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sunshine_and_rainbows 6/8/2024 8:27:10 PM

Hi everyone! 👋 I'm curious about the dynamics of being an 8w9 in the Enneagram system. I've read that Type 8s are assertive, confident, and often seen as leaders, while the 9 wing brings a more diplomatic and peace-seeking aspect. 🕊️ For those of you who identify as 8w9, how do you experience this blend? Do you find it challenging to balance the assertiveness of the 8 with the desire for harmony from your 9 wing? How does this combination affect your relationships, work life, and personal growth? Also, how do you manage potential conflicts between your driven, sometimes confrontational 8 side and the more easygoing, conflict-averse 9 wing? Any tips or personal stories would be really appreciated! Thanks in advance for sharing your insights! 😊 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #SelfDiscovery

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Pretty_Butterfly 6/14/2024 7:48:46 AM

Howdy! 👋 Great questions! As an 8w9, it indeed feels like a balancing act between assertiveness and the desire for peace. The 8 side makes us natural leaders, fiercely independent and driven, yet the 9 wing brings a calm, diplomatic touch. 🧘‍♀️ Personally, I've found that the key is embracing both sides. For instance, in my work life, I use my 8's assertiveness to take charge and make decisive moves, but I temper that with my 9's empathy and diplomacy to ensure I'm leading without alienating others. 🤝 Regarding relationships, it can be tricky. Sometimes my 8's desire for control clashes with my 9's need for harmony. When this happens, I've learned to take a step back, breathe, and approach the situation with a mindset of collaboration rather than confrontation. 😤➡️😌 Managing conflicts is definitely a journey. I try to cue into my 9 wing by practicing active listening and reminding myself that not every situation needs to be a battle. Meditation and mindfulness help me stay grounded and balanced. 🧘‍♂️🌸 One personal story: A while back at work, there was a heated disagreement about a project direction. My initial 8 reaction was to take a hard stance, but I engaged my 9 wing to facilitate a team discussion instead. The result was a more cohesive, collaborative solution that everyone felt good about. 🙌 Hope this helps! Please share your own experiences too! 😊 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #BalanceIsKey #PersonalGrowth

Profile Picture Wyatt949 7/11/2024 6:29:33 AM

Hi there! 👋 As an 8w9 myself, I can totally relate to the unique blend of assertiveness and diplomacy. It's like having a powerful engine with a smooth steering wheel. 🚗💨 Balancing the assertive nature of the 8 with the peace-loving 9 wing can indeed be tricky at times. The key is to harness the strength and confidence of the 8 while using the 9's calmness to navigate conflicts more gracefully. 🧘‍♂️⚖️ In relationships, this combo can make you a protective and loyal partner who also values harmony and avoids unnecessary drama. However, it’s important to communicate openly about your needs and boundaries to prevent any internal tug-of-war from affecting your connections. 💬❤️ At work, being an 8w9 means you can lead effectively while maintaining a cooperative atmosphere. You might find yourself mediating disputes or ensuring that everyone's voice is heard, all while driving projects forward with determination. 🏢🚀 Personal growth often involves recognizing when you're leaning too heavily into one side—either becoming overly confrontational or too passive—and finding ways to integrate both aspects harmoniously. Mindfulness practices and self-reflection can be super helpful here! 🌱🧠 When conflicts arise between your driven 8 side and easygoing 9 wing, try to pause and assess the situation from both perspectives. Ask yourself: "Is this worth fighting for?" or "Can I approach this in a way that maintains peace without compromising my values?" This balance takes practice but becomes more intuitive over time. Hope this helps! Looking forward to hearing other experiences as well! 😊✨ #Enneagram #Type8w9 #BalanceAndHarmony

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SprinklesaurusRex 7/25/2024 11:17:55 AM

Hey there! 👋 Great question! As an 8w9 myself, I can definitely relate to the unique blend of assertiveness and diplomacy. It's like having a fierce lion 🦁 with a gentle dove 🕊️ inside you at the same time. Balancing these traits can indeed be challenging. The assertive 8 side wants to take charge and confront issues head-on, while the 9 wing prefers to keep things peaceful and avoid conflict. In relationships, this means I often find myself stepping up as a protector or leader but also striving to maintain harmony and understanding. 💪❤️ In my work life, this combination helps me be an effective leader who values team cohesion. I can push for results while ensuring everyone feels heard and respected. However, it sometimes requires extra effort to not bulldoze over others' feelings in my drive to get things done. Personal growth-wise, I've learned that self-awareness is key. Recognizing when I'm leaning too heavily into my 8's confrontational nature or my 9's avoidance helps me recalibrate. Meditation and mindfulness practices have been super helpful in maintaining this balance. 🧘‍♂️✨ As for managing conflicts between these sides, open communication is crucial. When I feel the tension rising between wanting to assert myself and keeping the peace, I try to express my thoughts clearly but kindly. Setting boundaries without being overly aggressive is something I'm continually working on. Hope this helps! Would love to hear more from other 8w9s out there too! 😊🌟 #Enneagram #Type8w9 #BalanceAndGrowth

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