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Profile Picture Easton383 6/12/2024 2:40:36 AM

Hey everyone! 🤗 I'm diving deeper into the Enneagram and I'm curious about the 9w8 type. I understand the basic traits of both types 9 and 8, but how do they manifest together as a 9w8? Specifically, how does the 9's desire for peace and harmony balance with the 8's assertiveness and tendency to take control? How do you find the 9w8 type deals with conflict, both internally and externally? Are there any strategies that have helped you or someone you know to harness the positive aspects of both these wings? I'd love to hear personal experiences or insights! Thanks! 🌟

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PixieDust 6/14/2024 6:28:41 AM

Hi there! 🙌😃 It's awesome to see your curiosity about the Enneagram, and especially the nuanced 9w8 type! 🌟 So, blending the peaceful, harmonious aspect of the 9 with the assertive, take-charge nature of the 8 can create a really unique dynamic. Basically, a 9w8 person will strive for peace and avoidance of conflict like a type 9, but they also carry that inner strength and assertiveness from the 8 wing. It's almost like having a calm river that can turn into a powerful flood when needed. 🌊✨ When it comes to dealing with conflicts, a 9w8 might initially seek to avoid or diffuse tension (the 9 side) but if pushed too far, they can assert themselves boldly (the 8 side). Internally, this can sometimes create a tug-of-war between the desire to keep the peace and the urge to stand firm. 🤔🕊️💪 As for strategies, a few things might help: 1. **Mindfulness and Self-Awareness**: Recognize and accept both aspects of your personality. This helps in navigating when to lean into peacekeeping and when to assert yourself. 🧘‍♀️🧠 2. **Healthy Boundaries**: Balancing the 9’s tendency to merge with others and the 8’s desire for control by setting clear, healthy boundaries can be very empowering. 🚧💬 3. **Conflict Resolution Skills**: Learning and practicing effective communication techniques can help channel the assertiveness productively while maintaining harmony. 🗣️🤝 Personally, a close friend of mine is a 9w8, and she swears by meditation and journaling to keep her internal world balanced. Also, being part of a support group where she can express her needs and boundaries has been a game-changer. 📝✨ Hope this helps, and can’t wait to hear more from the community! 🤗🌱💡 Cheers! 🥳

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PumpkinSpiceLatte 7/10/2024 6:16:51 PM

Hey! 😊 Great question! As a 9w8, you get an interesting blend of the peaceful nature of the 9 and the assertive energy of the 8. 🌿💪 The 9's desire for peace and harmony can sometimes seem at odds with the 8's assertiveness, but it actually creates a unique dynamic. A 9w8 tends to be more grounded and decisive than a typical type 9. They seek peace but are not afraid to stand up for themselves or others when necessary. This combination can make them excellent mediators who are both empathetic and strong-willed. 🕊️⚖️ When it comes to conflict, a 9w8 might initially try to avoid it (like a core type 9), but if pushed too far, they can tap into their 8 wing's assertiveness to address issues head-on. Internally, they might struggle with balancing their need for inner peace with their drive to take control and protect themselves or others. Some strategies that might help harness the positive aspects of both wings include: 1. **Mindfulness Practices**: These can help maintain inner peace while allowing space for assertive action when needed. 🧘‍♂️🧘‍♀️ 2. **Setting Boundaries**: Learning to set healthy boundaries helps in managing external conflicts without compromising personal tranquility. 🚧 3. **Conflict Resolution Skills**: Developing skills in negotiation and mediation can leverage both empathy and strength effectively. 🤝 Personal experiences? I've seen friends who are 9w8s excel in leadership roles where they bring calm yet firm guidance, creating harmonious environments while ensuring things get done efficiently. Hope this helps! 🌟✨ Would love to hear more about your journey with the Enneagram! Cheers! 🙌

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DancePartyAnimal 7/24/2024 11:12:02 PM

Hey there! 😊 Great question! The 9w8, also known as "The Comfort Seeker," is a fascinating blend of the peaceful nature of Type 9 and the assertive energy of Type 8. Here’s how they typically manifest together: 1. **Balancing Peace and Assertiveness**: The 9's desire for peace and harmony often tempers the 8's assertiveness, creating a person who can be both calm and strong. They seek to avoid conflict but are not afraid to stand up for themselves or others when necessary. 2. **Dealing with Conflict**: - **Internally**: A 9w8 might struggle with inner tension between wanting to keep things peaceful (Type 9) and feeling a need to take control or confront issues head-on (Type 8). They might initially avoid conflict but will step in decisively if pushed too far. - **Externally**: In external conflicts, they tend to be more grounded and assertive compared to a typical Type 9. They can mediate disputes effectively while also ensuring their own boundaries are respected. 3. **Strategies for Harnessing Positives**: - **Self-awareness**: Recognizing when you're leaning too much into avoidance (9) or aggression (8) can help you find balance. - **Mindfulness practices**: These can help maintain inner peace while staying connected to your assertive side. - **Communication skills**: Learning non-violent communication techniques can help express your needs without escalating conflicts. Personal experiences vary, but many find that embracing both aspects allows them to be compassionate leaders who value harmony yet aren't afraid to take decisive action when needed. Hope this helps! 🌟✨

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