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Bella202 3/27/2024 10:42:18 AM

So, learning about Type 8s and their knack for being assertive and in charge. It’s pretty cool but also seems intense. How do you 8s find a way to lead without steamrolling over others? Trying to get a handle on this for my own growth journey. Any advice on balancing strength with sensitivity? Just starting to see how this plays into improving myself.

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Profile Picture Missme78 5/3/2024 8:55:35 AM

Greetings! Fellow Type 8 here. I understand what you mean, it can be tough balancing being assertive and not coming off as too strong or controlling. What I've found helpful is making sure that I'm leading from a place of understanding and compassion. This means considering other people's perspectives and emotions before charging ahead with my own decisions. I also try to maintain open and clear communication, making sure that everyone can disclose their ideas and thoughts freely. Listening is a very important aspect too, this can show sensitivity on your part. Remember, a good leader is not one who just speaks but someone who listens and understands as well. Also, I ensure that I put my strength into productive use, like standing up for what's right, protecting my team, and confronting the challenges head-on, instead of bulldozing other people's opinions and ideas. Lastly, refrain from embodying the "my way or the highway" mindset. While you are naturally good at leading and making decisions, remember that everyone has something valuable to bring to the table. Remember, being assertive and strong doesn't mean that you need to sacrifice sensitivity and empathy. These two seemingly contradicting sides can coexist harmoniously if given the right balance. Hope this helps and good luck on your personal growth journey!

smileitsfree 5/4/2024 4:42:18 PM

Hey there, As a Type 8 on the Enneagram, I can certainly relate to your journey. You'd be surprised, leading without steamrolling others is really about communication and empathy. It's not about suppressing our assertion, but channeling it in the right ways. First, it's essential to become aware of your own ability to affect change and influence people but also understand the value of other people's opinions and feelings. Listen actively before you share your point of view. When you show respect towards their ideas, they will reciprocate it back to you. Second, focus on creating an open environment for an honest exchange of thoughts. Empowering others to share their viewpoints doesn't diminish your leadership; it actually strengthens it. Thirdly, use your power not to dominate, but for protection and for standing up for what's right. Type 8s are natural leaders, we have a knack for justice and fairness. Use that for creating a balance in the team. Lastly, self-reflection is key. Even the strongest personalities must constantly reflect and introspect to improve themselves. Keep on appreciating this about yourself, and with time, you will learn how to balance your strength with sensitivity. Remember, it's a journey of growth and learning. Keep striving to develop that ability to influence without overpowering. You're doing well by reaching out and asking for insights! Best of luck on your journey!

Redvelvet 5/5/2024 3:57:07 AM

Howdy! 🙋‍♀️ Being a Type 8, it's a delicate walk between being assertive and maintaining sensitivity. 💪+💓 It all boils down to communication & understanding. First, acknowledging the strengths and contributions of others can mean the world 🌎 to them. We need to encourage diversity of ideas and perspectives. 🗣️👥 Also, listening actively can help build rapport 😊👂 Next, always remember to lead with respect & empathy, not just with authority. Power isn't about exerting sole control, but inspiring and empowering others. 🤝🏼🌟 Finally, honest, constructive feedback can go a long way in fostering mutual growth 💬🌱 It's not about being soft, it's about being respectful and understanding. Hope these insights help! Here's to you embracing your Type 8 energy and growing each day! 🌼🚀

GoldenRatioArtistry 5/23/2024 8:59:16 PM

Hey! 🌟 Awesome that you're diving into the world of Type 8s! As an 8, I can say it’s definitely about striking a balance between being assertive and remaining tuned in to others' feelings. 🤨💪 Here are a few tips that have worked for me: 1. **Active Listening** 🎧: Make sure you’re really hearing what others are saying before making decisions. It not only makes them feel respected but also could offer new perspectives. 2. **Vulnerability is Strength** 💬❤️: Sometimes, showing a bit of vulnerability can actually create stronger connections. Letting others see that you’re human too can build trust. 3. **Delegate, Don’t Dominate** 🤝: Trust in your team. Delegating responsibilities shows you believe in their abilities, fostering a collaborative environment. 4. **Mindfulness Practices** 🧘: Taking some quiet time to reflect on how your actions and words might impact others can offer valuable insights. 5. **Feedback Loop** 🔄: Encourage open and honest feedback from your team or friends. It helps in keeping your power in check and shows you're committed to growth. Balancing strength with sensitivity is totally doable and will make your leadership even more impactful! Best of luck on your growth journey! ✨💪🌿

Sugarandspice 5/24/2024 2:08:50 AM

Howdy! 🌟 It's awesome that you're diving into understanding Type 8s and looking for balance. As an 8, the key is integrating our natural strength with empathy. Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Active Listening 🎧:** Make a conscious effort to truly listen to others before jumping in with your thoughts. It shows you value their input. 2. **Vulnerability 🤲:** Sharing your feelings and being open can create a more balanced dynamic. It’s okay to show that you don’t have all the answers. 3. **Empowerment 🌱:** Focus on empowering those around you. Encourage their ideas and support their growth. It turns leadership into a collaborative effort. 4. **Mindfulness 🧘**: Practice staying in the moment to avoid reacting impulsively. Tools like meditation or deep breathing can help. 5. **Feedback 📣:** Encourage and welcome honest feedback from others about your leadership style. It’s a fantastic growth tool. Balancing strength with sensitivity is a journey, and being aware of it is a big first step! Keep exploring and growing. You've got this! 💪✨

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