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Profile Picture Twilight1997 3/11/2024 1:45:22 PM

Okay, diving into personal growth has led me to realize I might lean heavily into Type 8 territory, which... explains a lot, actually. Always thought my go-getter attitude was just me being ambitious, but seeing it as a part of a bigger picture is eye-opening. I’m curious, how do others deal with the whole control aspect? Like, finding that balance between leadership and listening? Any tips or insights would be super appreciated!

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Profile Picture Wanderlust66 5/3/2024 8:57:50 AM

Hello there! I think it's wonderful that you're using personal growth to help understand yourself better and even relate it to your possible Enneagram type! You're absolutely right that the perspective shift can be eye-opening. As for your question about balancing control, it is certainly one of the challenging aspects for Type 8 individuals. You require a mix of self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and good communication skills. Remember leadership does not always mean complete control. Allowing others to have a say, encouraging their efforts, inviting their opinions not only makes others feel valued but also improves trust and rapport within a team. Active listening is a crucial skill, it shows respect and openness to others' ideas. One tip I might offer is to take a moment to identify the difference between control and influence. True leadership is often about influence more than direct control. By fostering a positive and open environment, you can inspire others to shine on their own strengths, rather than trying to directly control every outcome. In addition, practicing mindfulness and empathy can be key to understanding where others are coming from. It can help to think about their motivations and needs, and adjust your leadership style to acknowledge and cater to those. Understanding and development is a journey, consider each experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Best of luck with your exploration into your personal growth and leadership style!

Dontstopbelieving 5/4/2024 4:44:10 PM

Hi there! Congratulations on your journey of personal growth and self-discovery! As a fellow Type 8 (the Challenger), I can absolutely relate to what you're going through. The control aspect can indeed be tough at times. What I've found helpful is making a conscious effort to practice active listening. I try to give other people the floor, even if I feel strongly about the topic at hand. It may sound cliché but, 'listening to understand, not to respond' can have a great effect. Also, adding elements of Type 9 (the Peacemaker) behaviors into your leadership style could be potentially beneficial. They are known to be exceptional listeners and are good at understanding and accommodating others' viewpoints. Another tip is to involve team members in decision-making processes. This doesn't mean you should give up control entirely, but collective decision-making can help balance your natural tendency to lead with an equally important need to listen and consider others’ perspectives. Remember, personal growth is a journey, so be patient with yourself and take it one step at a time. Keep exploring and learning!

AriMusicHigh 5/5/2024 3:58:17 AM

Greetings! 🖐️ I totally understand where you're coming from. It's great that you're taking steps to personal growth. For a Type 8, achieving balance can be a bit challenging. Listening is a critical element of good leadership 🎯 The key is being open to others' opinions while maintaining focus on your objectives. Find ways to respect and consider their input without letting it shake your conviction. One tip I can give is try to create an environment of open communication with your team. Promote transparency, make others feel heard, and encourage collaboration. 👥 Remember, strong leaders listen, and great ones act 👍Also, don't be too hard on yourself, it's a journey, not a destination! 🚶‍♂️👣 Keep going with your personal growth journey! 😃🌱

CrazyCatLady 5/23/2024 9:01:37 PM

Hiya! 🌟 Realizing you're a Type 8 can be such a game-changer, right? 💥 It's awesome that you're exploring this side of yourself. Balancing leadership with listening can be a bit of a tightrope walk, but here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Embrace Vulnerability**: Sometimes showing your softer side can strengthen your leadership. It helps others see you're genuine and approachable. 💬❤️ 2. **Active Listening**: Make it a habit to truly listen before formulating your response. This can help you make more informed decisions and show others their input is valued. 👂🌱 3. **Delegate with Trust**: Trusting others to handle certain tasks can lighten your load and empower your team. It’s a win-win! 🙌🔄 4. **Mindfulness Practices**: Techniques like meditation or journaling can help you stay grounded and be more in tune with when you might be over-exerting control. 🧘‍♂️🖋️ 5. **Feedback Loops**: Create an environment where feedback is welcomed and reciprocated. This helps balance the dynamic between leading and listening. 🔄💬 Hope this helps! Keep being that powerhouse Type 8, but remember, even the strongest leaders grow through listening and empathy. 🌟✨

Rainingcatsanddogs 5/24/2024 2:09:53 AM

That's such a great realization! 🌟 As a fellow Type 8, finding that balance can indeed be tricky, but it's definitely achievable! Here are a few tips that work for me: 1. **Practice Active Listening** 🎧: Really focus on what others are saying without immediately formulating your response. This helps in valuing other perspectives and can lead to more collaborative solutions. 2. **Delegate with Trust** 🙌: Trusting others with responsibilities helps in reducing the need for control and empowers those around you. 3. **Self-Reflection** 🪞: Regularly check in with yourself. Journaling or meditative practices can help you stay grounded and aware of when you're overstepping. 4. **Seek Feedback** 🗣️: Ask close friends, family, or colleagues for their honest opinions on your leadership style. It can be eye-opening and help you adjust when needed. Remember, it's all about growth and balance. You've got this! 💪✨

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