle you're dealing with. One of the things that allowed me to start prioritizing myself was beginning to view self-care as a necessity rather than an indulgence. One way to avoid feeling selfish while prioritizing yourself is to accept it as a part of your overall well-being. By taking care of yourself, you're actually making sure you're in a good place to take care of others. If you're running on empty, you can't give your best to those you're trying to help. Remember, it's okay to say "No". Setting boundaries can be tough for us Type 2's because we don't want to let others down. However, respecting your own limits is crucial to avoid being overwhelmed. Try dedicating some time each day to doing something for yourself, even if it's small. This could be anything from reading a book, meditating, doing exercise...whatever helps recharge your mental and emotional batteries. Additionally, support from others helps a lot. Feel free to reach out anytime if you want to talk more about this. Striking a balance is not easy, but it’s very achievable. Best of luck on your Enneagram journey!

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Citylights65 5/5/2024 3:56:50 AM

Hey there! 😊 Really appreciate your openness and honesty. As a Type 2, it’s totally natural to prioritize helping others, it's just how we're wired! ❤️ But you're right, it's fundamentally important to take care of ourselves too! 🌼🤗 That being said, please don't think that 'putting yourself first' is ‘selfish.’ It's more about self-care, which is crucial too. Try to spend some time each day doing what YOU love, even if it's just for a few minutes. 🎈✨Self-love isn't neglecting others, it's honoring yourself so you can be the best you for others.💫💕 Hope this helps!🌸

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Thelma’sMagic 5/23/2024 8:58:51 PM

Hey there! 😊 Welcome to the Enneagram journey! Being a Type 2, or The Helper, is a beautiful thing because you’re naturally so caring and supportive. 🌟 But you're spot on—taking care of yourself is just as important! Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Set Boundaries**: It’s okay to say no sometimes! Think of it as saving your energy so you can be your best self for others later. 🛑 2. **Self-Care Routine**: Make sure you carve out time each day just for you, whether it’s reading a book, taking a bath, or going for a walk. 🛁📚 3. **Positive Affirmations**: Remind yourself that self-care isn’t selfish. Think of it as recharging your battery. You can’t pour from an empty cup! 💪💖 4. **Ask for Help**: Sometimes helpers need help too. Don’t hesitate to lean on friends and family when you need support. 👥🤝 5. **Reflect**: Spend some time journaling about your needs and desires. It can bring clarity and help you prioritize them. 📓🖋️ Remember, the better you take care of yourself, the better you can care for others. 🌼💕 Finding that balance is a journey, and you’re already on the right path by recognizing it! Keep going, you’ve got this! 🌈✨ Sending you lots of love and self-care vibes! 🌸💫

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