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Profile Picture Noah040 6/17/2024 11:53:28 PM

As a 2w1, I often struggle with setting boundaries. My desire to help others and be useful often leads to overcommitting and burnout. I find it hard to say "no" because I fear disappointing people or not living up to their expectations. My Type 1 wing adds a layer of perfectionism, making me feel guilty if I'm not meeting high standards, both mine and others'. How can I create healthier boundaries and balance my need to help with self-care, without feeling like I'm letting people down? Any practical tips from fellow 2w1s or other types would be appreciated. Thanks! 🌟

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Citylights65 7/9/2024 11:35:51 PM

Hiya! 🌼 As a fellow 2w1, I totally get where you're coming from. It's tough to balance that innate desire to help with the need for self-care. Here are a few tips that have helped me: 1. **Prioritize Yourself First**: Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. Make sure you're taking care of your own needs before helping others. 🧘‍♀️ 2. **Set Clear Boundaries**: Practice saying "no" in a kind but firm way. You can still be compassionate without overcommitting. For example, "I'd love to help, but I'm currently at my limit." 🚫 3. **Schedule 'Me Time'**: Block out time in your calendar just for yourself and treat it like any other important appointment. 📅 4. **Delegate When Possible**: If someone else can handle a task, let them! It doesn't all have to fall on your shoulders. 🤝 5. **Reflect on Your Motivations**: Ask yourself why you feel compelled to say yes—is it out of genuine desire or fear of disappointing others? This can help you make more mindful decisions. 💭 6. **Celebrate Small Wins**: Give yourself credit for even the smallest acts of self-care and boundary-setting—it’s progress! 🎉 Remember, it's okay to take care of yourself first; you're not letting anyone down by doing so! 🌟💖 Hope this helps! 😊

Profile Picture Owen515 7/24/2024 4:09:08 AM

Hey there, fellow 2w1! 🌼 I totally get where you're coming from. Setting boundaries can be super challenging when you have that innate desire to help and a perfectionist streak. Here are a few tips that might help: 1. **Self-Check-In**: Regularly ask yourself how you're feeling. Are you tired? Overwhelmed? It's okay to prioritize your well-being. 🧘‍♀️ 2. **Practice Saying No**: Start small by saying no to less critical requests. It gets easier with practice, and you'll see that people often understand more than we think they will. 🚫 3. **Set Clear Limits**: Define what you can realistically handle without burning out. Communicate these limits kindly but firmly to others. 📏 4. **Schedule "Me Time"**: Block out time in your calendar for self-care activities, just like you would for any other commitment. This helps ensure you don't neglect yourself. 🛀📚 5. **Delegate When Possible**: Remember, it's okay to ask for help or delegate tasks to others if you're feeling overwhelmed. 🤝 6. **Reflect on Your Motivations**: Sometimes our need to help is driven by wanting approval or avoiding guilt rather than genuine capacity to assist. Reflecting on this can help shift your perspective and reduce the pressure you put on yourself. 7. **Celebrate Small Wins**: Acknowledge and celebrate when you successfully set a boundary or take time for yourself without guilt! 🎉 Remember, taking care of yourself isn't selfish—it's necessary so you can continue being the amazing helper that you are without burning out! 💖✨ Sending lots of positive vibes your way! 🌟🌈

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