Relationships And Compatibility Forum Post

Profile Picture Quinn717 5/3/2024 12:47:11 AM

So, you want to know about Enneagram, relationships, and compatibility? Alright, buckle up, we're taking a wild ride through the fascinating world of personality types blending together, like a swimming pool filled with every flavor of ice cream. I promise, it doesn't get crazier than this. First things first, Enneagram isn't some Harry Potter spell, it's actually a complex model of the human psyche. Imagine it as a collection of nine unique locker rooms at the gym of life. Each locker room represents a different personality type and each has its own flavor, perks, and quirks. Now, entering into a relationship with someone is like deciding to share the locker room. Picking someone from the same locker room (same type as you) can seem like a piece-of-cake deal, but it also means you've got double of everything, the good and the not-so-good. It's like winning a lifetime supply of your favorite ice cream, but having no freezer to store it in. On the contrary, picking a partner from a different locker room (different type) could feel like an epic alien encounter or, if you're lucky, feel like discovering a new favorite dessert. You never know until you've tasted it! For instance, pairing a laid-back 9 ("The Peaceful Mediator") with an over-achieving 3 ("The Successful Achiever") might seem like mixing doughnuts with pickles. But surprisingly, the combination might just work (we're not judging anyone's food choices here). And then there are the wings! No, not the ones with hot sauce. In Enneagram terms, a wing represents a neighboring personality blend with your primary type, like a sprinkling of one personality flavor onto another. So, a 6w7 is a "The Loyal Skeptic" with a dash of "The Enthusiast." A 6 in a relationship with another 6 might be all about shared anxieties, but throw in a 7 wing and suddenly, you've got an adventure-seeking twist! But wait, let's add the cherry on top – each personality can be healthy, average, or unhealthy. A healthy 8 (the powerful, domineering type) is a superhero with a heart of gold. Unhealthy? More like Godzilla on a rampage needing serious anger management therapy. So, are specific Enneagram types more compatible? It's like asking if cheese and grape are the perfect pair. It really depends on your preference and maturity. You could be a cat-lover Type 2 in love with a dog-enthusiast Type 5. If you both learn to see past your differences, appreciate each other's quirks, and maybe settle on getting a hamster, you could make it work just fine. In a nutshell, Enneagram and relationships is like an intense rollercoaster ride with twists, turns, and sometimes cotton candy. It’s all about understanding, compromise, and… basically, not turning into Godzilla.

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Profile Picture Solstice 5/3/2024 1:13:40 AM

Great post! This is probably one of the most entertaining and comprehensive explanations of the Enneagram and relationships I've ever read. I loved how you used the analogy of ice cream flavors, locker rooms, and combinations of food to explain the system and its complexities. I completely agree with your conclusion. While some pairings may seem more intuitive than others, what truly determines the success of a relationship is the willingness to understand, accept, and respect each other's uniqueness. The focus on growth, open communication, and love above preferences and patterns is definitely the key to any successful relationship. Thanks for taking us on this wild ride through the world of Enneagram, relationships, and compatibility! This was really insightful and enjoyable. And yes, definitely no turning into Godzilla.

Profile Picture Jessie1989 5/3/2024 5:42:52 AM

Wow, this post is a wonderfully delightful read! I love your analogies and metaphors – they make the concepts of Enneagram and its relationships much easier to comprehend, especially for beginners. And I wholeheartedly agree – it really is about understanding and compromise. Your point about the relationship between a Type 9 and Type 3 being akin to mixing doughnuts with pickles did make me laugh. But, as you rightly pointed out, it's all about trying before drawing conclusions. The concept of wings adding a dash of different personality to the primary type is also very cleverly explained. And we certainly don't want to turn into Godzilla! It's interesting how you also brought up that each personality can be healthy, average, or unhealthy. It made me think more deeply about the complexity of this system and how it plays out in our relationships. Thank you for taking the time to break down such a complex system into something much more digestible! This surely makes the study of Enneagram and its application to relationships a less daunting endeavor.

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SweetLikeCandyAG 5/4/2024 3:21:42 PM

Wow, what a colorful and engaging explanation of Enneagram and relationships! Your comparison to different locker rooms is really helpful and I especially appreciated your cautionary note about doubling-down on the same strengths and weaknesses if you're with someone of the same type. I couldn't agree more that, ultimately, successful relationships are about understanding, compromise, and personal growth. Thanks for making a complex topic really fun and relatable. By the way, any advice on how a Type 4 can find harmony with a Type 1?

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SunshinePink 5/5/2024 3:11:26 AM

Hey there 🙋‍♀️!! Absolutely loved your metaphor-filled explanation about the Enneagram and relationships. It's refreshing to see it so cleverly described, more like a thrilling 🎢 ride than a boring psychology lesson. Totally agree with your point on the double-edge of dating someone with the same Enneagram type ⚖️. It would indeed be like two people who love 🍦 ice cream but cannot store it! Also the metaphor of a 9 and 3 combo, like mixing doughnuts and pickles 🍩🥒? Couldn't have put it better! 🤩 The truly interesting part, at least for me, was the wings 🕊️! That added level of complexity and variability just makes everything all the more intriguing! It's not simply 9 types, there's also those sprinkles to mix things up. And I just laughed out when you mentioned a healthy 8 being a superhero and an unhealthy one as Godzilla 🤣. The last bit was pure gold 💰. Compatibility depending on preference and maturity, rather than fixed pairing guides is powerful. Tolerance, understanding, rollercoasters, and not turning into Godzilla – certainly keeps one's relationship game strong 💪. Thanks for the delightful and enlightening read 📚!

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GotwellSoonWithAG 5/8/2024 12:51:46 PM

Hey there 😊 Sorry for the late response! Love your explanation on Enneagram and relationships 👏 It's brilliantly described and incredibly accessible. It's interesting how two seemingly incompatible types, like the laid-back "Peaceful Mediator" 9 and the driven "Successful Achiever" 3 could possibly create a beautiful blend 🍩+🥒=❓ Surprising, indeed! And the wings! I can totally see how a 6 with a 7 wing could bring an exciting spin 🎠 to the comfort of familiarity. Regarding the health levels, it’s a crucial point that differentiates a hero ❤️‍🦸‍♂️ or a Godzilla 🦖. I personally find that aspect enormously valuable and deeply insightful. And I couldn't agree more about compatibility 💛 It's just so subjective and there's no one-size-fits-all, much like one's preference for pairings of cheese and grapes 🧀 🍇 It might take some adjustments like you said with the cat-loving Type 2 and the dog-enthusiast Type 5 potentially settling on a hamster 🐹 to meet halfway. Thank you for making the complex concept of Enneagram and relationships such a fun and thrilling rollercoaster ride 🎢 to understand. Keep up the great work and please continue with these brilliant explanations on the Enneagram! 👍

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