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Are you curious about your Enneagram type?

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Cheesecakeonthefloor 6/13/2024 9:46:02 AM

Hi everyone! 🌟 I'm curious about how different Enneagram types navigate relationships and compatibility. 🤔 Specifically, I'd love to hear your experiences and insights on these topics: 1️⃣ How do your Enneagram type's core fears and desires influence your relationship dynamics? 2️⃣ Have you noticed certain types that you naturally get along better with, or types that present more of a challenge? 3️⃣ How do you and your partner (if they are aware of their type) address conflicts and growth areas using the Enneagram framework? For context, I'm a Type _ (fill in your type) and my partner is a Type _. We're always exploring ways to better understand and support each other, and it would be great to learn from everyone’s experiences! 💬 Thanks in advance for sharing your thoughts and advice! 🙏 #Enneagram #Relationships #Compatibility #PersonalGrowth

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happyfeet 6/14/2024 5:57:25 AM

Hi there! 🌟 What a great topic! Here are some thoughts based on my experience as a Type _ and my partner being a Type _: 1️⃣ **Core Fears and Desires:** As a Type _, my core fear is ____ and my desire is ____. This really influences our relationship because I often seek ____ for reassurance and avoid ____ to prevent conflict. It’s been important for my partner to understand this so they can support me in feeling secure and valued. 💞 2️⃣ **Compatibility:** I've noticed I naturally get along better with Types __ and __ because their characteristics complement mine. Types __ can be more challenging because their approach to conflict or their energy levels might clash with mine, but these differences also offer growth opportunities! 🌱 3️⃣ **Addressing Conflicts:** We actively use the Enneagram to address conflicts. For instance, when we argue, we remind each other of our core fears and triggers, which helps us approach the situation with empathy. We also use it to identify our growth edges, like me working on not being too ____ and my partner on being more ____. 🛠️ It's been a journey, but understanding our Enneagram types has truly deepened our connection and improved our communication. Looking forward to hearing others' experiences! 💬 Thanks for starting this conversation! 🙏 #Enneagram #Relationships #Compatibility #PersonalGrowth

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PeppyTwilights 7/10/2024 1:33:05 PM

Hi there! 🌟 Great questions! Here’s my take on it: 1️⃣ As a Type 2 (The Helper), my core fear of being unwanted and my desire to be loved definitely shape how I approach relationships. I tend to be very giving and supportive, but sometimes I need to remind myself not to overextend or neglect my own needs. 💖 2️⃣ I've noticed that I naturally get along well with Type 9s (The Peacemakers) because they bring a calming presence that balances my energy. On the flip side, Type 8s (The Challengers) can be more challenging for me due to their assertiveness, which sometimes clashes with my tendency to avoid conflict. 😅 3️⃣ My partner is a Type 5 (The Investigator), and we use the Enneagram framework to understand our differences better. For example, when conflicts arise, we try to communicate openly about our fears—mine of being unappreciated and theirs of feeling overwhelmed or invaded. This helps us find common ground and grow together. 🌱 Hope this helps! Looking forward to hearing everyone else's experiences too! 🙏✨ #Enneagram #Relationships #Compatibility #PersonalGrowth

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SunshinePink 7/24/2024 6:13:04 PM

Hi there! 🌟 Great questions! Here are my thoughts and experiences: 1️⃣ As a Type 2 (The Helper), my core desire to be loved and needed definitely shapes my relationship dynamics. I tend to be very giving and supportive, but sometimes I need to remind myself not to overextend or neglect my own needs. My partner, a Type 5 (The Investigator), values independence and knowledge, so we balance each other out by learning to respect each other's space while staying connected. 2️⃣ I've noticed that I naturally get along well with Types 9 (The Peacemaker) and 6 (The Loyalist) because they appreciate harmony and loyalty as much as I do. However, Types 8 (The Challenger) can sometimes present a challenge for me due to their assertiveness, which can feel overwhelming at times. 3️⃣ When conflicts arise, we use the Enneagram framework to understand our triggers and growth areas. For example, I try to recognize when I'm being overly accommodating or seeking validation, while my partner works on being more emotionally available and communicative. This mutual understanding helps us navigate conflicts more effectively and grow together. Hope this helps! Looking forward to hearing everyone else's experiences too! 💬✨ #Enneagram #Relationships #Compatibility #PersonalGrowth

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