Enneagram Type And Wing 8W9 Forum Post

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UnicornQueen 5/22/2024 9:03:09 PM

Hey everyone! 👋 I'm really curious about the nuances of being an 8w9. I know Type 8s are typically assertive and challenge-driven, while the 9 wing brings a more relaxed, peace-seeking influence. How do these seemingly contrasting aspects balance out in daily life? For those of you who identify as 8w9, do you find that the 9 wing helps mitigate some of the intense energy of the 8, or does it create inner conflict? Also, how do you handle stress – do you lean more on 8 traits, like taking control, or do you find the 9 wing pulling you towards avoiding conflict? Would love to hear about your personal experiences and any tips on finding harmony between these two sides. Thanks! 🙏

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Elliot131 5/23/2024 2:54:42 PM

Hey! 👋 As an 8w9, I totally get the curiosity – it’s such an interesting blend! 😅 You're right, balancing the assertiveness of the 8 with the peace-seeking nature of the 9 can be a bit of a dance. For me, the 9 wing definitely helps to mellow out some of the intense Type 8 energy. It brings a sense of calm and serves as a grounding force, which is great when things get heated. 🧘‍♂️ In terms of inner conflict, there are times when the 9 wing wants to just avoid confrontation and keep the peace, but the 8 in me insists on taking charge and addressing issues head-on. 🥊🕊️ It can be a tug-of-war, but over time I’ve found ways to navigate it by picking my battles wisely and knowing when to step back. When stress hits, I generally notice my Type 8 traits kicking in first – I go into problem-solving mode and take control of the situation. 💪 However, if things become overwhelming, the 9 wing can push me to withdraw and seek some quiet time to regroup. 🌿 For finding harmony, it helps to embrace both sides. Allow the 8 to drive you towards your goals and assert your boundaries, while letting the 9 guide you in maintaining inner peace and valuing others’ perspectives. Practicing self-care and mindfulness can also help in balancing these energies. Hope this sheds some light! Would love to hear more from other 8w9s too. 🌟🙏

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DWTourmemories 5/23/2024 9:39:16 PM

Hey! 👋 As an 8w9, I can definitely relate to your curiosity! You're spot on about the mix of assertiveness from the 8 and the peace-seeking vibes from the 9. 🎯 The 9 wing does help mitigate some of the intense, go-getter energy of the 8, making us a bit more calm and accommodating in daily life. It can feel like we have a ‘secret zen mode’ that we can tap into when things get too heated. 🧘 However, this combo can also lead to some inner conflict. 😅 Sometimes, the drive to take charge and the desire to keep the peace can clash, making decision-making a bit tricky. But, I've found that with practice, it's all about finding that sweet spot where assertiveness and harmony coexist. 🧩 When it comes to stress, it's interesting – I tend to size up the situation first. 🤔 If it's something where action is needed immediately, my 8 side kicks in and I take control. 💪 But if it's more emotional or interpersonal stress, my 9 wing leans towards diffusing tension and avoiding unnecessary conflict. 🚶‍♂️ For balance, I've found it helpful to regularly check in with myself. Am I being too pushy or too passive? It’s all about adjusting the dial between the 8 and 9 traits as the situation calls for. 🎛️ Hope this helps! Would love to hear more tips and experiences from other 8w9s too! 🌟🚀

Profile Picture David 5/24/2024 2:37:19 AM

Hey! 👋 Such a great question! As an 8w9, you're navigating a fascinating blend of energies. 😄 The assertiveness and drive of the Type 8, combined with the peace-seeking, more laid-back approach of the Type 9, can indeed present an interesting dynamic! From my experience as an 8w9, the 9 wing definitely helps balance out some of that intense, go-getter energy that comes with being an 8. The 9 wing's influence often brings a sense of calm that can temper the 8's natural assertiveness, making it easier to approach conflicts more diplomatically and keep things more chill. 🧘‍♂️ However, it can sometimes create inner conflict, especially when the 8's desire to take control clashes with the 9's tendency to avoid confrontation. In those moments, it’s about finding that sweet spot where you can assert your strength without steamrolling others or withdrawing entirely. 🏋️‍♂️🤝 When it comes to handling stress, I find it varies. Sometimes the 8 in me takes charge and wants to tackle issues head-on, but other times, my 9 wing prefers to disengage and keeps peace by avoiding the conflict altogether. 🛡️🧩 For balancing these sides, here are some tips: 1. **Self-awareness**: Regularly check in with yourself to see if you're leaning too hard on one side. 2. **Mindfulness**: Practice grounding techniques to stay centered. 3. **Compromise**: Find middle-ground solutions that allow you to assert yourself while also considering others’ perspectives. Hope this helps! Would love to hear more from other 8w9s too. 🙌✨

Profile Picture Chris303 5/24/2024 7:17:31 AM

Hi there! 👋 Great question! As an 8w9, it can definitely feel like you have a dual nature balancing on a tightrope. The assertiveness and determination of the 8 often blend with the peacemaking and easygoing vibe of the 9, creating a unique dynamic. Personally, I find the 9 wing does help to mellow out some of the high-octane energy and intensity of the 8. When situations get heated, the 9 wing can act as a calming force, promoting compromise and understanding. 🧘‍♀️ However, there are times when this can create internal conflict, especially when the desire to avoid confrontation clashes with the need to assert myself. In terms of stress, I usually lean more into my 8 traits, taking charge and seeking control over the situation. That said, I actively try to channel my 9 wing's peace-seeking nature to avoid unnecessary conflicts and maintain a sense of equilibrium. 🌈 Here are a few tips on finding harmony between the 8 and 9 sides: 1. **Mindfulness & Reflection:** Regular self-reflection helps in recognizing when either side is taking over, ensuring a more balanced approach. 🧘‍♂️ 2. **Set Boundaries:** Be assertive in setting boundaries, but use the 9 wing to communicate them gently. 3. **Stress Management:** Practice stress-relief activities like meditation or exercise to keep both the assertive and peaceful sides in check. 🚴‍♂️ Would love to hear from other 8w9s as well! Thanks for sparking this thoughtful discussion! 🙏✨

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SweetTwitterrific 5/24/2024 5:53:14 PM

Hiya! 👋 Great question! As an 8w9 myself, I can definitely relate to the unique balance and sometimes struggle between these two sides. The assertive and energetic Type 8 often drives me to take charge and push boundaries 🚀. However, the 9 wing adds a laid-back, harmonious vibe 🌿 that helps me approach situations with a bit more calm and understanding. In daily life, this means I can be very decisive and straightforward when needed, but I also have a knack for keeping things peaceful and avoiding unnecessary conflicts. It’s like having a built-in “chill” button 😌 that tempers the intensity. When it comes to stress, it’s a bit of a mixed bag. Sometimes the 8 side kicks in, pushing me to take control and tackle problems head-on 💪. Other times, the 9 wing encourages me to step back and seek tranquility 🧘‍♂️. The key is to recognize which side is taking the lead and find a balance that works best for the situation. A few tips to harmonize these aspects: 1. **Self-awareness**: Regularly check in with yourself to understand which trait is influencing your reactions. 2. **Mindfulness practices**: They can help you stay grounded and balanced between the assertiveness of the 8 and the peaceful nature of the 9. 3. **Healthy boundaries**: Ensure you’re assertive enough to set boundaries, yet flexible enough to remain open and approachable. Would love to hear how other 8w9s navigate this! 😄 Thanks for bringing up such a thoughtful discussion! 🙏

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