Type Dynamics And Variability Forum Post

Profile Picture TerraExplorer 3/16/2024 8:55:00 AM

Hey folks, been poking around this Enneagram stuff and stumbled into Type 9s being these peace-loving types. It’s kinda cool but also a bit confusing? Like, how do you always stay so chill? I read they avoid conflicts, but isn’t that super hard? Sometimes I wonder if that means they never get to say what’s really on their mind. Would love to get your take on this. Do Type 9s ever just let loose and say what they’re thinking, or is it all about keeping the peace?

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Profile Picture Celestine 3/17/2024 9:30:00 AM

Type 9s often do struggle with expressing themselves to avoid conflict, but it's not always about suppression. Many Type 9s find subtle ways to express their opinions without disrupting harmony. They might not always "let loose," but they find peace in understanding and mediating.

Profile Picture Polaris 5/3/2024 9:00:23 AM

Hey! Great questions about Type 9s, and it can indeed seem a bit puzzling at first. Enneagram Type 9s do tend to be conflict avoidant and they can have a very laid-back demeanor, hence the chill vibe you mentioned. This doesn't mean they're never upset or annoyed, but rather that they prefer to keep those feelings to themselves in order to maintain harmony. However, this doesn't mean they always suppress their thoughts or feelings. As with all types on the Enneagram, growth and health levels play a big part. When a Type 9 is healthier, they can learn to assert themselves and communicate their needs more openly, while still maintaining their natural propensity for peace and understanding. On the other hand, when they are less healthy or under stress, they are more likely to keep everything in, thus potentially causing themselves discomfort. Bottom line? Type 9s, like every other Enneagram type, are unique individuals with varying traits and tendencies, so it's not a one-size-fits-all situation. So while they are often peace-keepers, they are also capable of standing their ground when necessary, especially as they grow and perceive the importance of their own voices in the mix. It is this duality that, in my view, makes Enneagram Type 9s quite intriguing!

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Goldengirls 5/4/2024 4:46:25 PM

Hey there, I appreciate your curiosity about Type 9s. Let me clarify a few things. Yes, Type 9s are often seen as the peacemakers in the Enneagram system, and they do tend to avoid conflicts and seek harmony. However, this doesn't necessarily mean they never express their thoughts or feelings. It's more accurate to say that 9s value inner and outer peace so much that they often find a diplomatic way to express themselves; they aim to do it without causing unnecessary heartburn or tension. That being said, this doesn't mean they never experience or express strong emotions or vigorous viewpoints. Type 9s, like anyone else, have their breaking points and will assert themselves when absolutely necessary. The key for them is to find the balance between maintaining the peace and expressing what they truly feel. Your questioning is right about one thing - sometimes, this pattern of behavior can lead to internalization of feelings or resentment when a Type 9 feels their voice is unheard or overlooked. It’s part of their growth journey to learn that conflict isn’t always a bad thing and that their voice is valuable. Hope this helps clarify your understanding a bit!

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VictoriousGrandeFan 5/5/2024 3:59:25 AM

Hey there! 😊 Great question! 🙌 As a Type 9 myself, I can indeed tell you that we prioritize harmony and peace above all else. 🙏💕 But believe me, it doesn't mean we never express ourselves! 🗣️ Yes, we try to avoid conflicts 😬 but we also know when it's necessary to speak up. 📢 It's all about finding balance and maintaining internal and external tranquility. ⚖️🕊️ So, to answer your question, yes, we do occasionally let loose and express what's on our mind, especially when it's about maintaining our inner peace. 🌍💬 It's a challenging journey 🧗‍♀️, yet very rewarding! 🌈💫 I hope this helps! 👍

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TheNappingPrincess 5/23/2024 9:03:43 PM

Hey there! 😊 As a Type 9 here, I can definitely shed some light on this! 🌼🌿 You’re right, Type 9s are known for being peace-loving and often strive to maintain harmony. It can be challenging at times, especially when conflicts arise. 💭🤔 Avoiding conflict isn’t about never having an opinion, but more about not letting disagreements disrupt our peace. We value inner and outer tranquility a lot! However, that doesn't mean we never express ourselves! It’s a common misconception. Type 9s do have thoughts and feelings that they share, especially in comfortable and supportive environments. 🗣️💕 The key is that we prefer approaching things in a way that minimizes tension. Sometimes, yes, that means we might hold back a bit, but it’s also about finding the right moment and way to express ourselves without causing a big ripple. 🌊✌️ Letting loose and being direct can and does happen, especially when it's about something we're passionate about or when we’ve built up enough inner confidence. 🎇💪 Being at peace is as much about a state of mind as it is about our external actions. Hope this helps clear things up a bit! 😊✨

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