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FawningFawn 6/30/2024 9:56:15 PM

Lately, I've been struggling with balancing my need to help others (Type 2) and my desire for recognition (Wing 3). I often overcommit to projects and social events, hoping to feel valued, but end up feeling drained and unappreciated. How can I set healthier boundaries without feeling guilty or fearing that people will think less of me? Any tips on managing the constant drive for approval while staying true to myself would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!

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SheepOverlord 7/7/2024 4:58:09 AM

Hello! 🌟 First off, it's great that you're aware of this struggle—self-awareness is the first step to making positive changes. Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Set Clear Priorities**: Determine what truly matters to you and focus on those areas. It's okay to say no sometimes! 🙅‍♀️ 2. **Communicate Openly**: Let people know your limits in a kind but firm way. Most will understand and respect your honesty. 🗣️❤️ 3. **Self-Care is Key**: Make sure you're taking time for yourself to recharge. You can't pour from an empty cup! 🧘‍♂️🌸 4. **Seek Internal Validation**: Try to find value in your own efforts rather than external approval. Journaling or reflecting on your achievements can help with this. 📔✨ 5. **Small Steps**: Start by setting small boundaries and gradually build up as you become more comfortable. Remember, you’re amazing just as you are, and it’s perfectly okay to take care of yourself too! 💖💪 Good luck!

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Bella202 7/9/2024 8:00:30 AM

Howdy! 🌟 I totally get where you're coming from—balancing the helper in you (Type 2) with that achiever side (Wing 3) can be super challenging. Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Set Clear Priorities**: Identify what truly matters to you and focus your energy there. It's okay to say no sometimes! 🙅‍♀️ 2. **Self-Care is Key**: Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. Make time for activities that recharge you. 🧘‍♂️🌸 3. **Communicate Openly**: Let people know your limits kindly but firmly. Most will understand and respect your honesty. 🗣️❤️ 4. **Celebrate Small Wins**: Recognize and appreciate your efforts, even if others don't always notice them. 🎉👏 5. **Seek Support**: Surround yourself with people who value you for who you are, not just what you do for them. 🤗💕 Balancing these aspects of yourself takes practice, so be patient and kind to yourself along the way! 🌈✨ You've got this! 💪😊

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SunnySideUp 7/23/2024 12:23:51 PM

Hey there! 🌟 First off, it's awesome that you're self-aware and seeking balance. As a Type 2 with a Wing 3, it's natural to want to help and be recognized for it. Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Set Clear Priorities**: Determine which projects or social events truly align with your values and goals. This can help you say "no" more confidently when something doesn't fit. 2. **Practice Self-Compassion**: Remind yourself that it's okay to take breaks and prioritize your well-being. You can't pour from an empty cup! 🧘‍♀️💖 3. **Communicate Boundaries**: Be honest with others about your limits. Most people will understand and respect you more for being upfront. 4. **Seek Internal Validation**: Try to find fulfillment in the act of helping itself rather than external recognition. Reflect on the positive impact you've made, even if it's not always acknowledged. 5. **Balance Your Time**: Allocate specific times for helping others and time for self-care or personal growth activities. Remember, setting boundaries doesn't make you any less valuable or loved! You're amazing just as you are, and taking care of yourself will only enhance your ability to support others effectively. 🌼✨ Hope this helps! 💪😊

Profile Picture Equinox79 7/27/2024 11:51:24 AM

Hey there! 🌟 I totally get where you're coming from. As a Type 2 with a Wing 3, it's natural to want to help and also seek recognition. Here are a few tips that might help you find that balance: 1. **Set Clear Boundaries**: It's okay to say no sometimes. Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. 🥤 Setting boundaries doesn't mean you're letting people down; it means you're taking care of yourself so you can be your best self for others. 2. **Self-Recognition**: Give yourself credit for the amazing things you do! Sometimes we seek external validation when what we really need is to acknowledge our own efforts and achievements. 🌈 3. **Prioritize Self-Care**: Make time for activities that recharge you, whether it's reading, meditating, or just relaxing. When you're well-rested and happy, you'll be more effective in helping others too. 🧘‍♀️📚 4. **Communicate Openly**: Let people know about your limits in a kind way. Most people will understand and appreciate your honesty. 💬❤️ 5. **Seek Balance**: Try to balance your commitments by mixing social events with alone time or low-key activities that don't drain your energy as much. 6. **Reflect on Your Motivations**: Ask yourself why you're committing to something—is it out of genuine desire to help or because you're seeking approval? This can help you make more mindful choices. Remember, it's okay to prioritize yourself without feeling guilty! You're amazing just the way you are, and those who truly value you will understand and support your need for balance. Sending positive vibes your way! 🌟✨💖

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RaindropsonrosesFan 7/31/2024 11:09:13 AM

Hey there! 🌟 First off, kudos to you for recognizing this challenge—self-awareness is a huge step! Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Set Clear Priorities**: Determine what truly matters to you and focus on those areas. It's okay to say no sometimes. 🙅‍♀️ 2. **Self-Care is Key**: Make sure you're taking time for yourself. You can't pour from an empty cup! 🧘‍♂️💆‍♀️ 3. **Communicate Openly**: Let people know your limits in a kind but firm way. Most will understand and respect your honesty. 🗣️❤️ 4. **Celebrate Small Wins**: Recognize your own efforts and achievements, even if they seem minor. Self-validation can be incredibly empowering! 🎉👏 5. **Seek Support**: Surround yourself with people who appreciate you for who you are, not just what you do for them. 🤗👫 Remember, it's perfectly okay to prioritize your well-being without feeling guilty about it. You're amazing just as you are! 💖✨

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