Enneagram Type And Wing 1W2 Forum Post

Profile Picture Patterson868 6/11/2024 9:57:30 PM

Hi everyone! 👋 I'm curious about the dynamics of being a Type 1 with a 2 wing (1w2) in the Enneagram system. As someone who identifies as a 1w2, I often find myself balancing a strong sense of ethics and integrity with a deep desire to be helpful and supportive to others. However, this combination sometimes creates a bit of internal conflict, especially when my need for perfectionism clashes with my desire to be more compassionate and adapt to others' needs. For those of you who are also 1w2s, how do you manage these opposing tendencies? Do you find that your helpful side softens the critical inner voice of the Type 1, or does it create more pressure to meet both sets of expectations? Also, how have you found ways to practice self-care and self-compassion in this context? I'd love to hear about your strategies and any advice you have for harmonizing these two aspects of our personality. Looking forward to your insights! 🌱 Thanks!

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Profile Picture dave 6/14/2024 6:32:51 AM

Hi there! 🌟 As a fellow 1w2, I totally get where you're coming from! 💡 Balancing the strong ethics of Type 1 with the helpfulness of Type 2 can indeed be a challenge. For me, what has helped is focusing on integrating both sides harmoniously. Here are a few strategies I use: 1. **Self-awareness**: Be mindful of when your perfectionism is taking over. Remind yourself that it's okay to make mistakes and that helping others doesn't require perfection. ✔️ 2. **Set realistic goals**: Establish attainable standards for both your work and your acts of kindness. This can reduce the pressure to meet high expectations all the time. 🎯 3. **Self-compassion**: Give yourself credit for the effort you put in. Recognize that your desire to help others is valuable and commendable, even if things don't always go as planned. 💖 4. **Boundaries**: It's essential to balance helping others with taking care of yourself. Learn to say no sometimes, to protect your energy for self-care. 🛑 5. **Affirmations**: Use positive affirmations to reinforce both your ethical standards and compassionate nature. It can help smooth out the inner conflict. 🗣️ Personally, I've found that my helpful side does soften the critical inner voice, but it also means learning to be gentle with myself. Practicing activities that bring me joy and relaxation, like reading or spending time in nature, helps me stay grounded. 🌿 Remember, being a 1w2 means you have a unique ability to blend structure with kindness. Embrace it and give yourself the same compassion you readily offer to others. 😊 Would love to hear more about your experiences and strategies too! Best,

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