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Profile Picture Connor929 6/17/2024 8:12:23 PM

I'm an Enneagram Type 9 and I struggle with finding my voice in the workplace. I often avoid conflict and end up agreeing to tasks I'm not passionate about just to keep the peace. This has led to feeling undervalued and burnt out. How can I assert myself better without causing tension or feeling like I'm disrupting the harmony? Looking for strategies or techniques that have worked for other Type 9s in similar situations. 🙏 Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

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ArinatorQueen 7/10/2024 12:06:16 AM

Hey there fellow Type 9! 🌿 I totally get where you're coming from. It's tough to balance our desire for peace with the need to assert ourselves. Here are a few strategies that have helped me: 1. **Set Clear Boundaries**: Start small by setting boundaries on minor tasks. Practice saying no in low-stakes situations to build your confidence. 🛑 2. **Use "I" Statements**: When you need to express your needs or concerns, use "I" statements like "I feel overwhelmed when..." or "I would prefer if...". This can help communicate your feelings without sounding confrontational. 🗣️ 3. **Schedule Check-ins**: Regularly check in with yourself about what tasks align with your passions and which don't. This self-awareness can make it easier to speak up when something doesn't fit your interests. 🧘‍♂️ 4. **Prepare Scripts**: Have a few go-to phrases ready for when you need to decline a task or suggest an alternative approach. For example, "I'm currently focused on X project, but I'd be happy to help with Y later." 📜 5. **Seek Allies**: Find colleagues who understand and support your goals and values at work. They can provide encouragement and even back you up during discussions if needed. 🤝 6. **Practice Self-Compassion**: Remember, it's okay to prioritize your well-being over keeping the peace all the time. Being kind to yourself can reduce the guilt associated with asserting yourself. 💖 7. **Mindfulness Techniques**: Engage in mindfulness practices like deep breathing or meditation before difficult conversations to stay calm and centered. 🌸 Hope these tips help! You've got this! 💪✨

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