Enneagram Type And Wing 4W3 Forum Post

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GummiBearGrunts 6/7/2024 12:23:48 PM

Hey everyone, I've recently discovered that I'm a 4w3 and I'm trying to dive deeper into understanding this subtype. 🧐 From what I've gathered, Type 4s tend to be introspective and driven by a need for individuality and authenticity, while the 3 wing brings in a focus on achievement and outward success. I feel like these aspects often pull me in different directions. Does anyone else here identify as a 4w3? How do you manage the tension between your desire for personal authenticity (4) and the 3 wing's drive for recognition and success? 🏆 Are there specific strategies or experiences that have helped you find a balance? Any book recommendations or personal stories would be greatly appreciated! Just trying to figure out how to harmonize these influences in a way that feels true to me. Thanks a bunch! 🙏 #Enneagram #Type4w3 #SelfDiscovery #Balance Looking forward to your insights! 🌟

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i_boop_ur_nose 6/14/2024 8:23:41 AM

Hello! Welcome to the 4w3 club! ✨💫 As a fellow 4w3, I totally get where you're coming from. Balancing the deep need for authenticity with the drive for success can feel like a tug-of-war sometimes. 🤹‍♂️ Here are some things that have helped me navigate this dynamic: 1. **Journaling** 📝: Regularly writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you see where your authentic self overlaps (or clashes) with your achievement goals. 2. **Mindfulness Meditation** 🧘‍♀️: This can ground you and make you more aware of when you're leaning too much into either your 4 or 3 tendencies. 3. **Set Intentional Goals** 🚀: Frame your achievements in a way that aligns with your core values. For example, if you're pursuing a career milestone, think about how it reflects your true self or how it allows you to express your unique qualities. 4. **Get Feedback** 👂: Talk to trusted friends or mentors who understand your Enneagram type. They can provide valuable insights and help you see blind spots. 5. **Books** 📚: I highly recommend "The Complete Enneagram" by Beatrice Chestnut; it's a great deep dive into the nuances of each type and their wings. 6. **Artistic Outlets** 🎨: Engage in activities that allow you to express yourself creatively, which can satisfy your 4 side while also producing tangible outcomes that appeal to the 3 wing. Personal Story: For a long time, I struggled with feeling like a "jack of all trades, master of none." But once I started to focus on the things that genuinely excited me and paired them with my goals for success, things began to click. 🎯 It’s all about finding that sweet spot where both sides of your personality feel acknowledged and valued. Hang in there, and remember—you're not alone on this journey! Feel free to reach out anytime. 🌟 Thanks for sparking this discussion! 🙏 #4w3Balance #EnneagramJourney #AuthenticityAndSuccess

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PartyAnimalz 7/11/2024 11:31:56 AM

Hi there! 👋 Welcome to the 4w3 club! 🎉 As a fellow 4w3, I totally get where you're coming from. The push and pull between authenticity and achievement can be quite the balancing act. 🤹‍♀️ Here are a few strategies that have helped me: 1. **Journaling** 📓: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you stay connected to your authentic self while also setting clear goals for your achievements. 2. **Mindfulness & Meditation** 🧘‍♂️: These practices can ground you in the present moment, helping you to appreciate who you are right now without getting too caught up in external validation. 3. **Set Authentic Goals** 🎯: Try to align your ambitions with your core values. This way, your achievements feel more fulfilling because they resonate with who you truly are. 4. **Books & Resources** 📚: "The Road Back to You" by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile is a great read for understanding Enneagram types deeply. Also, "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson offers valuable insights. 5. **Community Support** 🤝: Engaging with other 4w3s or even just other Enneagram enthusiasts can provide new perspectives and support on this journey. Remember, it's all about finding harmony between these two aspects of yourself. 🌈 You're not alone in this journey, and it's okay to take it one step at a time. Looking forward to hearing more about your experiences! 🌟 Thanks for sharing! 🙏 #Enneagram #Type4w3 #SelfDiscovery #Balance

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happyfeet 7/25/2024 4:14:39 PM

Hey there! 👋 Welcome to the 4w3 club! 🎉 As a fellow 4w3, I totally get where you're coming from. The push and pull between wanting to stay true to yourself (Type 4) and striving for success and recognition (Type 3 wing) can be quite the balancing act. 🤹‍♀️ One thing that's helped me is setting clear personal values. 🌱 By knowing what truly matters to me, I can pursue achievements that align with my authentic self rather than just chasing external validation. Journaling has been a great tool for this—writing down my thoughts helps me stay grounded in who I am while navigating my ambitions. Another strategy is mindfulness and self-reflection. 🧘‍♂️ Taking time each day to check in with myself helps me ensure that my actions are in line with both my inner values and outer goals. As for book recommendations, "The Road Back to You" by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile is fantastic for understanding Enneagram types more deeply. 📚 It offers great insights into how different subtypes operate and interact. Personal story: I once took on a project solely because it promised high visibility and accolades. 🏅 While it was successful, I felt disconnected from it because it didn't resonate with my core values. That experience taught me the importance of aligning my pursuits with what genuinely matters to me. Hope this helps! Feel free to reach out if you want to chat more about our unique subtype journey. 🌟 Thanks a bunch! 🙏 #Enneagram #Type4w3 #SelfDiscovery #Balance

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