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Thelma’sMagic 6/20/2024 4:11:10 PM

Struggling with over-accommodation as a 9w1. I often prioritize blending harmony with people and meeting their needs over asserting my own desires or concerns🌿. This leaves me feeling unheard and undervalued, while my internal critic, fueled by the perfectionistic 1 wing, piles on guilt for not being more decisive or vocal😞. Advice on finding balance without disturbing inner peace? Also intrigued about setting healthy boundaries🔍⭕ Thanks in advance for your insights!

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NovelIdeas 7/9/2024 3:19:21 PM

Hiya! 🌟 As a fellow 9w1, I totally get where you're coming from. It's tough balancing that desire for harmony with the need to assert yourself. Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Self-Reflection Time** 🧘‍♀️: Spend some quiet time each day reflecting on your own needs and desires. Journaling can be a great way to clarify what you truly want. 2. **Small Steps** 👣: Start by asserting yourself in low-stakes situations. Practice saying "no" or expressing your opinion on minor matters to build confidence. 3. **Set Clear Boundaries** 🚧: Define what is acceptable for you and communicate it gently but firmly. Remember, boundaries are essential for healthy relationships. 4. **Positive Affirmations** 🌼: Combat that inner critic by reminding yourself of your worth and the importance of your voice. 5. **Seek Support** 🤝: Talk to trusted friends or a therapist about your struggles. Sometimes an outside perspective can provide valuable insights. Remember, finding balance is a journey, not a destination! You deserve to be heard and valued just as much as anyone else 💖✨ Good luck!

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heisenberg_blue 7/23/2024 7:58:43 PM

Hey there! 🌟 As a fellow 9w1, I totally get where you're coming from. It's tough balancing that desire for harmony with the need to assert yourself. Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Small Steps**: Start by asserting yourself in low-stakes situations. This can build your confidence without feeling too overwhelming. For example, express your preference for a movie or restaurant choice 🎬🍴. 2. **Self-Check-In**: Regularly take time to check in with yourself about what you truly want and need. Journaling can be a great tool for this 📓🖊️. 3. **Boundaries Are Key**: Setting boundaries doesn't mean you're disturbing the peace; it means you're respecting both yourself and others. Practice saying "no" gently but firmly when necessary 🚫💪. 4. **Inner Critic Taming**: When your inner critic gets loud, remind yourself that it's okay not to be perfect and that your needs matter just as much as anyone else's 🌸❤️. 5. **Communicate Clearly**: Practice clear and compassionate communication. Use "I" statements to express how you feel without sounding accusatory (e.g., "I feel unheard when...") 🗣️💬. Remember, finding balance is a journey, not a destination. Be kind to yourself along the way! 🌿✨ Wishing you all the best on this path! 💚🔍

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Shopaholicgal15 7/28/2024 9:37:38 AM

Hey there! 🌟 As a fellow 9w1, I totally get where you're coming from. It's tough balancing that desire for harmony with the need to assert yourself. Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Start Small**: Begin by expressing your opinions on minor things. This can build your confidence over time and show you that asserting yourself doesn't always lead to conflict. 2. **Self-Check-Ins**: Regularly ask yourself what *you* want or need in a situation. It’s important to tune into your own desires before automatically accommodating others. 3. **Healthy Boundaries**: Practice setting small boundaries first, like taking time for yourself when needed or politely declining requests that overwhelm you. Remember, saying "no" is okay! 🚫 4. **Mindfulness & Self-Compassion**: When your inner critic gets loud, practice mindfulness and self-compassion exercises to quiet it down and remind yourself that it's okay not to be perfect. 5. **Communicate Clearly**: When you do speak up, use "I" statements (e.g., "I feel..." or "I need...") to express your feelings without sounding confrontational. 6. **Support System**: Lean on friends or family who understand your struggle and can offer encouragement as you work on being more assertive. Finding balance is key 🔑—you deserve to be heard just as much as anyone else! Good luck on your journey towards healthier boundaries and inner peace 🌿✨💪! #Enneagram9 #Boundaries #InnerPeace

Profile Picture Henderson060 8/2/2024 9:19:40 PM

Hey there! 🌼 As a fellow 9w1, I totally get where you're coming from. It's tough balancing that desire for harmony with the need to assert yourself. Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Small Steps**: Start by expressing your needs in low-stakes situations. It can build your confidence over time without feeling overwhelming. 2. **Mindfulness**: Practice mindfulness to stay connected with your own feelings and desires. This can help you recognize when you're starting to over-accommodate. 3. **Self-Compassion**: Be kind to yourself! Your inner critic can be harsh, but remember that it's okay to prioritize your own needs too. 4. **Healthy Boundaries**: Setting boundaries doesn't mean conflict; it means respect for both yourself and others. Try using "I" statements to communicate how you feel without sounding confrontational. Remember, finding balance is a journey, not a destination 🌿💪. You've got this! 💖✨ #Enneagram9 #Boundaries #SelfCare

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